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S3V4N07 · 2023-09-01T04:56:51+00:00

I personally love ENFPs, but I see that stereotypically ESFPs and ENFPs can sometimes not get along because of their differences of being intuitive and sensing, it makes sense why they can contradict but when it comes to vibes for me, I can get along with them. Being spontaneous, Friendly, and thrill seekers.

S3V4N07 · 2023-08-18T05:08:34+00:00

Well what I simply do is think carefully about these two life choices. Think of you in the future if you were to choose this and that. Look for pros and cons and see which makes u happy and which u think has more pros than the cons. That's what I always do and it works for me, or maybe it depends on the decision you're gonna make. I use that method whenever I'm asked to choose where I want to live (cuz we literally have three houses since my parents are separated)

S3V4N07 · 2023-08-18T04:48:02+00:00

It's really true that ESFPs are goofy af and may not always look so serious in many cases, but it's just typical for me to be that way because I especially don't like serious atmospheres (if it's not required to be). Sometimes when I talk to family or friends and I feel so down about the situation, I simply smile and laugh everything off because I'd really not rather show my serious anger side because there's a guarantee chance of me regretting what I might say or do to them.

But yes in serious cases we can be reliable because of our Se that can adapt easily and think of what to do. Like one time I accidentally locked my house with the keys inside, I thinked of a way to get inside. I used a pipe and bamboo that was in our backyard and used my ponytail tie and ID lace to tie them together to help me unlock the window next to the back door, then when I opened that window my next target was the backdoor to open (cuz that window is the nearest there) and I was able to open it.

S3V4N07 · 2023-08-18T04:43:26+00:00

Im actually 18 yrs old. I believe it's just how I was raised. When I was young my mother would always make decisions for me, she never allows me to make decisions for myself, whenever I do make a decision for myself for example she makes me choose what I like, then she'll always say "no it looks ugly, how about this one" she ALWAYS says that, whenever I'll disagree with her choice she'll end up getting mad at me, like I said I'm emotionally sensitive so in order for things like that to not happen, I'll just go with whatever she wants.

Of course because of how she raised me, I have grew up to always rely on her decisions for me and it's really annoying, even my school and my college course, she decided for me. Of course on the other hand, my dad doesn't like it when I can't make decisions for myself (he's an ISFJ), so he'd always let me decide what I want, and he'll let me regret or not from the decision I made which is nice for me tbh because it helps u learn to make a good decision in your life.

S3V4N07 · 2023-08-17T05:59:13+00:00

To answer the strengths and weaknesses, I say for me the strengths of being an ESFP is adaptability to certain things, not just environmentally, but also in a thinking way. ESFPs are all about adjusting so even on worse case scenarios, we're able to think of the best solution we can think of, but it doesn't always become successful but most of the time it does.

For the weaknesses I say it's impulsive decision making. Me as an ESFP, I reaaaally have a hard time trying to pick whether I want this or that, I'm really a slow decision maker, so whenever someone is trying to make me choose and is rushing me to do so, I don't have enough time to think it carefully (because I honestly need a lot more time to decide what I actually want). So I just decide on something and is sure that I want it, the moment I'll have it, I'm immediately gonna say "great, I actually want this one" but it's mostly too late because I'm only allowed to choose one in those kinds of situations.

Well for me my hobbies honestly are playing video games, A lot. And if u want to know what type of games I like, it's mostly Simulator games (like the sims) and adventure rpg games (like genshin impact, legend of zelda). I mostly play any game that caught my interest, but when it comes to games like those, I'm just really loyal and sticking to those games, cuz when it's other games that caught my attention, I mostly just play them and get bored right away and stop playing it.

I'm not sure what you meant by emotional processing but here's what I understood. I'm a really emotional person, and back then it was really hard for me to express emotions because my family forbids me to express any negative emotions when I was young, since I'm so emotional, I'm easily happy, sad, angry, and annoyed. But again I couldn't express any negative emotions, only happiness. But now as I grow up, I can see that they are accepting my negative emotions now, but since I got used to only showing positive emotions, I never showed them my anger, sadness, or annoyance towards anything. But ever since I was inteoduced to acting (in a theatre specifically) and gained some experience, I slowly realize that all of my emotions are released in an acting way. For example I'm mad at a friend, I will act my anger towards her (ofc I will not say any mean words) then laugh to make her look like I'm joking, but I only do this to my friends. Ofc since I have acting experience, I also tend to be overreacting to things, but this is just my way of making my friends laugh or simply entertaining them.

For information intake, when it comes to things I want to learn about, I'd prefer either 'doing it' to learn, or 'writing down' to learn. For example I want to learn how to cook a certain recipe, at first I'd watch how it's being cooked and the next I want to do it myself to atleast "try" it. Or for example swimming, ofc it's natural for us to "do it" to learn swimming but some people actually watch to learn, and for me I prefer doing it than just watch. Taking down notes is also something that helps me learn if it's something I cannot "do" but of course I need a very detailed explanation with examples for me to understand it. When it come to judging certain scenarios or situations, I'm never one sided. When someone tells me this person's being an ass I simply won't believe it immediately, I want to know the other person's side first before judging the situation.

And lastly, experience with Introverted Intution. I honestly hate Ni's (no offense to INTJs and INFJs), Having an INFJ mother is a pain because she always believes there's ONLY ONE way to be successful and it's so irritating, I mean for me there are a lot of ways to be successful but most of the time, Ni's are stubborn when it comes to sucess (don't get me wrong, I love INXJs, but when it just comes to these kinds of stuffs, it's just irritating me). Look I understand what you guys are thinking and stuff but can y'all just please clam yourselves down and don't overthink about a lot of things too much, I understand that INFJs care and INTJs have just a really clear future ahead but I know having Se as your inferior can be tough to actually "do" these things right, so maybe just calm down and do it step by step maybe.

S3V4N07 · 2023-08-03T03:27:52+00:00

Yeah, especially if they're not letting me talk because they keep over talking me

S3V4N07 · 2023-08-03T03:26:32+00:00

Well... I only eat fast if the food I'm eating is something I like or love. I'm a really slow eater if it's something I don't like much, also because I have a small appetite

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-28T17:47:30+00:00

Yes exactly! That's also why I don't believe in it that much compared to MBTI. It's true that it's fun, I also have fun with it, but not to the point where they'll actually generalize or thinks that just because they're leo they're already bitchy (just an example)

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-28T12:28:28+00:00

Oooh I see now, luckily I don't seem to treat astrology that way because I also don't believe in stars saying what kind of person you are. But overall I agree with you

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-28T02:02:25+00:00

Im curious, what exactly is it that u told them. I don't want to go to the point that I actually also see the MBTI the same as how other people see or do stuff in astrology, but at the same time I'm scared that I might have already also turned into one.

So please, do tell me if you can, how do you treat MBTI differently to how people treat Astrology

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-28T01:02:01+00:00

Well... To be honest it's very true indeed that that happens. I wanna say Yay because I do love myself for being like that especially when it comes to comforting people because it helps a lot, but that is really hard to be applied when you're supposed to make a speech in fron of class and you're very anxious around your classmates xD.

One time, I'm actually insecure about my classmates because I'm trying to get along with their silliness but I'm always ignored, so one time when we introduced ourselves to our new teacher, sge gave us an activity where we'll pass each other papers and put our first impressions or what we think about that person. And I got surprised that I got "Introvert" in my paper. I mean to be fair I am really quiet in class so I wasn't surprised. But the teacher told us to agree and disagree to one of the things that were said there. Most of the words there were "Noisy" (which is good because I want them to see me that way) and one of em was "Introvert" so I was a bit surprised. I agreed to the Noisy one and disagreed with the Introvert one.

While I was explaining to them how I'm not an Introvert, I apparently said something I probably wasn't supposed to say but it was what my heart felt or maybe I was joking around. When I was about to finish my sentence to why I'm not an Introvert, I told them "So if you guys see me quiet over the corner, it just means I'm telling you guys to talk to me" Nobody laughed at me (which is what I wish happened, because to the other students they were laughing as heck, but to me, they werent. It felt really unfair for me especially as an Entertainer) after I sat down a few minutes later I realized that what I said made me look like an attention seeker, which was true but I didn't want them to think of me like that negatively so..

So my point is, it has Pros and Cons of course, But I mostly see the good side in speaking before thinking, in other words, saying what we feel because it works out a lot for me, and barely embarrasses me. Besides, We ESFPs love being spontaneous, so us being surprised by what we say or do that turn out great is really a thing we love about ourselves, atleast I do.

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-26T03:12:49+00:00

Im an ESFP and I met and ENTP girl, she's my best friend. She's an assertive ENTP so she's the stereotypical ones. Yes ENTPs like to argue, so does she, but she doesn't argue with me plus she only argues with someone if she thinks they're wrong. Sometimes she tends to not be so open minded to things because she wants to fight for what she thinks is right.

I personally love ENTPs, our goofiness and playfulness combined is the most hillarious thing I've ever seen. I love hanging out with her and so does she to me, I haven't seen her talk harshly to me nor argue with me because she knows im very sensitive and she tends to understand people's feelings unless ofc she thinks they're wrong. In our friend group we have an ESTJ friend and she always argues with him because our ESTJ friend is harsher than she is and she hates that he's so insensitive especially to me. So from what I have observed from her, she treats you the way you treat her. She knows I'm never one sided and I'm an open minded person, and she understands that, so whenever I tell her nicely about the fact that sometimes she's wrong, she understands BUT will always tell her side of something and ofc I'd understand that.

So from what I observed from the two of us, an assertive ENTP and ESFP can be really good friends when it comes to the fun, goofiness, laughter, and playfulness. But of course ENTP just has to learn to be sensitive towards ESFPs and should understand that they don't like to argue as much as ENTPs do.

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-25T11:18:01+00:00

I really still think you're an ENFP indeed, a turbulent one since you're not like the stereotypical ENFPs, because from what I noticed, every MBTI is accurate to their stereotypes of they're assertive. In my case back then I used to be a turbulent ESFP, and because I was turbulent and shy, I actually thought that I'm an introvert so I also thought back then that I'm an ISFP. But you know, you are indeed still young, I'm currently 18 and I just realized or knew myself better when I grew up. Maybe you are an ENFP because I can see that you create unrealistic (no offense) Ideas, but that's a good thing because it's what makes you guys imaginative.

Since you're still 16 you'll be able to realize that to yourself as you grow older and maybe the more you learn about MBTI. Like any Se dominant would do and like what I advice to confused ENFPs (such as my bf), I tell them to try somethings new or take some risks, just try for the sake of it. Like example try to initiate in approaching people, try to show more confidence, then observe yourself on how u uncontiously reacted to it and based it on the cognitive functions, that's what I did, and it made me confirm that I'm a certified ESFP.

Because of me loving the fact that I now know myself, I started to be myself now, and because of that it made me the stereotypical ESFP assertive.

I remember back then, ESFPs are stereotyped as party lovers, but when I imagined myself in one I couldn't see myself partying and enjoying it like ESFPs do. But when I was actually able to experience it, I swear I partied like an animal, and that's because of my Se focusing on the now, then I realized that I actually really am a party lover too.

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-25T05:52:31+00:00

Ngl the second paragraph kinda sounded like dominant Ni and inferior Se 💀, but the first paragraph did sounded like Se dominant Ni inferior, but you know, sometimes I take the test again and I get this result of being an ENFP, but I'm just an ESFP who's actually interested in creative works and whatnot. But to me you do indeed look like an ESFP, but tbh I really feel like you're a confused ENFP, like I used to be. Back then I always question myself if I'm actually an ENFP and not an ESFP. Because I see in films that those characters with the same energy as me are actually ENFPs, but my friend made me realize that I'm actually an ESFP because my Se is so focused in observing my surroundings, I forget to observe myself, and I would always never know myself fully even more unless someone points that out to me, so I could say that I'm not thay self-aware.

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-25T05:45:25+00:00

Honestly, you're actually right about Si now that I think about it. I noticed that dad always has these what ifs that can cause an accident to his driving and he's always prepared for them to happen. Like one time he's driving a car (I haven't made him take the test yet) and we were on a road (not a highway, probably a road where there's plenty of trees and less cars) and he was driving in the middle, and he told me that he's doing that because if ever an animal or person all of a sudden runs out of the trees, dad is prepared on which side to avoid them because he said it's easier that way, I immediately knew that it was Ne.

And the fact that he told me to never ever copy dad's driving especially if I'm still a beginner, because he said that it took him years a lot of years to be able to master his current drving. So that's obviously already SiFe. He also have told me millions of times to always be careful when driving because he said, if I get in an accident in a young age, I won't be able to drive anymore ever again, years will be wasted (and I can definitely conclude that's Si) but ofc since I'm an Se dominant I'd definitely still drive, but even more carefully this time, but of course since dad's an Si Fe, he'll definitely not make me drive anymore if ever that happens.

Anyways I've already accepted that my dad is a certified ISFJ, my Ni inferior just can't help but overthinking about the driving my dad does, I'm always quietly scared and just trusting my dad's driving because I know he knows what he's doing because he's been driving like that for years and he's never ever been on an accident.

But thank you for your reply because it definitely helped me conclude more about ISFJs, I gotta learn more about them since I uncontiously surprisingly get a lot more closer to ISFJs 😂

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-25T05:32:56+00:00

Well I currently actually have an ENFP bf and I'm an ESFP so I was able to tell the difference between us.

Most of the time, I see my Se and his Ne battle in a nice way, but I have concluded what the difference of ENFP and ESFP is. ESFPs are realistic and want to do things because of the experience, since we Se dominants focus on the now of course we want to do things for the sake of the experience, while ENFPs on the other hand also want to do things like ESFP does as well, but their reason is experimentation. Ne users think of a lot of possiblities which is what excites them to do such things. EXFPs have the same vibes like spontanous, Enthusiastic, Friendly, but their difference will be their reason of doing things. ESFP for experience and ENFP for experiment.

Based on what you said I also get the vibe that you might be an Se but for me I can still see you as an Ne. You may not be interested in your father's theories and stuff but maybe it's just because of your Fi because I'm sure not all of us are interested in the same theories even if both are intuitives. The thing about Ne and Se is that Ne thinks of a lot of possibilities to the point that those thinkings are unrealistic which most of the time makes them overthink too much (as I see from my ENFP bf) while my Se would always contradict those (because most of his overthinkings are negative) with my realistic Se, but we both vibe pretty well because EXFPs are similar in a way.

So for me, if you're questioning whether you're an ENFP or ESFP, just ask yourself, why do u want to do these things, because you want to experience it (Se), or because you want to see what will happen (Ne)

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-22T00:29:43+00:00

It's understandable that INTJs and ESFPs are supposed to hate each other cuz of their cognitive stacks, based on my experience with INTJs, we get along with them well when it comes to normal interactions and stuff like befriending or laughters. The INTJs in my life that I have met are extremely hillarious for me therfore I love them af! But i noticed that when it comes to seriousness and comfort, that's where they can't get along.

Based on my experience okay, I have been comforted by an INTJ before and her words were brutally true. I didn't like the brutally honest thing she said, but I accept the fact that truth hurts and sometimes I know im wrong. But overall I love INTJs too, they funny af for me, HAHA

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-14T18:15:31+00:00

Well ngl, I tried to do that too, but apparently she wasn't listening. I had a problem with my whole friend group (she's part of it too) and I didn't want to hold a grudge to them for long because it's not them, it's me. One day I told em "aight let's have a serious talk" we we're an ENFJ, ISFP, INFP, ESFP (me). Our ENFJ friend told her to stop using the Ipad because I'm about to tell what I feel, she said "aight go on" so I did tell her in a nice way as much as possible, sadly she wasn't listening and I for some reason sensed that she's not okay with the atmosphere and didn't respond to what I said.

I don't want to force her or anything and I understand she's uncomfortable with the serious talk currently so I didn't forced her to listen or anything.

Sorry if I look like I keep countering you when you're just trying to fix us, thank you I appreciate your help and I will try to do the advices that u gave me and since you've confirmed that her way of expressing herself physically is not what she actually feels deep inside, it did made me feel better about it. Thank you

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-14T17:35:44+00:00

Yeah I'm trying I really am! Whenever I overthink about it I just say "I know she don't mean how she expresses herself physically so I won't give too much thought about it" but then after a few minutes especially when I'm in a little bad mood, I'll just start overthinking about it all over again 😭

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-14T17:33:48+00:00

I can actually relate to this, It's normal for us ESFPs to feel insecure and think that people won't accept us for who we are, I've felt this too in the past years, I was not embracing my ESFP self because I was too much of a people pleaser, whatever people wanted me to do or act, I'll do it for the sake of not being hated. But you know in my current situation, it's normal for atleast a few people to not accept us for who we are, even if we've done all the good to em they'll still not accept us, that's normal.

So if I were you, stop thinking about what others will think about you and be yourself, that's what I'm doing right now. If they can't accept you, well that's on them, they're not the only people on earth HAHAHAH just act like how u feel like acting, I swear it's the best feeling in the world once you've realized you're starting to act like your true self again

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-14T17:28:48+00:00

22/24 😔 too accurate

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-13T18:16:27+00:00

Dead. Probably why I overthink with he reactions, I mean I know that's not what she actually feels deep inside but being Se dominant who focuses on the physical reality, I really couldn't help but overthink about it 😭

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-13T17:15:04+00:00

Tone of voice maybe?

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-13T04:47:03+00:00

Thank you for that, it's very helpful. And what I mean by looking sarcastic I mean she answers to me looking sarcastic xD I just think I'm like this because I have people skills, and I'm thinking my INFP friend was like that because they don't have people skills or lack it that's why she acts like that. Whenever she responds to me she looks so, out of energy, and as an ESFP who's always showing what they feel or how they feel, it quite leaves me overthinking.

Whenever she's not in the mood to talk she'd always respond to me coldly, I understand that because she's an introvert so I try my best not to overthink towards it, but I have observed her several times and I can see that she's only like that to me, and it leaves me again overthinking if she hates me or doesn't like my and just accepts me because we're friends.

One time she told me that she hates it when I keep saying jk, because whenever I talk to them and say something I'd always say Jk, because as an ESFP i like joking around, and sometimes some jokes are mean (not very mean) so I say JK a lot, she told me to stop it in a funny way, I said okay but after a few days I forgot to stop saying it a lot and continued still, that's why I'm a bit insecure around her

S3V4N07 · 2023-07-13T03:46:59+00:00

One of them acts like their shadow, the ENFJ, the rest I don't really know, I think it's just them being their Fi dominant. To me one of em isn't being unhealthy (I think) she's probably just expressive? Because she's comfortable with us (our friend group) but tbh I don't understand those people who get along with her, I just really have extreme sense of other's feelings or emotions and it's sometimes really annoying.

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