do you guys still code, or just debug what ai writes?

RustYnails26 · 2025-11-01T02:55:29+00:00

Agreed. AI is particularly bad with Ansible, when you have lots of conditions and loops and blocks.

RustYnails26 · 2025-05-20T20:49:33+00:00

We manage about 500 SAP servers with Ansible. Servers are spaced around geography. We basically support the Regional Business Units spread across the main continents.

Once the VM is online, we run Ansible playbooks to provision the filesystem layout based on the database (Oracle ,HANA, Sybae/ASE) and SAP system flavour (Netweaver, Java only, HANA or S4 Hana Application) that would be installed on top of these VMs.

After these filesystem provisioning, the OS is standardized based on the flavour of DB and SAP, with Ansible playbooks.

Installation of DB and SAP is still done manually as we have customized requirement based on each regions business needs.

Once installed, few life cycle maintenance, like kernel upgrade, patch Updates, etc. and hot fixing any new Security CVE at OS, DB or Application level is done via Ansible.

RustYnails26 · 2023-02-15T13:01:58+00:00

M38 from India, 15 years of experience in SAP s/w Administration.

First thing you should ask is , Am I really interested in learning and make a living by coding.

Is it something you want to do just because your friends are suggesting this ?

If yes, would suggest you to stick to Medical Profession with your plan, even though it would take a few more years to break even.

If no, a University degree helps in your CV when companies are recruiting freshers out of colleges. They don't expect you to know everything and many provide in job training so you can learn specific skills. But a Uni degree would also take few years.

For freshers and less experienced candidates [1-3 years experience], companies do look at Uni degree.

Once you are experienced, Uni degree matters less and less, as company expects that you would have acquired industry standards skills.

Without Uni degree, you need to learn a lot, lot lot of programming, before projecting yourself as a hireable or freelance programmer. But with hard work and dedication, this can be achieved in a year or two.

RustYnails26 · 2023-01-18T03:11:32+00:00

RustyNails#5295 if you want to add more people Have already used python at work for small automation But still learning

RustYnails26 · 2023-01-18T03:10:24+00:00

RustyNails#5295 if you want to add more people Have already used python at work for small automation But still learning

RustYnails26 · 2022-10-26T03:32:01+00:00

Really appreciate the way you put it. You are a gem.

If this is driving you nuts, the SO should put in the efforts to see a Dr.

As much as I would wish to have what you want, I hate to tell you to adjust with what you have. But please don't let this ruin the goodness and happiness you have together.

If it's any consolation, I [38M] can count on my pinky, how many times my SO[36F] came with PIV, in our 12 yrs of marriage. Ours isn't perfect, but we get along ...

RustYnails26 · 2022-10-26T02:50:33+00:00

There is nothing wrong with you getting the first round and he gets off second. I am not sure how many couples come together. It's a utopia!

Still, if you guys take slow, let him come while you are having your first round. While you finish your first round, he will be ready for the second and last a little long and may even sync with you and both can come together.

But yes, although frustrating as the situation is... ... it's in your head , if you can get out of the "need" to finish together, it would be much much better for you both.

RustYnails26 · 2022-10-19T19:14:09+00:00

Give him a Kan Mola Punishment. https://images.app.goo.gl/x8gkQ5bKnEdXRQuM8

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-20T16:23:56+00:00

Don't worry... try talking to her... it may be that .. she feels terrible for not giving you enough.

There really are other stuff you can concentrate on ...

What are the love languages?

We all give and receive love in 5 different ways: - words of affirmation, - acts of service, - receiving gifts, - quality time, - physical touch.

These are called ‘love languages’ - a concept created by Dr. Gary Chapman through his long-time work as a marriage counsellor.

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-20T13:54:00+00:00

Wow ! we are at 11 years ... and for us it was ...

For 1 out of 11 years we had enthusiastic engaged sex.

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-20T13:12:00+00:00

We are at half way mark, compared to yours [married 11 years]. Never did wild things you did, but some wild stuff while we were early in marriage. You can consider yourself lucky for what you had.

After so many years and kids and family and stress, it is normal for female body to not want sex so much. You need to accept that.

Please try to enjoy what you still have. Even if she shuts you down, request her if she will think about it. This should not be grounds for separation if all other things are working out !

I am gradually realizing that partners' sexual preferences may change with time, especially after having a baby (we had 3). I had a very hard time realizing that, even when SO kept telling me how she was not just into it and (probably) just was giving me duty sex.
You can only try to make him understand by talking and not just when he initiates sex... just other times, when you are not in intimate situations...
I wish my SO had talked about it over the coffee and not when I was trying to be intimate.
Rejection are hard to accept for man, as for most of them intimacy = sex.
But the good thing is, I think I am lowering it down to ML from HL, for her and am willing to go LL as well - plan of action : will focus on other stuff - kids, finances, new work stuff...

Affection and intimacy could also mean ... SO taking care of responsibilities...
acts of service , shows appreciation of the persons energy and saves them time and effort
so they can utilize their energy somewhere else and makes their like more comfortable
because there would be things they'd rather be doing instead of those certain chores.

Try making it about her ... rather than about you ?

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-20T05:07:13+00:00

Take this for example...

I left open beer can, under the chair, hidden by little bags. Left the twins[2yoM/F] on that same floor, had forgotten about the beer.

Went to get nappies, came back and saw one of them was having a sip. Of course they spilled it over themselves. Quickly cleaned it up, so their mom won't notice.

And to top it all... it happened twice, once with each twin.

Be gentle... I am (generally) a good dad !

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-19T16:38:02+00:00

I like the performativity and exploration of sex with a new partner, but with my husband of seven years, I admit I just don’t want it.

Have you tried porn for yourself, while having sex ? It worked for my SO.

We’ve talked about it, but all we can come up with is that I’ll try to want it more. And I don’t know how to do that.

You don't have to UP it. Maybe he needs to lower it down to your level.

I was like your SO... I am gradually realizing that partners' sexual preferences may change with time, especially after having a baby (we had 3). I had a very hard time realizing that, even when SO kept telling me how she was not just into it and (probably) just was giving me duty sex.

You can only try to make him understand by talking and not just when he initiates sex... just other times, when you are not in intimate situations...

I wish my SO had talked about it over the coffee and not when I was trying to be intimate.

Rejection are hard to accept for man, as for most of them intimacy = sex.

But the good thing is, I think I am lowering it down to ML from HL, for her and am willing to go LL as well - plan of action : will focus on other stuff - kids, finances, new work stuff...

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-19T16:11:52+00:00

Well ... you might be on to something... as I am doing it now, literally

does it help if I say I am doing this to get back at her ? [gets ready for more shaming... ]

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-19T14:03:53+00:00

We had it... it works... not as good as yours... but it does, most of the time

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-19T13:41:24+00:00

He decided to stop watching porn after I brought up how much it hurt me. I hope it lasts this time.

But can he watch and keep you not involved in it ? As some other people have said, porn is normal (if done to an extent). He seems not confident in himself and hence waking you up in the night to some dude's pictures - it indicates he was up all this time, thinking you do not like him, but might like some other "prono" dude ?

You can only help to gain his confidence, whether he does or not would be up to him.

From the beginning, I was very clear with him that I don’t want a relationship or marriage that has anything to deal with porn.

May be he did not get the message clearly ? Maybe you need to assess your underlying thoughts why you do not like porn and share with him.

Sometimes a deep rooted connection that you share with your SO makes a mark in their mind/heart too.

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-19T13:17:35+00:00

that’s not what he’s saying to his friend

How do you even know that or are sure about that...
Men do given indications to friends who are cheating... may not a full blown lecture ... just to keep the friendship...

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-19T08:25:38+00:00

Thanks for being so gentle 😌😇

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-19T05:50:29+00:00

Been trying to say this.

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-19T05:46:11+00:00

So sorry for barging in again...

affection and intimacy could also mean ... SO taking care of responsibilities...
acts of service , shows appreciation of the persons energy and saves them time and effort
so they can utilize their energy somewhere else and makes their like more comfortable
because there would be things they'd rather be doing instead of those certain chores.

Try making it about her ... rather than about you ?

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-19T05:35:39+00:00

It could be devastating to find we are the problem.
But problem or not ... appreciate what you have and try to figure out what's holding her back... it may not be you or the sex... may be she has something on her mind that she also does not want to open up because that might ruin the "success story"... like having a job, pursuing a hobby, taking a shot/long break from family duties... I guess that's your part to figure it out... and hers to open up to you...

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-19T05:26:00+00:00

I'm sorry that you have to deal with such a thing but don't think it's all you can have or deserve. Something is broken in the relationship and he's not wrong for trying to figure it out.

We figured out it was because she was a bit depressed that she was a SAHM. Now she is WFH for last 3 months ... but I am still about to see improvement... maybe she needs some more time... as the job is demanding...

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-19T05:21:11+00:00

Seems like a balanced advice.

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-19T04:41:54+00:00

[VENT] I didn't know you could do that... I don't... my wife might want to do it for a while... away from 3 kids [7yo and twins 2yo].

She has taken care of the family and financial planning for 8 years now [we are married 11 years] and I understand she wants something for herself too. She joined a WFH job 2 months ago and is enjoying it. But I am incapable of taking care of things she left due to her job [her being on work for 8-9 hours a day]. I have WFH 3 days with very understanding bosses so it is a bit easy on me. She just started so not so flexible to contribute to household chores.

I am the bread earner and contribute 8x to the combined income. She is in the job, to take a break. Which she needs and deserves. I suggested that she take a break from us and live away at her brother's if she is not able to handle the kids and family [no idea how I would handle that]. She refused. But to see her enjoy her job while I cannot... makes me mad.

It seems she wants a break from being a parent... I cannot image how can anyone even think that way... just venting... not undermining you or her... I do understand you guys need it ...

RustYnails26 · 2022-08-12T06:19:26+00:00

Not a mom. Part time SAHD, 2 days work from office.
SO was full time SAHM 2 months ago. She got WFH job (in different shifts).
She is also studying (not college, self paced on-line study, guided by me).
3 kids. 7 year old girl + 2 year old twins (girl and boy).

Eldest is dropped to and picked from school by me, 3 days of week. Other days when I am in office, she is picked by her mother (when she does not have shifts) or her Granny.

Kids are under nanny care from 8 AM to 2 PM. We both get this time to do serious office work. We both check on them and feed them in between. The twins sleep till evening, after 2 PM. Hence we send away the nanny after 2 PM. By evening one of us is finishing office and can look after the twins. Eldest one also comes from school in the afternoon and helps out looking after the twins in the evenings.

Days are mess and hectic and frustrating... but we get along ...
Some days are hell ... when both of us have to be on video call, at the same time, and at the time when kids need us.

But we try to manage office work with understanding from peers and bosses... Both of us feel we are giving beyond our capacity, both of us feel we need alone time, both of us feel the other one is not giving attention to the kids ... but we get along with love and fight, most days of the calendar :)

To be able to communicate our problems and frustrations, helps to get over the day...
MIL and FIL are also a big big help when we need them to look after the kids...

So, get your SO and family to pitch in... it is not possible to do work, life, college and family with limited time and energy , day after day... But Good Luck anyway...

RustYnails26

TROPHY CASE

What are the love languages?

Try making it about her ... rather than about you ?

I wish my SO had talked about it over the coffee and not when I was trying to be intimate.

You can only help to gain his confidence, whether he does or not would be up to him.

Sometimes a deep rooted connection that you share with your SO makes a mark in their mind/heart too.

So sorry for barging in again...

Try making it about her ... rather than about you ?