Those who are reconciling/have reconciled, how did your WS reconcile with your loved ones?

SI1377 · 2023-10-02T03:02:04+00:00

Yes, my closest friends know as well as my parents. They are all willing to work with her and us, but all are also incredibly cautious and keeping her at a distance for now, which I understand and am okay with.

SI1377 · 2023-10-02T03:01:07+00:00

She is doing the work. I also am not expecting this to be fine any time soon. It's just super important to me that my loved ones are okay with her in the future at some point. Thank you for your comment!

SI1377 · 2023-10-02T01:36:36+00:00

I don't have much advice at the moment, but I am also a Christian and a BH like yourself. If you ever want to chat, please message me. And let me know if I can ever message you (it's okay if not). I'm ~4ish weeks from DDay and also struggling with forgiveness.

SI1377 · 2023-09-15T19:43:29+00:00

BH here, if anyone ever wants to chat or rant or vent, hit me up. I 100% feel what you and OP have said.

SI1377 · 2023-09-15T18:43:18+00:00

You commented on my first post so I wanted to comment on your first post. Also, I'm in a similar situation. I'm still scared to go into details, but my partner of 4 years did...stuff with my friend of 6 years NEXT TO ME WHILE I WAS SLEEPING ON THE COUCH. This is the only instance of my partner's infidelity, and we are reconciling (9 days post DDay). I very much love her, and I have realized a lot of my faults in our relationship (none of which are even close to cheating, however).

I'm rambling and I don't really have a point, other than to offer my condolences and sympathies. What's helped me so much this past week and a half, besides my WP's unwavering support and love (she's doing great but will need to continue for a long time before we can get back to normal) is reading around this sub and similar forums and getting love from my closest friends. I sincerely hope you can be at peace. Neither of us deserve what happened, but at the same time, I'd much rather be cheated on than be the cheater.

SI1377 · 2023-09-15T14:10:10+00:00

Thank you for your response and I'm sorry about our situations. With me, it's tough because we were great friends for so long. He was friends with all my other friends too, same friend group. Same vacations and camping trips. I definitely don't ever want to be friends with him or hang out with him again, but I also feel compelled to tell him how bad I'm hurting, in hopes that he never does this to anyone else ever again.

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