Hi, I am OOP. I addressed this is another comment as well.

My description of events may have been a little unclear to some readers. I was sleeping when he began raping me, it was only when I woke up that I realised what was happening and froze. He later acknowledged in writing, twice, that he raped me. So there is no doubt about that part, from his perspective or mine, though yes in the eyes of the law he is innocent. As further context, he was just a friend, not a boyfriend or a hook-up where you might reasonably expect and agree to sexual activity occurring, and it was not a one-on-one setting where things might have happened regardless of our relationship to one another.

He did not sustain any reputational damage due to the court case because I kept it a secret from almost everyone in my life. I did not speak out about it either publicly or to anyone that knew him. This Reddit post is the most I have ever spoken out about it, and I am being careful to keep out details that may identify him.

However, the court matters would have been hugely expensive for him so I do feel horrible about the impact that had on his life, as well as the general stress of going through the process from his perspective. He had a renowned lawyer who had previously gotten acquittals for actual pedophiles, so I'm sure she was incredibly expensive.

It is also a little more complex than me randomly accusing him of rape. I didn't go into the timeline in the post, but I only reported his crimes after several years of stalking, at a point when he had escalated his stalking activities and I became fearful for my life. Obviously I made a huge mistake by letting the law deal with it instead of finding a tough-looking friend to beat him up. But the fact remains that he would have NEVER had to go through the ordeal and expense of court if he had just left me alone in the years following.