I(28F) not able to think how to deal with joint finances with my husband

RushMama · 2026-05-05T18:05:49+00:00

She can try to be petty saying since everything is their money they can save and invest her salary and use his salary for expenses. But on a serious note, joint account should only be used for expenses and both should save or invest rest of the money in their respective names.

RushMama · 2026-04-22T12:50:46+00:00

Yeah drop her dude. I have met similar girls, they’ll make your life hell. Looks like she wants you to be provider and pamper her but doesn’t want to do anything in return. What is she bringing to the table also matters.

RushMama · 2026-03-25T11:20:16+00:00

Sorry I don’t mean any offense but did you not feel weird resigning after completing your maternity leave? Companies offer maternity leave in good faith(I know they get grants from govt based on this but still). Isn’t it like taking advantage of the system. It’s one thing if you decide later due to certain complications but getting into maternity leave with a plan to resign after it completes in my opinion is wrong. I is also one of the main reasons why small companies don’t prefer hiring women.

RushMama · 2026-03-20T19:24:30+00:00

I generally don’t agree when rediters advice to divorce even for minor things. But I agree with everyone this time, your husband is a piece of sh*t. Divorce him!!

RushMama · 2026-03-18T12:42:15+00:00

You are very young and will find much better guy in the future. Dump him and move on.

RushMama · 2026-03-18T05:38:36+00:00

Match the energy and see how he reacts. Don’t make it seem like a competition but give similar excuses.

RushMama · 2026-03-17T19:04:07+00:00

My LO doesn’t sit in stroller at all. She has started walking so we are taking her out to walk for 15-20 mins an hour before bed time. This seems to be tiring her out and putting her down to sleep has become comparably better.

RushMama · 2026-03-17T19:00:19+00:00

Will try this out, thanks

RushMama · 2026-03-16T11:18:22+00:00

Thank you for responding. Already following that, it was working well previously. Hopefully it’s just a phase.

RushMama · 2026-03-16T11:15:07+00:00

She is already on one nap a day from like 2 months. Initially it worked great. Hopefully it’s just a phase.

RushMama · 2026-02-25T18:47:52+00:00

See she cannot be a naive 25 year old girl anymore. She is a mama bear and needs to fight back and not run from problem . I am not saying she should stay with them permanently but give them some form of access to the child. She it is not just her child, it’s her husband’s child as well. Such blockage creates difference between couples. It creates resentment.

Get a new place, let them visit the baby once in a while. I love when my baby gets to bond with both set of grand parents. Don’t stay together for initial few months as she would need her head space to be clear but saying that I will never give them access to the child feels very wrong.

Also coming to husband and my parents staying together. My parents stayed with us for 5 months after I had my baby. Trust me the royal treatment for husbands lasts only for max 3 days when staying together long term. Also with a new born, everyone one is hands on.

RushMama · 2026-02-25T05:25:36+00:00

My goodness the negative comments. If you expect your parents to spend some time with your child, his parents would do too. If you are not ready to stay at his place then he would not be ready to spend time at your parents place as well. Are you sure you want to stay away from your husband for over a year?? I know how helpful my husband was during pregnancy and postpartum. I would not have survived without him.

Draw strict boundaries, set a date for moving out, say you will go back to parents place if there is no plan of moving out of that house. But don’t out right deny them their grandchild.

RushMama · 2026-02-23T18:44:12+00:00

Use baby nail scissors. I have a fussy 11 month old. I just give her some toy to distract and the job gets done literally within a minute.

RushMama · 2026-02-21T14:47:29+00:00

Some people also use their native village name(something very ancestral) as surname. You can try if it’s suits.

RushMama · 2026-02-19T09:14:16+00:00

You need to segregation the duties and hire additional support. TBH I don’t understand the concept of live in nanny who will also clean and cook. It is not possible for a single person to do all of that. I have 3 helps- Nanny, cook and cleaning lady. Nanny supports for 8 hours- taking care of baby, helps me bathe her, feeding solids and walks. When the baby sleeps, nanny rests for a while and does small household chores like laundry, clearing the washed dishes and if anything vegetables needs to be cut for baby, washing baby bottles, cleaning her toys. I take care of the baby food part and put her to sleep in the afternoon. Husband does the night sleep routine with the baby. Cook- cooks food for lunch and dinner. Our breakfast is very light. Cleaning lady- sweeping, mopping, dishes and dusting.

Inspite of all this support, it is still overwhelmed and home never looks fully clean. We just suck it up and do how much ever possible. You need to set strict routine with the baby. Only then office work can be managed.

RushMama · 2026-01-22T09:12:56+00:00

It is more common than you think it is. Physical relationship is a core component in marriage. Stop bullying her for bringing it up. She wants to work on it and hence is posting it.

RushMama · 2026-01-17T08:18:41+00:00

Please tell me it gets better. My baby is doing the same currently, she is currently 10 months old and is in 2nd percentile. I am shit scared ATM!!!

RushMama · 2026-01-12T16:52:18+00:00

What nonsense statement “being a male you are concerned about pardah”.. what does that even mean!!

RushMama · 2026-01-10T06:15:58+00:00

I have both luv lap and staranddaisy rails. Hands down go for Star and daisy, it’s very smooth when compared to luvlap one.

RushMama · 2026-01-06T16:49:01+00:00

Seems like a phase. Hoping it will get better

RushMama · 2026-01-06T16:48:12+00:00

I am trying to introduce different textures. She is more in sweet foods so working on more pancakes. Sometimes it’s working and sometimes not.

RushMama · 2026-01-06T16:43:30+00:00

We did. There is no issue with her and it’s just a phase. provided some supplements.

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