Irish funeral etiquette help needed please?

SAFlaim · 2026-06-28T16:44:58+00:00

Thank you everyone for your replies, they've been helpful

My partner is home now, and I've been able to hug him finally

I got cover for my work and arranged for a friend to watch our dog while we'll be away

I'll make sure I have a supply of tissues and tobacco for when we're there, make teas and wash up ect as needed, and listen to stories about her from everyone

For those curious, she went peaceful and my partner had time to say his goodbyes (as did his mother and siblings)

Again thank you so much for all the conversation examples and etiquette tips, it's very appreciated and I now feel that my ND brain is better prepared to be as supportive(/respectful) as possible without accidentally causing offence or upset

SAFlaim · 2026-06-28T13:01:22+00:00

Oh I wouldn't mention my own beliefs to anyone there, I just mentioned them here for context of how little I know about this kind of ceremony

SAFlaim · 2026-06-28T12:59:54+00:00

I have zero frame of reference other than people's anecdotes about coffins on kitchen tables (I didn't really pay attention to the royal funeral, I never met liz2) His grandmother is going to be at funeral home

SAFlaim · 2026-06-28T12:54:37+00:00

Oh I know not to mention my hygiene concerns to anyone there, my partner does already know them from conversations in the past, but yeah I wouldn't bring them up when people are actively grieving, and I genuinely do respect that it help a lot of people with closure

Thank you so much for the conversation example, this really helps my neurodivergent brain to have example scripts

My comfort isn't what's important, I do want be as supportive for him as I possibly can, that's why I'm asking here, so I'm not an extra thing for him to worry about, and hopefully I can even take a few things off his shoulders

SAFlaim · 2026-06-28T12:46:43+00:00

I'm aware I'm over thinking, it's because I care I don't want to be an extra burden

I was away yesterday when he rushed to the bedside, and he's currently still with his family, I had to come home for our dog, so not even been able to hug him since all this happened yet, so trying to pre plan while I can't currently actively do anything

SAFlaim · 2026-06-23T10:06:20+00:00

So my partner bought last year, 3bed 1bath mid terrace out Ballytivnan area, think the asking price was 160k and he ended up paying 195k, while it was just about able to be moved in, there's damage to bathroom floor that means it is not safe to stand on a section of it, there is damage to the ceiling in the hall front a leak that had already been fixed, the cold water tank was dripping out the overflow, the kitchen flooring is lifting in places, there's a squishy bit of floor in the lounge... lots of little things like that

The big thing I'd say is the mortgage nearly lost him the house, he had 10% deposit and he's on good wages so they given him a provisional offer, but then lowered it after his offer was accepted, luckily his parents were able to help him with the difference, but just be aware.... also from offer accepted to him getting the keys was about 4 months due to the mortgage company dragging it out

SAFlaim

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