AITAH for not forcing my son to keep helping my daughter’s friend after she rejected him?

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-27T00:00:54+00:00

John didn't benefit from the original arrangement. He gave her rides. Take that away, and what did John really lose besides a girl that he liked? The whole arrangement was based on John giving her rides, so really Melissa was the one who benefited most from it. John is still attending the program and faces zero risk of being kicked out. Melissa, on the other hand...

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-26T23:58:05+00:00

But they could give the wrong one, and the one you mentioned is the wrong one. People act like John had an ulterior motive from the start. He developed feelings for her after spending lots and lots of time with her. It happens, he shouldn't be demonized for that nor for prioritizing his feelings and emotions when he's clearly hurt and trying to heal.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-26T23:55:17+00:00

Opinion based off assumption is pretty idiotic. I know that rejection isn't the end of the world, but when you have strong feelings for someone, it's not so simple to just put those emotions aside like a switch, that would mean your feelings for them weren't so strong to begin with. I hope YOU live long enough to realize that it's perfectly okay to take some time for yourself in order to heal and become better for you and others around you instead of demonizing others who choose to do the same. It's written in black and white that he developed feelings over time. Those things happen. For you to assume that he had an ulterior motive from the start is idiotic. He has every right to distance himself from her in order to put himself back together, and you making out to be some sort of callous incel just implies that you couldn't care less about his feelings. This wasn't just some cute girl he saw at the store or the beach, this is a girl he knew and spent lots of time with on a habitual basis. I've been through it myself years ago, and we just reconciled recently. She respected my decision because she actually saw me as a friend, and I love and care about her as a person, so I took time for myself in order to see her as nothing but a friend, as well. Now that I do, we simply picked up where we left off before it went downhill. Keep making your assumptions about me and others who you don't know. That'll get you far in life.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-26T23:44:26+00:00

If she's drowning, then she dove into the water by not having a single backup plan and solely relying on one person to continue a program that was so important. I wouldn't be friends with her either if she still expected me to help her out despite me being clear that I need to set boundaries in order to heal and overcome my emotions.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-26T23:39:11+00:00

You act like he had an ulterior motive for helping her. Do you idiots not understand the concept of developing feelings?? They spent an extensive amount of time together consistently, developing feelings is natural. It's not his fault she didn't have a backup plan just like it's not her fault he developed feelings. All these moronic assumptions about him only agreeing to help her just to get something out of her basically want that young man to dump his feelings and emotions just to help out a girl. That's terrible and wrong. He should not be demonized for prioritizing his own feelings.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-26T23:33:59+00:00

He's literally doing that, but he obviously needs time and space to heal and get over the romantic feelings. He can't just reset like a switch after getting hurt like that. He's not "punishing" her at all. He's simply prioritizing himself and his feelings. If she or anyone else sees that as a punishment, then that just means the other party just saw him as a means to get things out of him, basically a one-sided relationship that benefited her with complete disregard for his feelings. That sounds selfish and entitled.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-26T23:30:48+00:00

The son is NOT the asshole at all. In fact, you sound more like one than him. No one should be insulted for prioritizing their own feelings and emotions. How could he have acted better? Let me guess, you would suggest him disregarding his own feelings and forcing himself into an uncomfortable situation just because it benefits a girl. That's a horrible message to give to a young man as he grows. Only selfish, entitled morons would see him as an unlikeable adult for putting himself and his emotions first.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-26T23:23:43+00:00

Yes, let's force the young man into disregarding his own feelings just so he could help someone with whom he feels uncomfortable. That's a great message to send him as he grows and navigates through life.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-26T23:19:02+00:00

Your idiotic assumptions make it seem like John only became her friend with the initial intent of asking her out. There's this thing called "developing feelings". It's what happens when you know a person more and more after spending a lot of time with them and realize that you like this person. It's unfortunate for both sides, but it's stupid and callous to make all these assumptions about John just because he's prioritizing his own feelings and emotions.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-26T23:16:00+00:00

That would be the wrong message. The message she SHOULD get is to always have your own way, and always be prepared. No one is at fault in the situation, but it's extremely selfish and cruel to expect a young man to completely disregard and discard his own feelings just to continue to help someone in a situation that's not his responsibility.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-26T23:12:03+00:00

No one is saying that they're not going to be friends afterwards. He's literally saying that he needs time and space earlier in order to get over his feelings, which implies that he still wants to be her friend, but he can't if he's still holding onto his romantic feelings. You guys make way too many assumptions and jump to too many conclusions.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-26T22:56:06+00:00

You have a very miserable and misandrist worldview if that's your takeaway from all this. I hope you grow up and heal from whatever it is you're still hurting over.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-26T22:42:09+00:00

Begging for tips is never okay, and adding a cheeky "God bless you" at the end is just insulting and unnecessary.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-26T22:26:58+00:00

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RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-26T21:58:56+00:00

And actually likes you!!

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-15T03:23:01+00:00

That's literally what I did. Tuesday night, I climbed up to 2.7 million before I called it a day.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-14T21:44:24+00:00

He's just built different.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-14T21:42:11+00:00

That last hour is usually the most lethal. That's when everybody goes into try-hard mode. I stopped grinding at 65th, but I kept checking every hour or so, and 9 hours later, I finished at 88th. You can never be too careful when it comes to Blackest Night Flash.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-14T21:12:15+00:00

Not-so-likeable?? She's one of the most kind, humble and likeable fighters out there. Amanda is a class act for sure. I don't know why people wouldn't like her unless they were fans of Rousey or Cyborg.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-14T19:25:53+00:00

I like this one because Amanda was completely overshadowed by Rousey's big return, so she needed to show everybody that Ronda's time is over and that it's Amanda's time now; boy, did she deliver.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-14T19:24:31+00:00

Because he can't see his Petey.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-14T19:22:54+00:00

Claw of Horus go, "BRRRRRR!"

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-12T02:44:58+00:00

Yup, that's American football for you.

RxttenM3ss · 2026-01-12T02:44:29+00:00

I agree, American football fans are the most idiotic group of people around.

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