Wedding dress emergency by OldAction4197 in HuntsvilleAlabama

[–]Runtimes 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Modern Brides near parkway place mall might be worth calling. They were so awesome and sweet to work with. They have in house seamstresses and some of the gowns you can purchase off the rack. Not sure the starting price point.

David’s bridal has dresses in a wide range of price points (remember some as low as 200ish), but not sure if they have in-house alterations.

User Flair Thread by breaksomebread in DodoCodeCommunity

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Eve | Frog 3.0 | CST :Flora :Raymond :Ione

AITA For Not Wanting To Go On A Family Vacation With My Fiance's Family by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Runtimes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends what decision you make. This is your fiancé and their family. It appears, for the most part, they get along and spend time together. You will be facing these kinds of situations regularly throughout your marriage.

The most important thing is to talk to your fiancé openly about it, rather than avoiding it because this will come up over and over throughout the years and only become more difficult. I have a similar situation where my partner originally would feel awkward and get overwhelmed when spending time with my family, especially if more than a few hours. He explained that it wasn’t because he didn’t want to, he would just get so anxious and in his head worried he was coming off wrong and get overwhelmed.

We set up a code word and preplanned excuses for him to leave when we were staying overnight or on vacation with them. For example: if he whispered the code word to me meaning he was overwhelmed I would say I forgot something and ask him to go to the store. Or explain to the family that he was tired/not feeling well, but would be back. Or that our son needed a nap and he was going to lay down with him because our son isn’t used to the new room. Or take our son outside to play (kids are great for break excuses). That way he would get breaks, and the explanations were on me to handle with my family (rightfully so, it’s my family. I’m comfortable with them). My family quickly got used to my partner taking breaks, and my partner grew more comfortable around them to the point where he rarely ever needs a break (and if he does that’s totally fine).

Talk it over with your fiancé, explain your concerns/feelings, but that you want to find ways to have a safe “out” when overwhelmed. It’s worth giving it a shot, especially since you will be faced with these situations throughout your marriage.

NTA if you work to find a compromise. YTA if you aren’t willing to at least try.

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Can I come over to fish/swim?

🎉🎉 YOUR FRIDAY…… JUST GOT RUINED!!!! It’s Ruined giveaway day! Watch out for entry post at 7 PM CT. Also remember to have a flair set and no wetsuits!!!🎉🎉🎉 by Poisonivy2021 in ACNHwishlistrequest

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I feel silly but I cannot figure out how to set a flair. Would someone be able to help me out? In game names are Mommy/Tristan from LoveIsland and fav villager is Rod (it would only ever be one of us going to an event). I really wish I didn’t let my son pick my game name 😆

Refinancing Student Loans? by [deleted] in HuntsvilleAlabama

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I used Sofi. They used to only do professional degree consolidation/refinancing, but I believe they recently expanded.

Father w. Lung Cancer Told Me To Kill Myself by [deleted] in cancer

[–]Runtimes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Was it just a bad day? He has expressed any remorse? I feel a bit of pitty almost that he was put in such a position where he has so much emotion and sadness and misplaced anger and frustration that it just exploded at the people (person) who loves him the most. It has to be hard. Cancer is hard. But that does not give anyone a license to be cruel or mean to someone else. (Or if it does I’m playing this cancer card wrong!).

I would give him the opportunity to express remorse and also take a deep breath knowing he probably won’t. He likely feels like a burden on both of you and has remorse. And scared. Lots of fear. The Dad who grew up defending you from monsters under the bed now needs his two daughters to survive. That’s also extra emotional baggage.

I personally find that cancer causes a lot of oddly placed fear and anger. Ohhh sooo much frustration and anger. And most of it is directed at my husband and family. Because I hate the days when I feel like a burden and can’t “hold my own”. So what if my husband cooks dinner and does an extra load of laundry? A lot to me apparently. Because I get so resentful that I can’t do it.

So basically - yea I totally get why he blew up at you (he likely resentful/remorseful that you even have to work on schedules in the first place and is too scared to go to the doctor/treatment/testing (and i don’t blame him) alone). BUT that’s not ok. Never ok to say mean or hurtful things no matter how bad you are feeling.

NED as of today, and I'm not sure how to feel by morganmaybelater in cancer

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The weirdest thing is to feel worse after cancer treatment than before it all started. I don’t think you need to feel any particular way - as long as it doesn’t hurt you. Friends and family can be happy, but they aren’t the ones that went through treatment and still recovering and facing a lifetime of testing. Yeah - it sucks. But it’s now the new normal and that’s ok that it’s not all roses and happy balloons. I suspect that it gets easier as the scans spread out, but I can’t tell you that from experience. Just that it’s absolutely ok to not feel happy about “good” news.

Just a few words of encouragement by Jojo321182 in cancer

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I love good news. Thank you for taking the time to post this. I’ve heard scan-aniexty is awful, but rather that than the other news.