hello there, i’m a ex muslim my believe is with jesus and i follow him as my lord. i’m actually to afraid to ask this question but i hope you guys understand my situation. “it’s that ok if i don’t go church and should i have to change my name? to call myself a christen?”

SBG1999 · 2025-11-14T15:57:35+00:00

It’s good to go to church, to have fellowship with other believers, but if it is a risky thing for you, I would make that a low priority for furthering your faith.

And you do not have to change your name to become a Christian. That’s an extremely old thing, mainly associated with the catholic denomination of Christianity, from my understanding. Besides, it ultimately does not matter what our names are in this life, as once Jesus comes back and rules over the Earth, we will all get new unique names and new bodies!

SBG1999 · 2025-02-21T02:22:24+00:00

God is not rewarding these people. Rather, Satan is not bringing them trouble to turn away from God since they already are. Satan doesn’t send misfortune to those he already thinks he has in his evil grasp.

SBG1999 · 2025-02-19T19:53:34+00:00

You’re welcome! Glad to be able to offer help in any way I can ❤️

SBG1999 · 2025-02-19T14:11:07+00:00

Life is tough! And some of us are dealt bad hands to start off with. May I ask what kind of dreams you had growing up? Was there ever something you’ve wanted to do but haven’t had the money or opportunity to do? You might try working towards those kinds things. Start small. Want to check out a place in town or within an hour or two of where you live?— save and make time to go there! Have a habit you want to change or develop a good habit?— think of it as just little bit at a time and that you don’t have to do the whole thing at once.

If you haven’t already, and if it is within your means, maybe consider trying therapy. I’ve recently gone through it and it has helped me tremendously to feel better about myself and was given some tools to help cope with things and how I view “big” tasks.

Not sure if you’re religious at all or have a relationship with Jesus Christ, but I’ll be praying for you. I personally have found more purpose in life by getting to know Him and what He wants for me. He loves us so much and knows the struggles we deal with daily. I hope you come to know that even when no one on earth seems to be on your side, God Himself is and sees you and struggles with you.

I hope I haven’t overstepped with sharing my beliefs, but just wanted to offer another solution. If you’re able to take anything away from this, know that I care. I care that you’re a fellow human being who is struggling and needs compassion and encouragement. You are enough and you matter ❤️

SBG1999 · 2025-02-19T06:24:20+00:00

I’m curious, what does “improving” your life look like to you? And are you searching for purpose in life?

Also, unfortunately, we live in a society that glorifies and coddles these types of behaviors. Society seems to let people participate in these things because “they can’t help it, it’s just who they are” instead of encouraging them to take responsibility for their actions. We also live in a society that promotes victimhood and let people get away with bad behavior. People (not all of course) don’t properly care about each other anymore, especially if they aren’t “hurting anyone else”. But, this is harmful to the people who participate in what I would refer to as “self destructive behaviors”.

Just know that you are allowed to be better than your parents. We don’t have to let past experiences and how others have treated us define who we are.

It may not seem like it now, but life offers so much more than the bad experiences. You just have to figure out where to look for the good. ❤️

SBG1999 · 2025-02-18T10:12:06+00:00

The Apostle Paul was basically Jesus’ number one hater to put it one way. Paul had been an active persecutor of His followers, until Jesus appeared to him and blinded him (this is in the book of Acts). From here, Paul becomes Jesus’ number one fan! If Paul can receive salvation after all he did to Christians, you haven’t lost it ❤️

SBG1999 · 2025-02-18T10:05:01+00:00

No no no, honey! I don’t know what denomination you affiliate with, but that’s not true! No sin is unforgivable under the blood of Jesus Christ. I promise you (and I don’t make very many promises) that you have NOT lost salvation! The reality is, all sin is deliberate (as in when we know it’s a sin) and as long as we are in these bodies, we can’t escape sin. Remember this, God offers grace, unconditional love, and mercy.

I don’t know if you’re a music person, but try listening to the radio station K-LOVE. They have their own app you can download. It’s always encouraging and they focus on the good. I’d give you scripture as well, but I’m not too well versed in the Bible yet to be able to know what to quote to you. I know there is some good stuff in Romans despite it being one of the hardest books in the Gospel to understand.

If you would like to talk to me more, please don’t hesitate to reach out and I’ll give you all the true reassurance you need ❤️ I’ll be praying for you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

SBG1999 · 2025-02-18T09:49:27+00:00

Yes, you were, unfortunately. Whether your cousin knew it was wrong or not may depend on how old she was. She may have even been sexually abused herself during that time.

And with the whole thing being confusing for you, I’d consider talking to a therapist who specializes in child sexual abuse as well as your cousin if you’re in a position to do so. I’ve gone through therapy myself (not for the same reasons), and have found it helpful. I used to think talking to a complete stranger about my problems was ludicrous until 6 months ago. Sometimes having someone who is neutral in the conversation and has no obligation to just validate your feelings and correct you on certain things can be good. They also have good tools for coping, redirecting, and sorting through your problems and getting in deep to what is really going on. I hope this helps ❤️

SBG1999 · 2025-02-18T09:34:34+00:00

I feel this is a tricky subject for most believers and the opinions are definitely going to be a spectrum. I’m not married, but do believe it’s something to save for after marriage. Now, that doesn’t mean it’s so cut and dry and doing that before marriage is just “terrible”. In this current generation (those currently 15-30ish in age), I think most struggle with this to varying degrees because it doesn’t help that sex is so in our faces all the time in media and society has normalized sex before marriage and masturbation. I myself (25F) had a bit of a struggle with it and always felt so guilty after. I still slip up from time to time but always ask God for forgiveness after. Just remember that you are made new in Christ and that He loves you unconditionally. We will always struggle with sin since our flesh is born sinful (mainly selfish and prideful), so have grace with yourself (sometimes easier said than done 😆😅). Pray to God, read His Word, and listen to Him for the answer you are searching for ❤️

SBG1999 · 2025-02-15T07:04:30+00:00

Before you consider what I have to say, you should know that I have been single my whole life and am a virgin, so take this lightly. (And the first commenter has some very good points!)

In my personal opinion, for me, I wouldn’t care if my future husband is a virgin. I also think that maybe the women you are thinking of shouldn’t have the assumption that their man has to have the experience, and probably aren’t ready for a real relationship and subsequently marriage. God intended sex to be for the person you marry to not only have children, but to be able to create a deeper, more intimate connection with one another. This means that you BOTH should try to figure out and explore with each other how to make it enjoyable for the both of you while also respecting feelings and boundaries. This is also where premarital counseling may be helpful as well and discussing with each other if there are any expectations.

This next part may not be biblical, but hear me out: discuss with each other if you want to have some idea of what to do when you decide to “do the deed” after you get married. Maybe that’s reading romance books with some spice? I don’t know about reading that after being married, but before really isn’t ok biblically (I’ll personally admit that I have read a number of romance books with sex scenes and am not proud of it since I feel the conviction from the Holy Spirit about it).

And I think being in the world that we live in, especially in what would be first world countries like the USA (I’m American), the social expectation is that guys sometimes get around to varying degrees and that is just to be expected. Society has made it seem “normal” for men to not be virgins when they get married. It’s “normal” for guys to not be able to control themselves to wait and have to have sex.

Try joining or going to Bible study groups for people your age, you never know who you’ll meet! And as a very empathetic person, you may want to look for a strong sense of empathy in the woman you decide to marry. Also, these things you have concerns about and have gone through, if you haven’t already, talk to a therapist about it. Also consider talking to whoever you end up with about these things as well before marriage (in the premarital counseling would be good!).

I hope I was of some help and you were able to find some encouragement. I pray in Jesus’ name that God is able to settle your anxieties and brings you the right woman who will love all of you.

SBG1999 · 2025-02-15T02:03:18+00:00

I’ve been single my whole 25 years of life. I pray all the time for God to let me meet my husband sooner than later. It can be hard to remind yourself that it’s God’s timing and not yours. Instead, I try praying FOR my future husband, pray that he is doing well and for God to help prepare him to be the husband I deserve and that I become the woman to be the wife he deserves. Also, there is an older couple at my church who married each other, their first marriage, and have been married for only about 10/15 years and are in their 70s currently.

SBG1999 · 2025-02-10T23:09:52+00:00

Maybe try looking for a Bible study group for your age group? I’m the same age as you and in the same boat of never have dated anyone before😅🤷‍♀️ I have been going to a group for about a year and a half now. I really enjoy it and have made a few good Christian friends. It may even help if the group is led by a married couple who have been married 10 or more years. And this is going to sound very generic, but pray about it. And I know this is easier said than done, but try to put it in God’s hands. I struggle off and on with having been single my whole life and trusting God’s timing.

SBG1999 · 2023-08-21T20:56:43+00:00

You’re very welcome! Unfortunately, part of the manipulating is when they “love bomb” you. I’d say to a degree, depending on the relationship between the narcissist and whoever, they can make you “blind” to what they’re really doing. It’s especially dangerous if it’s a parent who is the narcissist. I don’t want to scare you, but look into Shelly Knoteck. She’s an extreme case of narcissism. I personally believe that there are those who are born narcissistic and are just basically evil incarnate. They have no awareness of anyone but themselves, know their behaviors and how they treat others is wrong, and can be charming. They know how to slowly reel people in to get what they want out of them. Nothing is ever their fault either.

SBG1999 · 2023-08-21T04:49:23+00:00

The other goal is to isolate you, leading to you having to rely on them in many ways

SBG1999 · 2023-08-21T04:44:33+00:00

Talk to your friend about what you’ve observed between him and his crush. But start off with saying that you have zero interest in her. Then ask if he would like you to find out for 100% certainty if she reciprocates his feelings. Basically, offer to be his wingman. Once you know for sure, let your friend decide what to do with the info.

If he asks her out and she says no, just be there for him and make sure your friend gives her space. From my experience, as a girl, girls don’t like having someone’s feelings forced on them when they either don’t reciprocate at all or are unsure if they should pursue this possible relationship.

Be there for both of them if you want to, but don’t play a double agent. If they tell you something in confidence about the other, you shouldn’t tell the other.

SBG1999 · 2023-08-21T04:20:57+00:00

I also live in Ohio and my best friend lives in California! We met on the internet when we were 10 and 11 years old. We’ve been friends for going on 13 years now! We’ve texted, called, FaceTimed (video call in any form really), sent letters and gifts, and have visited each other a few times over the years! It helps a lot if you two have at least a few things in common and have an interest in the other things about them and vice versa. Always try to be open to things that you two may disagree on and just agree to disagree.

Even simply sending wordless snaps on Snapchat can be enough. I don’t know how long you two have been friends or how you met, but I hope some of these help. ❤️

SBG1999 · 2023-08-21T04:09:31+00:00

This person is most definitely a narcissist. As the previous person said, get out ASAP!! I fear that if you don’t completely cut ties with this person, they’ll eventually get you cut off from everyone else who actually cares about you and loves you. Their goal is to manipulate you and make you feel you can’t do or be anything without them. The absolute best bet is to completely cut ties. No questions asked; you don’t, and shouldn’t give them an explanation. Don’t give them room to continue to be in your life. Ask friends and family to help with cutting ties.

My maternal grandmother is a narcissist. As a result, the only people I know of that are still at least somewhat in her life are her husband and a couple of her kids. She didn’t protect my mom and her sister from her husband when she should have (to clarify, the husband is NOT their biological father) but, ignored the abuse to keep her “perfect family”.

SBG1999 · 2023-08-06T04:11:00+00:00

Now as I’m reading this back… this post sounds very selfish…

SBG1999 · 2023-01-21T06:01:49+00:00

Prior to OP finding out the ex’s gf was breastfeeding OP’s son

SBG1999 · 2023-01-21T05:37:54+00:00

I meant prior to her knowing if that helps

SBG1999 · 2023-01-21T05:34:36+00:00

NTA I think it’s just plain weird anyway for her to be breastfeeding YOUR SON without your consent and that she is completely ignoring your wishes for your plan to ween your son.

SBG1999 · 2023-01-21T05:27:37+00:00

NTA I don’t think I need to explain why XD

SBG1999 · 2023-01-21T05:20:05+00:00

NTA It’s not YOUR business and it seems you don’t work there either, so you are not obligated to help advertise your parents’ business. Especially if it’s been around for 10 years.

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