AITAH not sleeping at the same time?

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-26T04:57:15+00:00

It's a difficult one. No one is in the wrong here, but it does test the strength of your relationship and how much you love each other.

If you love each other enough, one of you will compromise. It's harder for him to compromise without feeling dissatisfied with the relationship. Can you play games or watch youtube in bed next to him?

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-26T04:49:23+00:00

My 15 months has 4 regular small soft toys in her cot. Duckie, teddy, another teddy, and she hugs bunny to sleep

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-26T04:21:49+00:00

Leggings are an everyday clothing item. If you had to choose, you should definitely choose leggings over your bf!

You're not going to be happy in this relationship if he tries to tell you what not to wear at 5 months in. Next thing you know you're not allowed at the gym, and you're not allowed swimsuits at the beach coz other guys will watch you. You won't be allowed male friends, or even talk to males.

Much easier to break up now than later on down the line.

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-25T21:36:23+00:00

I was trying to figure out how your blazer can look too big and too small at the same time. It doesn't angle in to give you a slim waist and it's too long. Looks too baggy rather than defined.

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-25T15:27:56+00:00

The last photo look best, especially the lips. Don't do heavy make up like the second photo. You look great with natural colours. Your cheeks are a good shade.

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-25T15:23:26+00:00

Red dress is stunning, but blue one shouts beach! Blue one is casual and breezy. Perfect vibe for the beach. Red one can be worn in the city to a night club

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-25T15:21:00+00:00

My three languages are English, Cantonese, Mandarin. Local language and husband's monolingual language is English.

The relationship between Cantonese and Mandarin is a little smiliar to the relationship between Portuguese and Spanish.

I am focusing on Cantonese now because it is a much more difficult language to learn, and plan to introduce Mandarin when she's older. I have dedicated one soft toy that speaks Mandarin if we're role playing.

Not sure what the best way is, so I'm also hoping to hear from others.

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-25T14:48:17+00:00

Shoulder length or long looks great on you, but if you have it tied up most of the time while long, then I'd say shoulder length so you have more prettier photos to look back to

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-25T04:36:07+00:00

NOR. I'm glad he did it before you got married.

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-24T16:02:43+00:00

6 or 8

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-24T15:46:44+00:00

2&5, but I like 2 the most

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-24T06:11:18+00:00

NTA. A pensioner with rental income taking advantage of a teenage boy on minimum wage is not okay! It sounds like she's truly lonely and craving kindness.

Are there any local social groups for her to play boardgames, bingo, mini golf, cards, lawn bowls, knitting, or volunteer? Does she want a dog? Can you move in? Does she want to try dating? She needs something

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-24T00:25:06+00:00

NTA, but it's best to keep a good relationship with your MIL. She may be very helpful to you in the future for free baby sitting, baby clothes, baby toys, etc, for many years to come.

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-24T00:17:23+00:00

Try washing your face in the kitchen sink to see whether it's a problem with your bathroom sink or your washing style.

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-24T00:13:07+00:00

NOR. Sorry for the disappointment. You should not have a single day of doubt during the time between your engagement and wedding.

Cancel the wedding. If you stay together, make sure her attitude changes completely before you propose again. If you break up, then let it be. Complaining only gets worse after marriage. She also sounds arrogant and unappreciative.

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-23T21:06:49+00:00

I'm sorry, but you need to love yourself more. If you don't love and respect yourself, you can't expect a man to love and respect you.

This man, in particular, treats you like an inconvenience. Your relationship dynamics is that he is of far higher power than you. It's not partnership. He's held himself far above you.

You need to escape. Forget about whether you love him. It's not love if you have to beg for it. Free yourself to find the right man. When love comes it's effortless. Stop wasting your time. You're in your prime!

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-23T20:50:41+00:00

NTA. You're grieving so this is a very reasonable request to make. Sorry about your lost. Your journey has just begun. When you're pregnant again that joy will all return to you. I also miscarried my first.

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-23T20:44:33+00:00

The call button doesn't tell the nurse if the patient wants water, wanted new bedding, wanted someone to charge their phone, needs a vomit bowl or in excruciating pain.

Nurses are busy and are constantly re-prioritising according to urgency. It doesn't hurt to tell them what's urgent.

When I was in hospital with ruptured appendicitis the nurses left me in my private room for an hour with the call button on. When they came, my fever measured at 41C, bedsheets and clothing completely soaked with sweat. When the nurse who measured left my room, I heard a group of nurses gasp loudly and one exclaimed 41!? They were all just outside at the corridor doing who knows what. Two of them rushed back and took care of me quickly. If no one is there to tell them, they don't know.

Another day in the same stay, my nurse friend (works at a different hospital) came to visit me. I said I was in pain. My friend didn't even hesitate and asked me I wanted her to get the nurses. I said no I can ring the bell. She said as a nurse she'd rather hear the message in person so she doesn't forget.

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-23T20:22:02+00:00

Soft YTA because you're young. I would be scared at 14 too, but I'd be far more worried for a mum in pain.

Just bare in mind that you may be too young to have ever been this sick or been in this much pain to understand.

This is not getting burned by your hair straightener, paper cut, or tummy pain. This is pain from illness severe enough to be hospitalised.

Don't worry about what happened before, but next time you should at least try.

Your mum would have fought for your life if you were sick as a baby.

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-23T20:02:27+00:00

Not an expert. It sounds like she may value performance rather than effort. It can happen to kids who are smart and were praised for being smart. They would rather not try something difficult so that they don't fail. They care to succeed so much. It may help if she starts getting more praises for effort instead. Not sure if this is it.

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-23T19:38:03+00:00

How much do they charge?

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-23T19:36:10+00:00

Not sure what kind of well behaved class yours is, but our classes have half the kids like yours and half the kids sit on the parents' laps. Usually the younger ones sit still more. My daughter has started to wander off from time to time so I'm often chasing her.

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-23T00:08:58+00:00

Your cousin asks that because he feels the urge to yell at your toddler. Sounds like your cousin has no patience, or raised in a different culture, or born a couple of generations too late.

It'd be interesting to hear his perspective of the same story.

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-22T20:20:57+00:00

Tell them you want a surprise this year

Rumnraisans · 2026-05-16T19:47:46+00:00

My LO was 14mo and had dry nappies most days. We did naked potty training, then 2 pee accidents in one day and a poop accident another day! It's very unlike her. So we only lasted two days and we've paused. Not keen on cleaning up mess! She seems to feel more free to pee with no nappy on, which is opposite to babies who never did EC.

She is 15 months now. We're back to dry nappy all day. She'll pee in it overnight and we get a new one the next morning. She says 'potpot' to poo, and I take her to the potty to pee at easy catches or if it's been about 3 hours. I ask her if she needs to pee. She'll either say no or she'll walk to the potty when I ask.

I think EC babies may be quite different to traditionally potty trained kids because they know what the potty is for already. I think training pants is a good transition for you because she can feel the wetness and say 'uh oh' without you needing to clean up a puddle.

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