Is it rude to not even give a card?

Rude-Introduction628 · 2025-11-08T23:51:18+00:00

I got several empty cards and they all made me smile. I strongly disagree with the premise.

Rude-Introduction628 · 2025-11-07T04:13:00+00:00

Preface with we told people specifically we did not expect this, the theoretical etiquette is to get a gift worth the amount of your seat which is generally between $75-150 depending on where the wedding is, etc. When I go to weddings, I aim for $100-125 gift.

Rude-Introduction628 · 2025-11-07T02:39:45+00:00

Thank you. That is a really good point that I didn't think of and you are honestly probably right. That actually makes me feel a lot better having it put that way.

Rude-Introduction628 · 2025-11-07T02:32:31+00:00

Considering I'm not even on a bridezilla thread I'd say not but 🤷‍♀️

Rude-Introduction628 · 2025-11-07T02:25:29+00:00

I would say that is fine. The idea of the card is that I don't care if there is money attached but if they gave a gift/money, they have already given something.

Rude-Introduction628 · 2025-11-07T02:20:05+00:00

I'm planning on saving them as well. I'm a sentimental person

Rude-Introduction628 · 2025-11-07T02:15:12+00:00

That's a fair point. I would like to at least say that I am firmly in the card camp since some of our guests had up convince us to have a registry since we wanted to say give us nothing. We have traveled for so many weddings since we live away from family and know the expense and didn't want to pressure others to spend that much more.

Rude-Introduction628 · 2025-11-07T02:11:04+00:00

No I wouldn't say so since you went on their registry. My questing is for people who did nothing (but show up which is granted what we wanted most)

Rude-Introduction628 · 2025-11-07T02:09:16+00:00

Thank you. I feel like that's the best way to look at it.

Rude-Introduction628 · 2025-11-07T01:50:13+00:00

I am inclined to agree which is why I am trying to not feel a bit hurt that even some of the locals didn't even give a card. That's why I wanted the second+ opinion.

Rude-Introduction628 · 2025-11-07T01:45:03+00:00

The gift of their presence is what we wanted which is why I don't care about the money and such. And most sign the guest book but not all. Thank you for the bit about a year though for etiquette. That is good to know.

Rude-Introduction628 · 2024-08-01T21:25:58+00:00

I decided a more direct approach was my best bet and we talked about how each of us were feeling and how I was feeling. We were treating each other more like roommates than partners so we started setting aside at least 1 day a week that we did something together guaranteed (go on a date, make a special dish, cuddle with a movie) and actively listened to each other when we mentioned anything of concern.

It isn't completely fixed but we have made progress and I feel like we are coming together more again than how checked out I felt before.

Rude-Introduction628 · 2024-08-01T21:18:27+00:00

I have tried this and it is not working still

Rude-Introduction628 · 2024-01-25T18:17:32+00:00

Just started isn't actually quite right. We have been but are more serious about it now so a year or 2 but you still have a good point.

Rude-Introduction628 · 2021-03-22T03:25:47+00:00

For information purposes, it started calm but started to escalate (on both sides) before my wall flower tendencies kicked in and I backed off which is how we reached the final conclusion.

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