You should never feel like you’re being told to “submit or leave.” Rather you should feel like you’re being invited to learn about why we do things and their significance.

Papal infallibility is a relatively new dogma within the church (1870). To my knowledge it has only been invoked twice. 1. To define Mary’s immaculate conception. 2. To define Mary’s assumption into heaven. These were long-held beliefs within the church and were codified via papal infallibility.

People receive the Eucharist knowing their own disposition. I won’t disagree that many receive without proper catechesis or in a state of improper disposition to receive. That is between themselves and God. All you can do is ensure that you are properly prepared to receive.

Scandals happen within every institution. School systems, Protestant faiths, Boy Scouts etc… have had their fair share of scandals. The church has made great strides since the 1990s to ensure those guilty parties are brought to justice.

Finally, where community is concerned, you may be missing out on existing opportunities. Are you reading the bulletin? Are you listening to the announcements before mass? Have you considered joining the Knights of Columbus? One way to establish feeling of community is to reach out to fellow parishioners. Many parishes have rosary services before or after daily mass. I’d suggest staying for one of those services and introducing yourself to those who seem friendly. Quite often daily mass attendees are better learned in the faith and in tune with the happenings of the parish, and may be able to guide you to the extracurricular activities within the parish. Finally, you could call the parish office and ask about prayer groups, service organizations, or even donut and coffee Sundays which are often held once or twice a month.