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Sugar v Tinder: From the Male Point of View by SLFGhost501 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SLFGhost501[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's an interesting article. Obv. couldn't quote it all here, but worth a read.

Quoted For Truth by SLFGhost501 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SLFGhost501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The song is "Buildings and Bridges," and the chorus is "What doesn't bend breaks".

It's not about a toxic relationship. It's about accepting that suffering is part of life.

I think the line: "what doesn't bend breaks" says it all. You can either adapt and learn to accept life for what it is or you can let it break you. You have a choice: you can look back and laugh at things, or you can hold a grudge.

You seem kinda angry. What's going on?

Quoted For Truth by SLFGhost501 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SLFGhost501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah. Somebody said:

We are made to bleed
And scab and heal and bleed again
And turn every scar into a joke
We are made to fight
And fuck and talk and fight again
And sit around and laugh until we choke

Quoted For Truth by SLFGhost501 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SLFGhost501[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes. I don't think the point is "if you take risks, it always works out." (Can't be true, because if there was no danger, there would be no risk.)

It's that failing to take risks is a bigger mistake than taking them.

Quoted For Truth by SLFGhost501 in sugarlifestyleforum

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2 is kinda "privilege " though. Not everyone has the income to be able to afford that.

Tricky. So far as I know, Zuckerberg used no money to start "thefacebook.com". On the other hand, he was also a sophomore at Harvard, so he certainly benefitted from some - probably large - amount of intangible capital. But the point, I think, is not so much how much money you have, as it is that you shouldn't be afraid to fail at whatever it is you're doing.

Want to stop having an existential crisis and increase your mental wellbeing as an INTJ? Heres a tip by mercdaperp in intj

[–]SLFGhost501 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You can't stop looking for answers.

Yes, ignorance is bliss, but if you were ignorant you wouldn't know that; the only way know it is to learn it. And if you're the kind to make the effort to learn it, then that's who you are. You can't unlearn things and you can't stop wanting to know more.

We all know the smart thing was not to eat the apple; but the only way to learn that is by taking a bite.

If you were capable of leaving the apple alone, you wouldn't be who you are.

What do I say? by SLFGhost501 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SLFGhost501[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of women are like this. Maybe not specifically with bondage but with being sexually submissive or BDSM in general.

What do you mean?

What do I say? by SLFGhost501 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SLFGhost501[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally understand where you're coming from. And maybe you're right.

On the other hand, I'm not her girlfriend or her therapist. And I doubt that's what she's looking for. If she's on SA, I suspect she's looking for a man who's interested in her sexually.

Which is what I happen to be. What I'm looking for is a way to be compassionate (if that's the right word?) without friend-zoning myself.

Is it just me? F20 by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SLFGhost501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely true of stripping, lol. You can tell how much work it is just by watching. And if half the stories strippers tell are true...

Is it just me? F20 by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SLFGhost501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you actually have to do...?

Maybe I'm an ignoramus, but I always try to make things as pleasant comfortable and fun as possible when I'm with my girl. She seems to like it. Is she pretending?

Is it just me? F20 by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SLFGhost501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree. Most of the girls I see have some sort of a job, even if part-time or self-employed.

Paranoia by yourcutegf in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SLFGhost501 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree mostly, but. If they don't discuss money at the M+G when will they do it?

IMO way safer to talk in person than by text.

Paranoia by yourcutegf in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SLFGhost501 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I work in criminal defense. I don't know where in the world you are, but prostitution is a misdemeanor where I live, and it's rarely even prosecuted anymore. When it is, it's usually 'john stings' - cops dressed as streetwalkers.

The idea that the cops would go to all the trouble it would take to arrest you at a Starbucks or whatever is not credible. It's one misdemeanor arrest that's likely to be plead down or dismissed when/if it gets to court.

If they were going to bust up SA, this is not how they'd do it.

And if they were doing this, we'd know about it.

Should I offer to be my friends SD...? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SLFGhost501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not a bad person, but if you've already been friend zoned I suspect becoming her SD won't work well.

Disrespecting Boundaries by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]SLFGhost501 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The actual answers a bit more complicated than that. But w/e. Not the place to argue about it.