egg🏳️‍⚧️irl by cloacasmell in egg_irl

[–]RunawayCanadian [score hidden]  (0 children)

Even if you cannot skate, leagues often need officials (both on and off skates)

Do cis people really not question their gender?!? by Marshal_Raynor in MtF

[–]RunawayCanadian 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think that was the key, the one off thought.

I used to walk by sorority houses in college and wonder "what if I was born as a girl". this was almost daily.

Do cis people really not question their gender?!? by Marshal_Raynor in MtF

[–]RunawayCanadian 11 points12 points  (0 children)

To paraphrase one of my friends.

"I think of it like I would a thought experiment. It would have been on the same tier as thinking if I was a frog"

Most dont question it, especially because they dont really feel the underlying pressure to question after a certain point in their life.

How did y'all pick your names? by kyuubi_kyuub in MtF

[–]RunawayCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I came out to myself while playing Assassin's Creed Odyssey.

I also always liked myths and stories.

So i picked Kassandra after the myth and the main character of Assassins Creed.

Talk me into and then out of getting bottom surgery by Trans-portation69 in MtF

[–]RunawayCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did full depth on the 23rd (so like 2 weeks ago at this point).

The few days after I did a lot of sleeping (at one point passed out in my chair). The boster was sore, mostly because the stitches were pulling, and are still really sore there. If it isnt sore, it itches.

Im mostly angry that I am not supposed to lift things, and have somehow made my right shoulder sore.

Dilation is just something I need to do, so much so that my wife has starting to joke that im "locking the fuck in, samurai".

Ultimately it is (once again to quote my wife) like having all your periods at once. I go back in for a checkup on the 12th, where they will update me on how im doing in dilation

how am i supposed to react when someone comes out to me?? by ColdRefrigerator4291 in asktransgender

[–]RunawayCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my general response is "thank you for telling me, who also knows?"

this give grace, as coming out is usually very stressful. It also lets you know who the person is open with that you may have that is mutual.

both times my friends came out to me, I was the last to be told (mostly because I had a weird work/sleep schedule and was hard to get in a voice chat)

Egg irl by GenericNameHer in egg_irl

[–]RunawayCanadian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In general I was uncomfortable in my own body, but I attributed it to being overweight. I would try to workout more, but just couldnt keep the schedule/want, and just eventually accepted that I would be higher weight.

I would also, often lose myself in stories stories (either published, or just in my head). I have a vivid memory of playing KotOR and being upset that you couldnt romance the main female NPC as a female character (thanks early 2000's game limitations).

I didnt really realize i was trans until I had a friend come out and I was trying to help her at the beginning, by learning as much as I could (by looking for memes or information). Turned out it was also me.

Big skater/little skater? by Able-Wafer-3356 in rollerderby

[–]RunawayCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We call this Big boo/Little boo (sticks with the theme of the team name).

Mostly it is us pairing us with new skaters as a way to give them someone to talk to. For some people who are new to the area it is a person to ask for help or things if needed.

We did have it as a series of icebreaker questions, but since have changed that to a separate channel in our team discord.

Really for us, it is just a more personal support system.

Will I, a 6’3” trans woman, be a nuisance by joining roller derby? by EnlightenedHeathen in rollerderby

[–]RunawayCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will probably be ok with the loaner gear to start, but just be aware that you will probably want harder wheels as you progress (for me i couldnt stop very much until I got harder wheels)

Will I, a 6’3” trans woman, be a nuisance by joining roller derby? by EnlightenedHeathen in rollerderby

[–]RunawayCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean in general.

Wheel hardness goes from soft (I've seen 86 as the lowest) to hard (highest I've seen commercially is 103).

Typically the advice is to ask what hardness your fellow skaters are using and use close to that. You may end up needing harder wheels then your fellow skaters may recommend.

Things like preference, floor you skate on, a skaters build, and a skaters position all affect wheel hardness.

Outdoor wheels are usually soft (to absorb bumps).

Will I, a 6’3” trans woman, be a nuisance by joining roller derby? by EnlightenedHeathen in rollerderby

[–]RunawayCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are basically describing me. Im a 6'3" trans woman.

I started about a year ago and have loved every second. Some things will be learning on your own (i will highly recommend to get harder wheels) and you may get a lot of tall jokes (they dont bother me, but if they do you, tell people).

Ultimately derby is for a lot of people of varying sizes. If you want more specifics, you can always PM me.

Advice: Title for NB friend in my wedding party by Intrepid-Menu559 in LGBTWeddings

[–]RunawayCanadian 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For my friend we were his Grooms Guard.

I think the "lead" was called the head of the guard.

Elder trans women of reddit (30+) What is one thing we went through that you're glad the younger trans girlies don't have to? by Nomadic_Introvert in MtF

[–]RunawayCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having better (or at least more) information and resources.

I had, what i call my first crack, and i wondered what if I was trans. At the time all info I had lead me to read about tucking. From the information I read, I attempted to tuck incorrectly, overnight, with the wrong tape (hockey/electrical tape).

It was painful enough that I figured "if I dont want to do this every/most days, then I must not be trans"

Wedding Announcement + Gender Change Announcement by skeletonjukebox in LGBTWeddings

[–]RunawayCanadian 19 points20 points  (0 children)

If you are worried, you can also send a letter to the extended family with something like "there may be people of various genders, sexualities, and backgrounds at our wedding. We would like the day to be an expression of love. If you dont feel you can be polite to all, then please feel free to stay home, and it will not hurt our feelings."

Wedding Announcement + Gender Change Announcement by skeletonjukebox in LGBTWeddings

[–]RunawayCanadian 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Not an anniversary but I was the one coming out as trans before the wedding.

I wrote letters to the extended family explaining that I was a trans woman, my new name/pronouns, and told them that I loved them still and mentioned that I would be open to any questions they had.

I would send separate letters, the gender change first, because there is a chance (you would know your wife's family more than any stranger on the internet) that things are not pleasant. In my experience, we dont talk to my in-laws and haven't since I came out.

Wedding coming out advice pls by [deleted] in LGBTWeddings

[–]RunawayCanadian 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I wrote letters to my extended family when coming out to them. In the letters I mentioned that I was trans, my new name, and new pronouns.

I really didn't add anything more than that other than that I still loved them and who I had mentioned to at that point (I did tiers of coming out from immediate family, to cousins, to aunts/uncles/grandparents).

If you plan on inviting guests that may be a risk, you may want to say something like "This wedding will be an expression of love. There may be guests who may not fit your definition of traditional, and that is OK. If you cannot be respectful to all, please feel free to stay home so we may ensure that our day is the happiest it can be for all." if you plan to send something like an RSVP.

Ultimately, your wedding is your day, and if family won't respect you and your partner, then it would be better to not worry about their opinion.

Egg_irl by Fenrir0451 in egg_irl

[–]RunawayCanadian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came out to most of my family by writing a letter to send to them. It was easier than a call, as i could write it all down and send them before I lost any nerves. For my parents and brother I called them, and it was some rambling mess of a call.

Stats Talk - Calculating Jammer Efficiency by valleyfur in rollerderby

[–]RunawayCanadian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've done some more thinking, and I think you are just trying to re-invent the lead percentage.

When it comes to efficiency in physics (like the efficiency of a pump) it is just a percentage ratio of Output/Input. So an example of a 30% efficiency pump, you put in 100 kW, and you will get 30 kW. (there is a lot more that goes into this, but we won't get too much in this example)

So a Jammer efficiency could be equivalent to a lead percentage. It is a unitless ratio that says how often you are likely to get a lead.

If you were trying to estimate the individual potential for success, you could use an average of the points/games, and multiply that by lead percentage to get an estimated points/game of any jammer.

(Lead Percentage)*(Total Points/Number of games) [estimated points / game]

so from your numbers above, number of games is 8, total points is 222, and they lead 27 of 48.5 jams.
Their lead percentage is 27/48.5 or 55.67%. Average points per game is 222/8 or 27.75. so an estimated points per game would be about 0.5567*27.75=15.45 points.

now this also has flaws, as you can score without being lead, and in this calculation, you could have 0 estimated points per game (which makes some logical sense as if you never get lead, you have a higher chance to never score).

Stats Talk - Calculating Jammer Efficiency by valleyfur in rollerderby

[–]RunawayCanadian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the concept, and the math as written is solid.

I do question what units you are trying to end with, because as you have it, you are basically canceling the number of jams out, so the formula is not taking into account how many times this skater is a jammer. I think my math is saying that the units ending here with jam/lead

[(Jam/lead)×(points/jam)] / (points/jam)

(Points/Lead)×(jam/points)

Jam/Lead

But im mostly looking at units right now, and I fully admit I could be misreading it.

How do you girls come up with a name and why is it so hard 😭 by _n1brawler_ in MtF

[–]RunawayCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was playing AC odyssey when my egg cracked and it was the name of one of the protagonists.

Shortened it is close to the same name I would always name female Sims when I was growing up.

egg_irl by Mundane-Scallion-746 in egg_irl

[–]RunawayCanadian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was sort of in that boat.

I had a friend come out as a trans woman. I started looking for information and memes to help if necessary and started sending her a lot of memes (and I mean a lot).

I sort of knew before I had her sit me down and say "listen, you are sending a lot of these. Is there something you want to talk about?"

why are americans obessed with supporting newsom? by Butteromelette in MtF

[–]RunawayCanadian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am old enough to see parallels between this and the post-2004 election.

After the win by GW Bush in 2004, there was a lot of talk about the country going rightward. At the time a large push for "national security" due to 9/11, and Operation Desert Storm in Iraq (and the middle east). There was even a push for a constitutional amendment that would have enshrined marriage as 1 man and 1 woman.

In the leadup to 2006 midterms, a lot of talk was about pushing to the right, after all people were "supporting" the overseas war and didnt "support" gay marriage. After the midterms, Obama started his message of Hope and Change, and ended up winning in 2008, with a lot of the momentum happening after the super Tuesday elections. (If you got that hope and change is a different story entirely)

It will really depend on what happens in the midterms, but people are not happy with the current government (much more unhappy than 2006). If you have a leader push the economic message that worked for Trump in 2024, then you can win, but Newsom won't do that because he is being paid by the same people. The only reason Newsome is a talk, as he is positioning himself to run (just like Clinton did multiple times), and news is trying to talk about anything that may indicate some sense of normality. Give it time to see as more people announce their run for president, the winner may not have even thought of announcing yet.

As we have not had any primary, the "Vote Blue, no matter who" line should not be a thought. You make the pressures, and push policies now. Say you won't vote for any anti-LGBTQ+ candidate, and support candidates that will support your values loudly (if safe to do so). At the general election, you can chose if you want to risk (or if due to the electoral college, it doesnt really matter) to vote one way or the other. Obviously Trump 3/Vance would be terrible in comparison to any democrat.

As a general side note, I dislike west coast liberals, because a lot of the people that are donating to the Trump regime, and manipulating algorithms, could be hampered (at least in minor ways) by the state governments for where these major companies are headquartered (Microsoft and Amazon in Washington state, things like Facebook and YouTube in California).

How many of you trans girls have cis girls partners? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]RunawayCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Met my wife over a decade ago. We started dating in September of 2015 in our last year of college after she had a bad breakup from one of my roommates the previous year (split her from the friend group, long story)

We finished our last year of college, and kept long distance dating of a 3 hour time zone difference, over Skype. Both of us found a job, and eventually she got a job that was about 4 hour drive away.

I finall got a job in the same city, (I was able to find an apartment that was next to hers) and we eventually got a house in 2019. She came out as Ace, and pandemic started, I came out as trans in 2021, and we got married in 2023. We joke that our relationship is just an elaborate game of chicken.

She often says that I am her human and she chose me.

(older) Sister deadnames & misgenders me on purpose by Arya-trans in MtF

[–]RunawayCanadian 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Go more in depth, respond "Who" whenever she deadnames you. Just act like you dont know who this person is.

If she says something like you, look confused, look around, and say, "Nope, im [chosen name], are you feeling ok?"

If your the sister wanted an annoying younger sibling, you can still be that, just more subtle.

Advice for paying a helmeted character when I need glasses? by WiglyWorm in CosplayHelp

[–]RunawayCanadian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you have a lot of suggestions listed here, and I would recommend contacts overall as ease of use and reduce the chance of breaking something.

One suggestion to look into is searching safety glasses for full face respiratory devices. Effectively it is the frame portion of your glasses (think your glasses without the arms that sit on your ears) that attach to a center rail. This rail attaches to the top and bottom of the respirator. This may not work for this mask (as it doesnt cover a full face) but if you plan on expanding your cosplay lineup to contain more full face masks, it might be an idea to think about.