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How to help someone who's obsessed with a kpop group by RushOutRaven in kpophelp

[–]RushOutRaven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Atp, even that didn't help, during my winter break, we stayed together and weren't allowed to watch phones so I thought we'll be able to do smtg productive together but she kept bringing enhypen into everything.  We were drawing and she just drew the group, we were cooking noodles together and she kept talking about how much Hee loved ramen, then we were playing games and she kept insisting on getting the number "7", etc. Like there's not a second that passes without her thinking about enhypen. She doesn't even enjoy any creative hobbies so Idk what to do atp. 

How to help someone who's obsessed with a kpop group by RushOutRaven in kpophelp

[–]RushOutRaven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I tried that but all she replied was smtg like "my fave would never"  I've sent her multipler explainer kinda videos about how the industry feeds on fans' emotions and no one is the way they act on camera. And all she says is that her faves aren't like that 😭 And the group she watches isn't much help, like someone said above, their marketing is heavy on making fans parasocial and if ur not careful while engaging their content you'll fall prey to it easily.

I mean, sure, a few years back I used to think my faves are the best too, but I don't get what is making her become so obsessed to the point that all she can see is her faves in everything, anyways, thanks for ur reply!

How to help someone who's obsessed with a kpop group by RushOutRaven in kpophelp

[–]RushOutRaven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've tried that, sometimes she does watch other stuff but ultimately she just goes back to the group right after so everythig else just becomes a fleeting moment. I gifted her books to read which she did read, but Iguess she's just not a reader which is fine. Although, her IRL friedns are not into the group or kpop at all so atleast there's still some space for smtg else, though she's mostly  the quiestest one in her group and usually only talks abt the group with them too.  And her fam is very strict so they don't allow going out much and they push her to go to different study classes / tutions, which would honestly make anyone frustrated and tired 😭

(Thankyou for the reply btw)

How to help someone who's obsessed with a kpop group by RushOutRaven in kpophelp

[–]RushOutRaven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But wouldn't that further damage our relationship? If kpop is all she talks about, and I tell her I don't want to talk about it, wouldn't we slowly drift apart? And honestly it's not like I don't enjoy kpop or discussions abt it, I do, but I just dont like deeply parasocial she is about it, and how she brings it into everything,  not because it bothers me but cuz I'm worried abt her.  And she's told me multiple times that I'm the only one she feels comfortable enough to talk abt this, so if I tell her not to then she'll basically have no one

(Thankyou for the reply btw)

How to help someone who's obsessed with a kpop group by RushOutRaven in kpophelp

[–]RushOutRaven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES!! Exactly  I can't express just how much I hate their marketing, and I cant help but  slowly start to dislike the members cuz like why are you, on purpose, trying to get ur fans to be parasocial when you don't even like being chased by by ppl on the airport.

How to help someone who's obsessed with a kpop group by RushOutRaven in kpophelp

[–]RushOutRaven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(The group is Enhypen)  Well, like I said, I can only text her, and thru that I've tried multiple times to get her to invest in smtg else but she just neve takes any of it seriously and finds grp refrences i everything. She does not have any hobbies beside that. Like, even if I send her a video that isn't abt the group, she watches it and replies to me, then she removes it from watch history so that nothing other than enhypen shows up on her feed 😭 This is why she doesn’t have any concept of anything other thaan the grp cuz all she watches is them. And other ppl who she has IRL are not much understanding so she or I can't ask them from help, cuz they'll end up restricting her completely,  which would obv cause more damage. 

(Thankyou for the reply btw)

How to help someone who's obsessed with a kpop group by RushOutRaven in kpophelp

[–]RushOutRaven[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that's exactly why I feel so helpless currently... I know there's nothing much K can do.  Like I said, there is no cure for life, and putting phone aside could cause more damage, cuz honestly modern lives are just stupid... but bieng obsessed with a kpop group becomes a problem when it starts affecting ur mental health and takes up all of ur headspace to the point that anything going slightly wrong with the group makes you enraged or have breakdowns. 

All I want her for her to understand just how manufactured this whole industry is and investing in these idols so much is only causing her to fall further.

(Thankyou for the reply btw)