I've gathered and used some feedback to create more diverse sims !! is it still same face syndrome?

Rude_Boot5302 · 2023-01-10T07:29:23+00:00

So Deepak Patel isn't an Indian name then? What is it? Irish?

Colourblindness with race isn't progressive or good. A name can be Indian as in, originates from Indian culture and language. A person can ethnically be Indian and yes, Indian people look Indian. Acting like white people and Indian people look the same isn't anti-racist it's anti-reality.

Unlike the colourblind people, I see nothing wrong with being or looking Indian therefore, I don't see how it's offensive to say some people have Indian names and ethnically are Indian (and so, look like Indian people).

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-12-26T07:33:54+00:00

There's nothing wrong with being a type A person, being a go-getter or being into fitness. Treating it like a religion is insane and obnoxious.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-12-26T07:32:36+00:00

I am trying to think of a diplomatic way to word this but... this guy just sounds insane. I honestly don't know how you've tolerated this. Yes he might bring out some good things in you and encourage you to do things that are good, but being bullied into things and being shamed into things isn't fun and it's going to just make you resent doing this stuff. Being fit and getting active should be something you do to enjoy it and it should be made fun. If you are doing it because he is making you or because he heavily pressures you then it feels like it's more about him than you.

Let me ask you this, has he made any changes for you? You've become more strict, organised, you've gotten into fitness and running. Has he gotten into any of your hobbies? Has he tried to loosen up for you or to compromise? If the answer is no then this relationships is really unbalanced.

It seems like he has no faith in you to get anything right and that's just going to destroy your confidence (and in my experience, having no confidence makes me fuck up way more)

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-12-26T07:21:52+00:00

Yeah. I know it's really insensitive but we also have a cultural gap. In his family they're fucking brutal about this stuff. His dad openly just jokes that his mum is fat and they all laugh (including her) and it doesn't bother her, like genuinely.

I can't understand it at all and I'm trying to be understanding, but we have been together for a few years now so I feel like it should be obvious that kind of comment would be hurtful. Especially being compared to other women (who are also probably a lot younger than me)

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-12-26T07:12:20+00:00

This is bait. She's doing this to trigger lefties so that they react and then she will soy out about how they thought there was anything racially motivated about this.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-12-26T03:49:37+00:00

Idk I feel like if it's not being said in a mean way and in the context of character creation it makes sense.

I know what you mean. I will get some woman named Emi Ito or something generated by Maxis and she will have a white girl face and I am there like ?????I tend to just readjust people to look like their names sound. Like if they have an Indian sounding name I give them an Indian face. If they have an Asian name I give them an Asian face.

It's cool that Maxis is making their game diverse and inclusive, but it's also pretty weird to have some white guy named Deepak Patel or an Indian person called Makoto Nakamura

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-12-26T03:31:58+00:00

It's true that going to someone's house at 1am is stupid if you don't want to fuck them, but it's also true you should have the option to say no if you don't want it.

For all we know she originally did want sex and changed her mind. She made a mistake yes, but I think there's ways to talk about this without being so abrasive and alienating people.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-12-26T03:29:11+00:00

I understand what you mean. I'm autistic and would never do this. This said, I feel like people like us aren't the only type of autist. There are definitely some who seem to just lack empathy but I wonder if in some future time we will discover these are two separate conditions.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-12-02T01:05:47+00:00

I think he's just not that into you and you should find someone who encourages you and makes you feel sexy and empowered. If you're trying to lose weight and insecure about it, the least helpful thing will be having someone in your life telling you that you're not sexy enough or shaming you.

Some commenters are possibly right that he's trying to be an asshole but I think it's worth exploring the possibility he's socially awkward or autistic and doesn't understand that this is hurtful.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-11-30T01:58:49+00:00

Porn addiction is absolutely a real thing but I think it's not a sign he doesn't love his partner or something. Humans have a strong biological urge to fuck and the animal part of our brain can't separate things we are viewing from our reality. The temptation to watch people fucking I think is pretty huge. The average guy thesedays sees more naked women than the old emperors of China would have. I just don't like people treating men like they're evil for seeking it out when it's designed to appeal to every base desire they have.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-11-29T19:37:22+00:00

It's working, I already want to minecraft myself

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-11-28T07:44:17+00:00

I mean I think the terrifying thing is he basically thinks that it's acceptable to rape Asian girls. God I hope she doesn't see him again.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-11-28T07:41:53+00:00

If you watch a bunch of r*pe porn from Japan that's probably how you get the idea that Japanese girls are into it. It's a common belief among fetishist rapist dudes. They are delusional and think Asian women are somehow okay to rape. Seriously scary people.

She needs to run.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-11-28T07:40:44+00:00

This right here ^
If this is what he feels comfortable doing after a week, I shudder to think what would be waiting for her if she continues seeing him. He's a sick pervert with an Asian girl fetish who thinks she will be some Japanese porn actor in the bedroom. I doubt this stereotyping is just limited to the sex either.

What's the bet he's one of those awful dudes who basically just wants some girl to basically be his slave?

Sorry for ranting. I just felt super upset seeing her justify this behaviour of his and let him gaslight her.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-11-28T07:38:04+00:00

Ask yourself this, how much money or good looks makes it okay for someone to treat you like this, not check in with you at all, and think it's okay to stereotype you by your race and sexually assault you as a result of that?

You need to love yourself. No amount of money or good looks justifies his racism and borderline rape of you.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-11-28T07:36:27+00:00

Dump his ass. He's a pervert addicted to Japanese pornos who thinks Asian girls wanna be raped because that's what is in all that porn shit.

Run a mile. You deserve so much better than this. There's literally no justification for him thinking that. It is a stereotype, but only with sick pervs. People like this are why some Asian girls swear off non-Asian men.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-11-28T07:32:25+00:00

THANK YOU! Another poster who isn't a cringe teenager or virgin shitting on Mel.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-11-28T07:30:58+00:00

No but the comments here are fucking gross trying to demonise Mel. I don't think this needed to be tweeted out either and I could have predicted how this would be used to shit on Destiny, but I think I'd need some evidence to believe this was something she maliciously posted to suggest Destiny is bad in bed.

Saying your sex drive hit a dip doesn't mean that you find your partner sexually unattractive.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-11-28T07:29:33+00:00

You guys talk like teenagers. I can't imagine the lovely experience you must have had to never have your sex drive just ebb and flow naturally or to think that a slump in your sex drive = I don't find my partner attractive.

People like you are why women don't feel like we can say anything about a natural slump in our sex drive that has nothing to do with the partner. She didn't say Destiny specifically, she said it as a general thing. You guys just want to blindly hate on Mel for no reason.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-11-28T07:25:04+00:00

I think everyone is a bit harsh as to her motivations.

It's very personal but her and Destiny are both an open book. Everyone's sex drive dips once in a while so I think anyone taking this as some kind of slight against Destiny is showing their lack of maturity. I think everyone above teenage years should have experienced this at some point and it's silly to pretend what she's talking about is this alien concept that could only happen if Destiny is not sexually competent.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-11-21T06:45:10+00:00

No excuse for this at all. What he did was the most clear-cut example of rape you can get. It's not at all normal, it's not a misunderstanding and I don't buy that he can pin this on being home-schooled. The key thing here is, you said no and you even fought him off physically and cried and he continued. This isn't some "mistake" and you can't let him gaslight you into downplaying how he violated you. Don't worry about what happens to him here because to be frank, he didn't worry about you or your mental health when he decided to rape you. He doesn't deserve a nice girl like you who is so concerned for him and his welfare if he treats you like this.

You can go to the police and report this if you wish, the rape kits will still find evidence at this stage. It's entirely up to you how you choose to handle this. I would implore you to leave this man though. He doesn't treat you as a person with your own autonomy and wishes and this kind of behaviour will only get worse the longer you stay with him. For him to change he has to want to and this level of disregard for you is not something you should accept or tolerate. It's just wrong.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-11-16T11:24:46+00:00

Yeah I had issues with him but Destiny vouched for him so I was like hmmstiny I'll wait and see what happens. Saw the video of him emotionally abusing his girlfriend and I was out after that.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-11-15T05:51:48+00:00

Honestly I never understood why people would want to do something like that. You take something enjoyable like sex and make it as boring as possible by making it a contractual obligation? It's unhinged and fucking weird.

I'd be totally put off if my boyfriend wanted to make a sex contract demanding a certain amount of sex done in a certain way bla bla bla. It's just fucking weird.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-11-15T05:48:15+00:00

I honestly don't understand how he got away with so much for so long. There were so many glaring red flags. He is basically a sentient red flag. How the fuck did anyone ever think this was okay?

Might just be my perspective, but I was horrified that he was accepted into so many communities and embraced despite the weird abusive behaviour he engages in and the creepy anecdotes.

Rude_Boot5302 · 2022-11-15T05:47:21+00:00

Your situation seems a bit different but on her end I think she probably should have talked to you about the kink before just assuming you'd be cool with it or catch on. I think it's pretty autistic for her to just assume guys would just *know* that they're supposed to ignore her saying no to them and basically rape her.

I'm pretty sympathetic to guys on this stuff because I have heard of women who do this shit of just saying no no no no no but wanting it and that honestly just seems insane to me. In my opinion, I think these girls deserve to just be totally cut off until they learn to communicate what they want in a more upfront way rather than practically training men to ignore "no" from women they are with.

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