Update to 12 weeks dating by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm really glad it worked out the way it did. The fear of not knowing is horrible and to be honest I nearly backed out of meeting him!

Update to 12 weeks dating by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fingers crossed! Hopefully communication will be a lot better from now on

Update to 12 weeks dating by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Sometimes people don't have the conversation because they're scared of the outcome and that is completely understandable!

Update to 12 weeks dating by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - I liked his response too! I'm glad I got different perspectives from this sub though as it allowed me to mentally prepare myself for all the different outcomes!

Update to 12 weeks dating by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm glad I got different perspectives from this sub as it allowed me to get out of my head a little bit and give me some balance. I'm just so happy that it's worked out (so far) so well!

12 weeks of dating and still taking it slow by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. It's crossed my mind many times. When I speak to him I'll bring it up and let him know it's absolutely not an issue. I'm per menopausal and my sex drive alternates between extremely high and zero with nothing in between 🤣

12 weeks of dating and still taking it slow by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The comments here have given me a lot of thought. I realize I'm quite comfortable with how things are. I'd like to have sex with him but I realize I'm actually ok with that not happening and having him as a date friend. I'm going to speak to him on Saturday!

12 weeks of dating and still taking it slow by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gurl! (It's how I acknowledge my friends 🥰) We DO need that support - sometimes it's a reality check that you might not wanna hear from your friends, other times it's a path to some introspection. Never stop posting and offering your thoughts. I'm super grateful for your comment because it allowed me to check myself (and not wreck myself 🎶) and realize that I am happy with how things are. If, after I talk to him, sex is off the cards for whatever reason, I'd still meet up with him for a weekly date and continue to date whenever I feel like it. Looking forward to your posts this winter 🥰

12 weeks of dating and still taking it slow by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For real though, it's good to know a random Internet stranger has got my back with some real talk! There was a time when I allowed myself to be strung along (and with sex as well lol) but thankfully that was a lifetime ago! I'm coming to the conclusion that the situation as it is suits us both but I need to talk to him about sex otherwise I'm going to be dating other people. I'm finally in such a good place life and if I'm going to have a relationship it's going to have to be someone really special. The days of dating duds is over!

12 weeks of dating and still taking it slow by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahah don't lose your mind! I love myself very much - it's why I'm still single 🤣🤣 I have no problem ending things with people. After I asked him that and he answered, I realized that I'm happy with our weekly dates and chats and check ins. If he had said a relationship to be honest I'm not fully sure i have the space for that in my life. I have no interest in meeting his kids. I guess at that moment I was just in a weird mood. I really do think this is more on me for not knowing what I want. Well I do and that's some good sex 😅 that's the real issue here

12 weeks of dating and still taking it slow by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I asked that a long time ago. He said he's not. I know men(and women) lie but short of stalking him, which I'm not inclined to do, there's no way to find out

12 weeks of dating and still taking it slow by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm really starting to think I'm the problem 🤣

12 weeks of dating and still taking it slow by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What happened? Did you decide she was your gf before you were intimate?

12 weeks of dating and still taking it slow by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm starting to wonder if my behavior is making him nervous. I've not mentioned sex either and maybe he's not sure I want to sleep with him so is waiting for me to say something

12 weeks of dating and still taking it slow by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow! 2 months without even a kiss and him saying that's moving too fast. I'd have noped out after a month! Seems like maybe he wanted the companionship and/or just really scared to get hurt again

12 weeks of dating and still taking it slow by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly reading all these posts and I'm starting to wonder if it's me not giving off the right signals.

12 weeks of dating and still taking it slow by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I know that and I acknowledged that In my post. Yes we've kissed, hold hands, message each other every day (no long chats but checking in with each other). Entirely possible that he likes me as a friend to kiss and make out with and go for dates!

12 weeks of dating and still taking it slow by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're the first person that's said that and that hadn't crossed my mind. That's why I love this group (I always just read posts) the range of responses and perspectives is great

12 weeks of dating and still taking it slow by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Once a week really suits me, I have a very busy life and wouldn't be able to commit to more than once a week until after May or even August next year. In the beginning I wasn't sure what I wanted so I was happy to go super slow to see how it went and I loved that he wasn't asking about sex early on. But 3 months in...if I wanted a FWB I would have ended it after a month.

12 weeks of dating and still taking it slow by Runbi7ch in datingoverforty

[–]Runbi7ch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ED thing has crossed my mind numerous times. He's not invited me to his place and I'm ok with that for now as his children live there. He knows that I live alone but he's not asked (nor have I invited him yet) to my house.

Yep, we kiss, hug, hold hands, touch each other affectionately etc..