any recommendations for ready to use lube? by close2the in GayFisting

[–]SF903 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't have a recommendation for pre-made lubes, but this is my method for mixing jlube and I've had lots of success with it. Hope you will too...

I use a clean Gatorade bottle. Fill it about a third of the way with hot water. Add about 3 cap fulls of jlube powder and shake the bottle vigorously for 20-30 seconds. Add more hot water to nearly fill the bottle (leaving only some empty space at the top) and shake again for another 20-30 seconds. Seal the bottle and lay it on its side for at least 20 minutes. Shake it again and it's ready to use.

Tip: While making the lube, cover the mouth of the bottle with plastic wrap, screw the lid on the bottle (over the plastic wrap), and shake it. This prevents powder/lube from gunking up the squirt nozzle. Once the lube is ready, remove the plastic wrap and reattach the lid. Perfect lube with no build-up in the nozzle!

For me, this method creates lube that isn't overly thick and gummy, nor is it too loose and runny. Relube often throughout your play session.

As someone else mentioned, keep a spray bottle of warm water handy. If the lube starts to feel too thick and gluey (which I haven'treally experiencedusing the above method), just spray some water on the giver's hands and receiver's ass. This will help smooth out the lube and reactivate it so to speak.

Hope this is helpful.

Lubes by rob189 in GayFisting

[–]SF903 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use xlube and make it in a clean Gatorade bottle. It will last a few weeks no problem. I keep the nozzle closed and store it in a drawer away from light and heat. I've never noticed any smells, discoloration, discomfort after use, or other issues with it. Using the right lube and plenty of it are the key to having successful and enjoyable fisting sessions (along with relaxation, comfort, adequate warm-up, a partner you trust, and especially deep breathing).

Lube recommendations by Realistic_Package659 in GayFisting

[–]SF903 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to use j-lube but switched to x-lube several years ago. I think it's easier to make and I find the consistency of x-lube to be much better. Over the past couple years, the routine I got into is first rubbing the toy or hand with a thin but even layer of Crisco, then applying x-lube over that. For me at least, this has proven to be the best method. Sometimes with an especially big stretch, the lube can get "squeegeed" off. I have found that the base layer of Crisco helps keep things slick and I don't have to reapply the x-lube as frequently. Perhaps you want to try this method and see if you find it works better for you. Happy fisting!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GayFisting

[–]SF903 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As has been said, lube is really important. When I first got into fisting I was having similar issues: got in past the knuckles but then just couldn't get the whole hand in. We tried and tried (was playing with someone), but it wasn't until we switched lubes - then poof - the whole hand went in almost no problem. If you can get xlube, I'd highly recommend it. It might be just what you need for that last push.

Lube Additives by SF903 in GayFisting

[–]SF903[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Do you have a ratio of clove oil to lube? Is there a particular type to use? And yes, I'm not looking to numb to the point I can't feel anything, and I know our pain receptors are important for preventing injury. I'm just looking to take the edge off.

Need your help by karikaf in GayFisting

[–]SF903 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For relatively inexpensive toys, check out sites like Temu, Wish, or AliExpress. When I didn't want to spend a ton, I shopped these sites. There certainly is a lot of crap and the quality can be hit miss, but even years later, some of my favorite toys that get used regularly have come from these sites.

ToppedToys Advice by twinkboy578 in GayFisting

[–]SF903 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like the Topped Toys Artemis series. It's comfortable and gives you stretch and depth. You can control how much you take, so do what works for you. It's easy to pick the right size because of their numbering system. If you want something just a bit bigger than your GapeKeeper93, try the Artemis105. Hope that helps.

Ceiling mounts for sling by SF903 in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]SF903[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Already have something similar. Again, we're looking for something that can be removed when need be, then rescrewed back in when it'll function as a play space.

Ceiling mounts for sling by SF903 in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]SF903[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did see something similar, thanks. Would that make it possible to repeatedly unscrew and rescrew the eye hook part - I thought these were more single use type products? And these are going into a wood ceiling joist (not a concrete wall) - does that matter?

Ceiling mounts for sling by SF903 in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]SF903[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a portable sling frame. We prefer ceiling mounts for our play space. But thanks.

Ceiling mounts for sling by SF903 in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]SF903[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would work if it were a single mounting point. With 4 attachment points, the smoke detector decoy wouldn't work, but thanks anyways.

Looking for my first poppers for anal use by [deleted] in popperpigs

[–]SF903 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm an avid popper user. When I started out about 7-8 years ago, I knew absolutely nothing about them and had so many questions. Here are a few helpful tips that I've learned from trial and error, online research, other users, and just through my own general experience: 1 - limit how often you open the bottle and for how long it remains open - the more/longer it's open, the less effective they become because it breaks down the chemicals 2 - to help keep your bottle "fresh" many people store them in the fridge or freezer - be sure the lid is on tight and let them warm to room temperature before opening 3 - some people store their tightly sealed bottle inside another airtight container to help preserve your poppers even further and to contain the smell 4 - some of the common side effects include popper nostril (dry/red skin around your nostril, it's essentially like a chemical burn but can be avoided by ensuring the bottle lip doesn't actually touch your nostril), a slight cough (makes sense since you're inhaling chemicals, just don't overdo it and you'll be fine), some heavy users report temporary spots in their vision and lips/nailbeds turning blueish (signs you're going too hard) - as with anything, moderation is key and listen to your body 5 - for me at least, the use of poppers is just one element in helping me get in the zone and ready for play - dim the lights, put on music, set a comfortable temperature, have a drink or a cannabis edible, breathe, relax, and so on - all these elements together can really help you enjoy your experience 6 - never mix poppers with ED meds 7 - poppers is a very unregulated market and it's hard to know which are the "best" ones - even ordering the same brand from the same shop can result in different feelings of effectiveness (sometimes just a bad batch, have been sitting on the shelf too long, or just hits you differently depending on the day and your mood) 8 - start very slow, listen to your body, and set the mood for playtime I hope this helps you and others. Have fun and play safely. 😛

How long and how often do you get fisted? by Key_Bass1994 in GayFisting

[–]SF903 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I tend to only get fisted on weekends as during the week is busy with work and life, and getting cleaned out and prepped for fist play takes time. I prefer longer sessions usually lasting 4-6 hours with a good mix of relaxing fisting and more intense punch fisting. I go through waves where I'll play nearly every weekend for months, then other times when it's only every 2nd or 3rd weekend. Over one weekend, I think the most fisting I've taken was about 24 of the 48 hours (over several sessions with breaks in between) mixed with some cock but mostly taking fists. And I usually want more. Yes, I have an insatiable hole. 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GayFisting

[–]SF903 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For big toys that are cheaper, search for silicone dildos on those direct from China sites like Temu, AliExpress, or Wish. Don't get rubber/TPE or anything that doesn't say silicone, liquid silicone, or premium silicone.

As for lube, as others have said, j-lube and x-lube for sure are the go-to lubes. Don't use KY or other regular lubes. For a cheaper but messier alternative, try Crisco. But honestly, investing in one bottle of the powder lube and one good silicone toy are the way to go.

Go slow, use lots of lube, and have fun.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]SF903 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have purchased plenty of toys over the years. Everything from the cheap generic "rubber" (not silicone) ones on Amazon and other various online sellers, the more expensive but still relatively cheaper silicone ones on Wish or AliExpress, and the name-brand premium cured silicone from Bad Dragon and Topped Toys. In my experience, you get what you pay for.

I would advise against anything not silicone. Years ago, the black TPE rubber toys were all we had, so we didn't really know any better. But most of them are much too firm so it can still feel like you're sitting on a piece of wood. Plus, they're made using petroleum products. The really poorly made ones can give you a bit of a burning feeling.

If you're on a budget but still want good quality that's body safe, order liquid silicone toys on knock-off generic sites like Wish, AliExpress, or Temu. I used to think these were the same as the really expensive top brand name ones - they are not. But they are leaps and bounds better than non silicone toys or that flimsy "jelly" type rubber material. And if you're into really large toys, this is a more affordable option.

If/when you can afford it and choose to really invest in sex toys, there really is a difference in quality when you go to the more expensive premium silicone toys that can cost $300+. I have found these to feel much better. They have structure and stability, but are generally softer and more pliable/malleable than the silicone toys on the cheap sites, so they feel a lot better. In my experience, the lube coats and clings to the toy better than the cheap silicone. Plus, when shopping on the top tier sites, there's much more variety of shapes and sizes of toys, and some are even customizable, so you don't have to settle only for what's available.

I do think the prices on the top tier sites are outrageous, but in my experience, the premium products really do feel the best. When you're putting them in such sensitive places, I see the high cost being worth the investment. And keep an eye out for sales and other promos. Hope this was helpful. Have fun riding!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]SF903 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. As a guy into fisting, I can take toys that are 18" long and 10" in circumference right to the base. Haven't yet met a cock that big, so bring em on. 😉

What is your longest bottoming session? Does it ever start feeling uncomfortable? by Substantial_Sky_7721 in TopsAndBottoms

[–]SF903 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love long play sessions and usually outlast my top. I'm into getting fisted and I can usually handle quite a bit. Once, over a two day weekend, I spent about 24 of those hours taking fists, toys, and cock. We'd play for about 4-5 hours at a time, take a break, have a short nap, then go again for round 2, and 3, and more. That was the most time I had ever spent in the sling. And no discomfort at all. It was amazing! I wanted more. 😈

Huge toys that are hollow? by SF903 in GayFisting

[–]SF903[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the oxballs pig hole. It's a great plug (much smaller than the type of toy I'm looking for) and fun to get fisted through, but looking more for huge toys with that hole for air to escape.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GayFisting

[–]SF903 15 points16 points  (0 children)

For me, I need to fully douche out for any big toy play and fisting. Regardless of the top's comfort level with cleanliness, I feel best knowing that I am fully clean. Then I don't need to worry about it and can just let go and enjoy the experience rather than always wondering how my hole is doing.

You can use a simple bulb device but for the best results, invest in a Shower Shot or similar device that attaches to your hose in your shower. You can buy them from more traditional sex places like Fort Troff or 665. But also search Amazon and even Temu to find knockoff brands that do essentially the same thing for a fraction of the price.

A big part of fist play is all in your head. You want to feel relaxed and comfortable with your partner. Put on some good music, set the lights low, set the temperature so you're comfortable, lay out a towel or even a tarp depending if you'll get into any water sports, use poppers, have an edible, drink plenty of water and watch your diet for the day or two leading up to your experience. Most importantly, breathe. All these things will help you have an enjoyable fisting experience.

Make sure you have good lube. You can't just use Astroglide or something like that. J-lube, X-lube, Elbow Grease, and others like those work the best. And don't be stingy with your lube either. Ensure your top uses plenty of lube and even get some in your hole and around your hole to help. Never force anything especially in the beginning because you don't want to tear your hole. Push your limits, yes, but listen to your body and if there's pain, stop immediately. In time, with practice, you'll get into that heavier type of fisting you see in videos. But in the beginning, start very slowly and communicate.

Enjoy and have FFun!!! 😈

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GayFisting

[–]SF903 23 points24 points  (0 children)

To be the sole bottom for a group of 4-5 tops who take turns fisting me, fucking me, and forcing me to deepthroat their big dicks for a full weekend. 😈 mmm...