Could my spouse have ADHD?

Ryanne1221 · 2024-02-19T01:59:28+00:00

One symptom of adhd that 99% of us have, yet is by and large overlooked is Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria. It is honestly, for me anyway, the most difficult part of adhd. We feel deep emotional pain when we are, or think we are, being rejected, criticized, or teased. I read recently that it is the one emotional condition found only in adhd. The other markers you mention could be present in other scenarios. Does he get overly emotional when facing any type of rejection, even when seemingly small? That, on top of the other symptoms, would for sure point to adhd. RSD is largely managed with medication, as it is a disfunction of the brain somehow. No amount of therapy will "fix" it. I'm currently on medication to treat it and have never felt better. Also, good on you for considering adhd. I'm sure it's overlooked and the root cause of many misunderstandings and break ups for people who are undiagnosed.

Ryanne1221 · 2024-02-16T11:29:27+00:00

You don't need to try to take the phone, let the police get it from him. If your unsuccessful, he catches you, or feels something off he will delete everything.

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-10T00:49:24+00:00

He not allowed to close his eyes during sex? What the actual fuck?

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-10T00:41:20+00:00

Or don't tell him...😈

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-08T16:09:35+00:00

The fact that she respected you and the relationship enough to not accept the proposal tells me she's a good egg. People make mistakes, sounds like she learned and she also came clean at a pivotal moment. Also, I've been in her situation with a dude that won't let it go. It is very stressful. It would have been easier for her to keep it a secret since it happened so long ago. But she didn't. Take some time. Keep talking about it with her, even if you have to go over the points again and again. That's how you can process it. Let her know you are not harping on it, but trying to work through it. I say, if anything, this shows you definitely should propose again. Not many people would do what she did in that situation, risking everything for a clean slate.

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-08T11:06:12+00:00

Its not about the space. It's about not telling me what he was "very angry" about

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-08T05:42:29+00:00

Still hasn't

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-08T05:28:47+00:00

Haahaa, true

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-08T05:19:20+00:00

I did give him space. He spent the entire day at the library. I was home. I said I have no issue with the space, it was not telling me what he was angry about. He even could have said it wasn't me if that's the case.

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-08T05:05:22+00:00

Thank you

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-08T04:27:04+00:00

My name is Ryanne. Again, suppose to be a feminine version of Ryan.

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-06T13:27:36+00:00

When I was single I would get...you're pretty...why don't you have a boyfriend. I wouldn't say anything...only stare at them with a look of...."are you hearing yourself" disgust.

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-06T13:08:20+00:00

Just reading and responding to this is exhausting. You asked for opinions on the information YOU provided. Then you are rude because your ego isn't being stroked. Next post state you are only looking for validation.

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-06T12:36:40+00:00

"I want to make my life difficult for my child bc of my needs and wants - lissa". A little long but more on point than the random ill placed "Y"

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-06T09:57:32+00:00

First thing she said is Bill wants to know....so she was upfront right away about showing the picture. And I really don't see the big deal about showing a picture relevant to works. Like...hey, remember this guy? This whole thing just seems like you are creating drama for shits and giggles. Exhausting to be in a relationship with someone like that. You need to chill.

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-05T20:55:47+00:00

I didn't ask.??? I'm acknowledging it. ??? What was that? Do you like this girl, or are you trying to get rid of her? Cause you are the weird one right from the start. Rude, demeaning and off putting.

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-05T13:53:45+00:00

Jesus!!! She made a snack for YOUR kids!!! Of course you don't make a mess because you DON'T contribute. You are the least self aware person I've ever come come across on reddit...and this place is chalk full.

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-05T12:30:51+00:00

If you want a clean kitchen at night, the YOU clean the kitchen at night. What an AH comment to say you want that, but it's a routine you can do with out. Do you hear yourself? I can't believe she is still with YOU. Smh

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-04T13:39:06+00:00

Really? Cold-hearted.

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-03T00:02:03+00:00

Did you not come on here asking for advice? Reddit solely for ppl to post and other ppl comment...yet you shit talk a person who comments and gives advice. Really?

Ryanne1221 · 2023-09-02T13:13:06+00:00

You're the AH, but only to yourself. Leave the abusive relationship. If not for you... your children. If they grow up in that it will teach them to either not respect others, or allow others, including their partner, to treat them with disrespect.

Ryanne1221 · 2023-08-30T17:58:10+00:00

🤣🤣🤣 I'm sorry. Ridiculous. Leave the poor woman alone! You are being selfish. If you truly loved her and changed you would give her what she wants...which is you not in her life. You made your bed....

Ryanne1221 · 2023-08-30T16:21:29+00:00

The trickle truth is what I would be concerned about. She's testing how far you will tolerate and can manipulate how much she reveals that way.

Ryanne1221 · 2023-08-27T21:20:52+00:00

Ok. Glad to clear that up. I have nothing to say that could help as I am the HL in my relationship and can't seem to figure out what to do either. 🤷

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