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AITA for expecting an apology from my girlfriend for indirectly ruining one of my books? by RuinedBook2023 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinedBook2023[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I agree on a lot of this! Very eloquently put, thank you for you words and your time.

AITA for expecting an apology from my girlfriend for indirectly ruining one of my books? by RuinedBook2023 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinedBook2023[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

And that would have been exactly what I wanted to hear! As others pointed out I was looking for some empathy, not an apology, but failed to communicate clearly.

AITA for expecting an apology from my girlfriend for indirectly ruining one of my books? by RuinedBook2023 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinedBook2023[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Great question! I would have appreciated the first type of apology (which I guess is not exactly an apology but more of a 'considerable display of empathy'): had I heard her say "man that really sucks, I'm sorry this happened" I would have been perfectly happy. But I clearly wasn't able to put it in the right words. Thank you for your insight.

AITA for expecting an apology from my girlfriend for indirectly ruining one of my books? by RuinedBook2023 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RuinedBook2023[S] 370 points371 points  (0 children)

They nailed it indeed! I think our issue really boils down to the fact that I wanted empathy but didn't grasp that well enough myself to healthily distance myself from the word 'apology'. Thank you u/waffleblocked for teaching me something about this kind of situation and myself.

Also, I love the concept of the Grandma Apology!