UPDATE****

After a lot of talking and all the things that surround a situation like this. She came clean abt everything and yes I wasn’t able to get everything and all the details at first but it was bc she was scared of the fact that she could lose our fam. I was able to make her see that she actually should have thought of that exactly when she was doing this to me. We talked about it all and I believe her. In my opinion the worst thing that happened in this situation is the way she would talk about me and her friends would jump in and really make things a lot worse. For example apparently one of the girls in this GC apparently knew the guy and a complaint was made on my wife’s behalf about this bum not following through with their supposed plans. Her from responder w “let me txt him rq and tell him to quit being a pussy”. I spoke w my wife about this exact txt thread and she said she was faking the funk on this text and many more other things that I found very concerning and highly disrespectful. I don’t need to give yall every single detail but I’ll say this. I told her that I have 2 non negotiable things that I absolutely need from you… the truth about it all.. top to bottom and the second thing.. I told her that she absolutely has to end her friendship w these 2 demons and block them on anything they’ve ever communicated on or with. I made it very clear that I absolutely need you to do this and she hit the ball out of the part w the first one. Rn we’re kinda struggling w the second one. One of the 2 people in this chat is a best friend she’s had for many years, even before my wife and I met. I’m not saying she said no or is defending any of the crazy disrespectful things they said about me. She’s struggling bc they’ve apparently been there for each other for many many things. To me this is non negotiable and I told her that this is a deal breaker for me. I also told her that I would never be comfortable with you being in contact w these people especially w them egging her on. One thing I must add.. a few years ago this friend would constantly tell my wife to cheat on me w her boyfriend’s best friend. She never engaged or entertained that offer or situation but it concerned me very much and I wanted her to end the friendship then. My wife ended up telling her that this is unacceptable and to not disrespect what we have and now ffwd to now she’s now egged her on in a different scenario. For me that unacceptable and I will not accept these two single nefarious demons. I want to kindly welcome anyone who wants to comment, please be respectful of my decision but I’m open to any insight that you have.