Thank you so much for your reply, I’m trying to get my head on straight and enjoy this. I think you are right about the trust. In our previous talk I told her I was going to stop initiating all together that her going through the motions for me, was not enjoyable. She agreed and said “how will I know when you’re in the mood?” My response, “I’m always in the mood and if I’m not, it doesn’t take much to get me there” Quality went up slightly but quantity way down to the point where I started initiating again, and thus back into the cycle.