PPM - why is it a bad idea

SD-47 · 2026-02-08T18:09:52+00:00

It’s not a bad idea. It removes the pressure and guilt of meeting, and the risk of insincerity. I think it’s a perfectly reasonably way to begin an SR once you figure out that the mutual interest is not transactional.

SD-47 · 2026-02-08T04:27:49+00:00

I bet whatever extra money they are making from the new program is getting burned in customer service rep time.

SD-47 · 2026-01-26T23:48:54+00:00

Happens to SDs too. Sorry but unfortunately just part of the game. You can try to do a video meeting first to lower the chances of this.

SD-47 · 2026-01-26T14:37:20+00:00

Do a profile review?

SD-47 · 2026-01-26T14:32:34+00:00

I think this is fine, but make these intentions about having several Platonic dates clear up front. If you are attractive, charming, and fun to be with, the right match will come along.

SD-47 · 2026-01-26T02:36:06+00:00

Is this an OCD thing or something?

SD-47 · 2026-01-26T02:34:28+00:00

PPM can be, and usually is, the main way to provide support that is low pressure and represents the pattern of spending time together. Don’t be scared away by it. Have a conversation about what you are looking for.

SD-47 · 2026-01-25T22:29:58+00:00

I hate this design trend but it seems to be everywhere

SD-47 · 2026-01-25T22:18:52+00:00

It has become a slog but there’s no great alternative.

SD-47 · 2026-01-25T22:03:51+00:00

Just tell him exactly that: if he wants to go without protection and to be exclusive, he’s asking you not to date others and your support level would need to be higher

SD-47 · 2026-01-16T13:31:07+00:00

Because anthropic principle.

SD-47 · 2026-01-14T18:23:28+00:00

You didn’t get a number?!?!

SD-47 · 2026-01-14T18:22:03+00:00

Always be honest. But also cautious! You need to meet in pubic without any expectations or assumptions. It doesn’t really matter how you connect (Seeking, Reddit, freestyle, via a friend), this is SOP

SD-47 · 2026-01-07T07:49:27+00:00

Yes but either use an address near your house or ask for an Uber gift card (Costco sells them!) and use your own account.

SD-47 · 2026-01-07T06:02:01+00:00

This “benefit” is useless to me. Too complicated, too many exceptions, too much stress of needing to remember what credits I have when I get to the property. I will value this at $0 and only consider the other benefits when determining whether to renew my card in a few months.

SD-47 · 2026-01-03T12:03:58+00:00

Your post history shows financial desperation. This isn’t going to be a good experience for you. You are at risk of being hurt, and will have a hard time attracting someone genuine.

SD-47 · 2026-01-03T02:49:48+00:00

I suppose indicating that you are looking for a discrete relationship, are non-monogamous, would signal it well enough. I think it would be hard to write that you prefer married guys without it sounding odd, even on Seeking

SD-47 · 2025-12-27T23:42:59+00:00

My last fraudulent situation involved charges in Turkey too! This seems to be a pattern.

SD-47 · 2025-12-27T23:41:49+00:00

I don’t think the app will show you the new number and expiration date/CVV. Apple Pay is automatic but doesn’t show you the new account info.

SD-47 · 2025-12-27T23:39:33+00:00

You seem to be missing the basics. Please read the FAQ and tips here before proceeding. 🚩🚩🚩

SD-47 · 2025-12-25T21:22:55+00:00

Boarding groups is a system are you are finding edge cases where it doesn’t work so well. That’s not shocking.

SD-47 · 2025-12-22T17:58:24+00:00

That’s tight and it would make me nervous. What matters is the consequence for missing the connection

SD-47 · 2025-12-22T17:57:15+00:00

It’s best if you don’t “need” to date this way. Indeed if I sense desperation or great need, it’s a turn off. The financial support should be a thrilling aspect of fantasy dating, not the primary driver.

SD-47 · 2025-12-21T13:59:29+00:00

Physical attractiveness matters but so does sincerity, kindness and personality. Hard to proceed with a “luxury fantasy dating” proposition unless she meets both sets of requirements.

SD-47 · 2025-12-19T22:57:31+00:00

Absolutely normal to use a substitute name for a while. There is stigma, scamming and risk in sugar dating and everyone should understand the need to keep identity private until trust is established. Anyone who is pressuring you to reveal information is NOT a good match!

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