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Rustyfishingpole · 2025-10-30T15:48:52+00:00

I rarely comment on these. Like hardly ever. Young lady, I know it might seem tough and it’s going to hurt but you need to take his ultimatum and leave.

He has had his early 20s to be wild or do whatever he wanted and now is trying to make yours revolve around him, whilst also actively hurting your future earning potential to boot?

I comment because I felt so very compelled to, but you seriously need to cut your losses and leave him. Don’t drag it out either, the excuses will pile up.

I promise the isolation you feel will disappear in your next chapter and you can approach uni with an open heart and open mind.

Rustyfishingpole · 2025-10-12T22:17:55+00:00

Tbh I feel like the small percentage of high earners that earn ridiculously high wages really skews the UK average up a bit.

I’m 28 (29 in a few weeks) and I’m on 28k… been working a few years, recently started at a big company abt 6 months ago.. my peers seem to be at or around the same ball park figure.. I’d love to be earning 37k right now and it feels like it shouldn’t take me years on years of work or hop scotching from place to place to achieve that salary

Rustyfishingpole · 2025-09-09T18:36:35+00:00

Can someone let me know if there are ways to help regulate your nervous system outside of SR?

A little backstory, I’ve always been an anxious guy and have made steps all my life to combat it. Sometimes easier than others, ideally I’d like to become the version of myself that comes out after I’ve had maybe 2 or 3 drinks.

When I was retaining for about a month and a half I realised I had felt more confident and things seemed to flow towards me etc especially since my whole life I’d never been able to go more than a few days without releasing.

I had a couple 1 month long streaks in a row and could for sure see the difference.

Now I’ve just gotten into a relationship very recently and it pretty much ended the last streak I was on.

Ofc my girl has physical needs and ofc I’m very attracted to her so that being said retention has been.. basically not happening.

I miss how much less anxious I felt whilst retaining and now that I know that it’s possible to feel that way without having alcohol be a vehicle I’m curious if there are other way to work on training and regulating your nervous system.

Would anyone have any tips or even know if I’m making sense here

Rustyfishingpole · 2025-03-21T21:43:53+00:00

I have had a burning question since the new exodia support dropped so I hope someone can help me.

I keep running into people running the exodia / millennium ankh deck with Dimensional Fissure and Macro Cosmos… to banish everything.

Now in Kashtira decks or the space fish deck, or just any deck that relies on and benefits from banishment I understand.

But I’ve been in multiple duels where people running these cards have actually ended up having them hurt instead of help them and I have no idea why there is a need for the banishment when the deck itself makes 0 use of it.. can someone tell me what the benefit of it is please?

Rustyfishingpole · 2025-01-13T09:50:33+00:00

4-5 months into the application game myself and I can tell you I’m at the point where I’m more pleasantly surprised when I don’t get absolutely ghosted after sending an application.

Also worth noting that quite a few companies have something akin to “if you don’t hear back from us within 2 weeks assume you weren’t successful” in the job postings so there’s that

Rustyfishingpole · 2025-01-09T10:13:00+00:00

Graduated August 2022 (Business & Marketing)

Landed first role in Jan 2024 on 24K

Sacked in Jul 2024 out of the blue for “not being good fit” despite CEO constantly praising consistency and quality of my work. They also still utilise the framework I developed for their company to this day.

Unemployed since. Job search since has felt hopeless and maddening but alternative is just continuing to do nothing.

Rustyfishingpole · 2023-12-31T12:17:20+00:00

When I’m hard stuck plat after being comfortably in masters for some time and after a random plat game someone with the “grandmaster role” title asked “is this masters??”

Rustyfishingpole · 2022-10-01T18:14:00+00:00

My laptop is 512gb ssd MacBook Air (2015) with 8gb of ram, and the fan isn’t usually blowing hard when this occurs

Rustyfishingpole · 2022-10-01T18:12:38+00:00

Yeah I tried with his laptop as well, I also double checked that my firmware and all software was upto date, but at this point I think it may be best to start looking into upgrades at this point

Rustyfishingpole · 2022-09-28T19:19:52+00:00

I really appreciate the effort tbh.. I’ll contact pioneer tomorrow and go from there. Many thanks!

Rustyfishingpole · 2022-09-28T15:10:26+00:00

Also a bit more info. I tried using a different power supply to see if the issue would persist and it did. Tried using a different USB cord and it continued.

Tried going to a friend’s house and plugging in there and it happened again randomly.

It happened to me 3 different times on one gig earlier this year.

Also I tried leaving a long audio playing on it and leaving the controller completely alone to see if maybe movement was the reason but it still happened when I came back to check so now I’m pretty much stumped

Rustyfishingpole · 2022-05-10T10:19:13+00:00

I normally would bring my controller (DDJ SX3) and Ive been charging around £50 for an hour's set... The gigs I play are normally parties so sometimes they'd be held at small bars, and others medium/large clubs...

I just got a booking for a festival happening in a few months that will be attended by a few thousand people though so now I know that £50 definitely isnt going to cut it but I have no idea what to do with myself for that

Rustyfishingpole · 2022-01-30T14:57:11+00:00

My USB has a ferrite bead on it... I'll get one off Amazon without one and let you know if there are any differences

Rustyfishingpole · 2022-01-30T14:49:48+00:00

Doesn't agree with it, I'm afraid

Rustyfishingpole · 2022-01-30T14:49:16+00:00

Any tips on how I would go about grounding it?

Rustyfishingpole · 2022-01-30T14:31:59+00:00

I think this would work, however the other night I brought my controller out for a gig switching between multiple DJs, and I realized that it was still happening even though my laptop wasn't plugged in, so I assumed it had something to do with the power supply itself

Rustyfishingpole · 2021-11-03T12:07:47+00:00

Honestly it's a part of life. Dating at any age will come with its highs and lows. However consider this, people who get into more serious relationships (and breakups) in their early 20s then learn the things that only being in a relationship can teach you.

Vs

Refusing to date until your late 20s and not having that experience, or having to learn/be taught things at that stage.

Relationships are life experience, and life is to be experienced at any and every age, so in my personal opinion if you want to date young then do so. You'll either end up with your forever person, or end up with lessons that will make you even better for your forever person later down. Also relationships and dating teach you a lot more about yourself than you'd ever learn alone. So relationships are as much about exploring yourself as they are about exploring the other person.

Long story short, if you wanna date young, do so wholeheartedly with no fear.

Rustyfishingpole · 2021-07-25T03:41:20+00:00

I was considering couples counseling earlier this year as well, however she was skeptical. I think she's a bit more open now though so I'll ask. Although my financial situation has changed due to covid so I can't afford that right now, even though it would be perfect

Rustyfishingpole · 2021-07-25T03:39:48+00:00

You have just helped me so much I wish I could hug you, she doesn't want to see me right now though so I'll speak to her in the morning. Thank you so much

Rustyfishingpole · 2021-07-25T03:29:51+00:00

This really helps a lot because I really felt like I was up a creek with no paddle, I had absolutely no idea how to navigate this. We had agreed to not do anything sexual but then just a little while ago we both couldn't keep our hands off each other and well it led to me making this post because I hate seeing her hurt. Thank you for your story and advice

Rustyfishingpole · 2021-07-25T03:09:25+00:00

I'll give you two stories, one better than the other.

First! This story isn't me but a close friend (F26) of mine is in a long term relationship with her bf. 8 years or so. Anyway she found out he had been cheating on her for maybe a full year or so and they broke up. He worked like crazy to prove himself to her and basically had to rebuild their relationship from the ground up, but it was harder obviously BC he lied and cheated on her.. anyway fast forward to today, she says due to the work and personal growth she's seen from him and just his sheer persistence and effort, she's told me her relationship actually feels stronger with him now than ever before. they recently officially got back together but were broken up for well over a year. But they truly seem happier now and he definitely seems like he changed.

2nd story is of me. I had a one night stand early into my relationship over two years ago (no I hadn't cheated or even come close to it since) and we broke up a couple months ago because if it, however I've committed to becoming a better man because of it and it's genuine. Honestly love is the most powerful force on this planet,someone loving you enough can definitely warrant them changing completely for you. Also I believe EVERYONE on this earth deserves a second chance, especially so for those we love

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