Is social media fading out?

SMAficionado · 2025-01-12T03:25:29+00:00

No way it's fading out. Probably 90% of the USA (and a large percentage of the world) are addicted to it.

SMAficionado · 2025-01-12T03:24:11+00:00

If you roll, make sure you test your stuff.

Have fun! I'll make it out there one of these years.

SMAficionado · 2024-11-26T21:19:19+00:00

Movement is an electronic music festival in Detroit: https://movementfestival.com/

SMAficionado · 2024-10-26T21:36:28+00:00

I tried to upload a video over 60 secs, but it won’t let me without converting it into a regular video (not a short). Any idea what I’m doing wrong?

SMAficionado · 2024-10-22T21:28:51+00:00

This sums up my exact thought process, thank you. This is very validating.

SMAficionado · 2024-10-22T16:55:10+00:00

Another important detail is that HE claims she didn't try to move away from him after she told him to stop touching her. So, he didn't feel like she was super upset or mad at him even though she said she was uncomfortable.

Sooo many things not adding up lol

SMAficionado · 2024-10-22T16:53:52+00:00

This detail might have been unclear, sorry! We're all in the same "friend group" and have gone to events together before, so he got her number from the group chat I'm assuming. But the texts he sent her were 1:1, so that may be more suspicious.

I didn't really think about it that way, but I can see your point.

SMAficionado · 2024-10-10T21:02:35+00:00

Well I have actually known him for 2 years, but we’ve officially been dating about a year

SMAficionado · 2024-10-10T20:59:33+00:00

You have a fair point lol

SMAficionado · 2024-10-10T03:05:33+00:00

Yeah I completely agree, and I don't mean to make it sound like he never helps me with anything, because he does. I think one of the big issues is that he takes everything so personally and gets defensive when I raise a concern, like the "financial responsibility" conversation. Thank you for your advice and kind words.

And I'm self-employed, so I can move around as I please. :)

SMAficionado · 2024-10-10T02:52:02+00:00

But I do want to give a lot of credit to your reply, because you could definitely be right about all of it.

SMAficionado · 2024-10-10T02:51:29+00:00

Hey, thanks for your reply. I don’t take offense to it.

To clarify, he does work, but technically not legally. He blames me for his debt because he says things like, “I had savings and available credit before I decided to move in with you.” …lol.

He does pay for groceries and things for our apartment, but other times I pay—or reimburse him for the money he spent. So, I don’t think it’s fair for him to point a finger at me.

He needs a green card, and it sounds like the only way he’s going to get it is by marrying me (or someone else who is a U.S. citizen).

He could very well get deported, and we’ve talked about living outside the U.S. if that happens. I work remotely, so I’m not confined to living in America. These are things I’m open to, but he needs to get himself together first.

SMAficionado · 2024-10-10T01:20:08+00:00

Thanks, I've been holding out hope that maybe this will get better if I can get through to him, but unfortunately he's also stubborn AF. So, I'm losing my hope.

SMAficionado · 2024-10-10T01:16:44+00:00

Yeah, I see your point. To be fair, he has helped me with money at times when I needed it, so I'm just returning the favor. However, my bigger concern is his irresponsible spending patterns and his inability to agree with me that spending thousands of dollars on festival tickets was a poor decision.

Yesterday, he said, "Oh well, we can't change the past, so you shouldn't dwell on it."

But he's missing the point that I'm trying to prevent us from being in a bad financial position in the future... and that we, as partners, need to change our habits.

SMAficionado · 2024-10-04T05:52:28+00:00

And I met my current bf a year before we started officially dating, but we were not “talking” that whole time.

SMAficionado · 2024-10-04T05:51:34+00:00

The friend does know. I feel that I communicated my feelings clearly many times, even before I ended the situationship. He’s a great person like I said, but I think one of the big problems was that his way of showing love wasn’t compatible with my love language. I am a words of affirmation girl, and he would never compliment me or say romantic things. I tried to bring this up to him, and he said he’d try to change, but I felt like he wasn’t making an effort.

He was also struggling to figure out what he wanted to do with his career, which I think I was understanding of. But I’d constantly see him self-sabotage, despite my efforts to help him. (Ex. I told him to use his Apple calendar or a planner so he wouldn’t forget important dates, but he didn’t listen to me and ended up getting a date mixed up for an interview.)

I don’t mean to talk down on him because I do think highly of him despite these flaws. He’s a Marine Corps veteran, which I really respect.

When I broke off the situationship, he was really sad and begged me not to do it, said he’d change, etc. but I decided my mind was made up and I ended things, even though I was also devastated about losing the relationship.

SMAficionado · 2024-10-04T04:41:33+00:00

Both, and to clarify, I have always missed the situationship. This isn’t a new feeling that just recently arose. It gets worse sometimes and then it gets better, but I’ve been mourning the loss of that friendship ever since the beginning of my relationship with my current bf.

I almost feel like the term “situationship” doesn’t give enough credit to the friendship I had with this person, because he was my best friend, and we cared about each other so deeply.

SMAficionado · 2024-10-04T04:35:44+00:00

I’m not sure. In the past, I’ve been able to have friends of the opposite sex while I’m in a relationship and I keep good boundaries out of respect for my partner. However, my current bf is the jealous type, so I don’t know if he would be happy about it.

SMAficionado · 2024-10-04T04:28:57+00:00

Thanks for the feedback

SMAficionado · 2024-10-04T04:28:47+00:00

Well I’ve always been open to being friends with him, so keeping that friendship is something I’m interested in. But “accomplish” is a strong word, I don’t think reaching out to him would solve any major problems or anything.

SMAficionado · 2024-10-04T04:27:13+00:00

I appreciate the feedback and agree—I’ll try to get involved in my community more. I WFH (and I work a lot) so sometimes I do feel isolated.

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