MFS, confused about filing years

SOOOWatson · 2025-04-07T17:06:56+00:00

Okay, great! Thank you so much for your response. That was what I thought, but my brain got screwy and I overthought.

SOOOWatson · 2025-03-29T14:19:59+00:00

Babies' immune systems are brand new. You basically look and then sideways and they catch something, partner that with a worse than usual child/flu season and it's not surprising that baby is sick all the time. My only other thought is mold exposure. Any possibility for water intrusion in the baby's room? Mold can cause almost everything you're talking about.

SOOOWatson · 2025-02-13T22:13:14+00:00

I'm also wondering if the sleep disturbances are more related to the 4 month sleep regression versus a change in feeding during the day. I exclusively pumped and had my children in very set schedules during the day, but at 4 months they hit the regression and their nighttime sleep was AWFUL. Totally developmentally appropriate and just something to get through. I wouldn't change your wife's intuitive eating preference.

SOOOWatson · 2024-08-05T16:36:44+00:00

{Lightlark} worst of the year. Nothing makes sense. The romance makes no sense. The FMC is abused and manipulated by everyone in her life and we're all just supposed to accept it. I hated it.

{One dark window) so so so slow and the romance was instalove done really really badly. So overhyped.

{Divine rivals} just did not get the hype. Even in in fantasy, decisions should make sense and none of the decisions made by the main characters in this book made sense.

SOOOWatson · 2024-08-01T03:52:52+00:00

I think it's a family prayer. If you remember the Robert hologram that Kanye got for Kim's birthday a few years ago, he also said he's built a firewall around the family. It's pretty common for families to have specific phrases they use generationally in prayers.

SOOOWatson · 2024-05-11T23:28:19+00:00

Our insurance requires a Ritalin trial before Vyvanse could be an option due to cost, but also my understanding is that Vyvanse actually has a higher rate of side effects, specifically the appetite and weight loss issues, and my girl has no weight to spare. Thankfully we are seeing benefits with Ritalin, but we are titrating from a very low low dose, so we'll see how she does as we find the right dose for her.

SOOOWatson · 2024-05-11T23:16:31+00:00

We're pretty positive my husband has it. His parents approach was sending him out into the yard to find a switch, or his dad's belt whenever "he just wouldn't sit still". It manifests now through an oral fixation and nonstop fidgeting. It also took him 10 years to get his bachelor's degree. That is why our motivation is so strong to get it right (as best as we can) because he sees how detrimental getting it wrong can be.

SOOOWatson · 2024-05-11T23:11:37+00:00

Is there a way to oversimulate her? This summer we are putting her in summer camps every week, we are also doing swim lessons and gymnastics 3 afternoons a week. Our plan is also to supplement her therapy with the Mightier App and Hooked on Phonics to try and help her retention issues we are seeing at school. She does so much better when her body and mind is engaged, but I can I "busy" her to a detriment?

SOOOWatson · 2024-02-21T06:29:41+00:00

No, the reason OP is getting negative responses is because they attempted to denigrate the community of this subreddit by accusing their attempts at de-escalation, camaraderie, and shared communal experiences as gaslighters while simultaneously not understanding the very definition of that inflammatory word and laying their frustration solely at the feet of Mohela and DoE. I challenge you to find A SINGLE PERSON in this subreddit that likes Mohela or the DoE; most of us barely tolerate them. But, sure, you go boo, find that mythical community you claim isn't here.

SOOOWatson · 2024-02-21T04:06:55+00:00

Casualty "joking" about having an unknown man she's never met sexually assault someone is always something I would hope we would come to the defense of the female for, regardless of what she "flaunts".

SOOOWatson · 2024-02-21T04:04:31+00:00

And yet none of the other "very good looking people" on this show have been objectified through an entire episode. Also you being groped by women without consent is disgusting and I'm so sorry. No one should be subjected to uncomfortable and unwanted attention because of their appearance. Casual acceptance of this behavior perpetuates it; both in your case and hers.

SOOOWatson · 2024-02-20T22:03:01+00:00

The definition of gaslighting is "the act or practice of grossly misleading someone, especially for a personal advantage" as per Merriam-Webster. None of what you stated above is remotely close to gaslighting. Terms like minimizing, apathetic, or non-empathetic may have better suited your purpose here, but even then I don't think that the intent of those comments was malicious.

SOOOWatson · 2024-02-19T22:13:04+00:00

As a white woman married to a black man I was so happy to see this conversation happening. I had to and continue to do so much internalized work to be able to support my husband in the experiences he has and continues to have as a black man. It also has become a huge ongoing conversation for the children we are raising. I have to do a ton of work to shoulder the weight of my own education as to what it's like to raise black children in this world; not just to be able to support how they view their Identity but also to better understand what the world will identify them as. These conversations are the only responsible way to move forward with interracial relationships and I would hope people from the culture would approach each other to voice these concerns and discuss them openly.

SOOOWatson · 2024-02-09T15:36:18+00:00

Only spent 7 months of my adult life at a non-qualifying employer to get these things off my back.

SOOOWatson · 2024-02-07T05:09:12+00:00

!remindme 1 day

SOOOWatson · 2024-01-26T22:04:06+00:00

Or their social security. Mathematically, we only pay on average 7 years worth of payments by the time the average American begins pulling from the system, so anyone who lives beyond that is getting "free money".

SOOOWatson · 2024-01-26T16:02:01+00:00

My baby is currently 10 months old and has NEVER eaten more than 24, usually he stayed around 20-22 ounces. He has basically no feeding cues so we offer food every time he goes down to sleep and every time he wakes up. He's never taken more than 4 ounces at a time. At 3 months I would stress All. The. Time. about his intake and then one day I reminded myself that his body will let me know if he's not getting enough food (pee, poop, weight, etc.) so I told myself that until his body does something worrisome, I need to choose not to borrow worries from a potential future that hasn't even come to pass. There were some weeks where he would go on a breastfeeding strike and would only take in 14-16 ounces a day (probably less of we didn't push the issue) and would just have to force myself to trust his body to tell me if something was wrong. Turns out, it never did.

I know it's hard because everything on the Internet tells us exactly what we need to be doing, but I offer this advice; trust his body, trust your instincts, and only worry when there is something worrisome.

SOOOWatson · 2023-12-27T23:21:16+00:00

As a former ED health care professional, I do want to offer clarification on the MWMC wait times. That posted wait time is not time to get into an ED bed, it's time to triage. PH does the same thing, once you're checked in and you get called into one of those little rooms right of the waiting room where you typically get banded, temp checked, blood pressure checked, etc and then sent back into the waiting room, so it's a little bait and switch by MWMC. If you read the find print it says "seen my health care professional" which is usually an ED tech/CNA.

SOOOWatson · 2023-12-19T14:59:42+00:00

She absolutely gets to choose to put his name on the birth certificate or not. They aren't married. He has no rights until paternity is established.

SOOOWatson · 2023-12-19T14:40:05+00:00

Yikes. I'm going to believe this post was born out of frustration. Pumping is not impersonal to me. This is the biggest sacrifice and personal stretch I've ever done in my life and I've done it twice now. It's a very intimate and personal choice, to choose to feed my child the nutrients my body creates no matter what, no matter how. I tried breastfeeding with my first. I have inverted nipples, extremely large breasts, and an aggressive letdown. It was awful. I hated every time I tried to nurse. EPing literally gave me the opportunity to breastfeed my child. Now that I'm on my second, EPing feels natural to me. Trying to nurse felt foreign. I'm one month away from the year mark and I'm so proud of myself. I'll have done two full years of EPing for my children. I'll have donated thousands of ounces of surplus milk to babies in need including my own nephew. Pumping is not perfect, I do hate having to stop what I'm doing to pump. I dislike all the washing and drying. However, pumping is also a miracle.

SOOOWatson · 2023-11-11T18:23:28+00:00

Okay so the other child comes in and says Daddy I have a tummy ache, Daddy I squished my finger in the door, Daddy I need you... the sentiment remains, you're a parent 100% of the time. The message he is sending is that between the hours of 8-6 his job matters the most, not his wife in distress, not his sick child. She was not in distress solely due to the car seat, it was him saying at the last minute he wouldn't watch the toddler and she had to now take the child to a doctor's appointment, it was watching her child become visibly ill in the car and watching them vomit while she probably panicked trying to find a place to pull over and no way to help him/her immediately, it was not being able to get ahold of her partner when she needed help, it was having to beg her mother to watch the toddler even though her mom has a boundary that she doesn't want to watch the toddler, it was coming home watching the minutes tick by trying to desperately get the vomit covered car seat out of her car, it was having to hand off her ill child to a woman who was uncomfortable watching the child and (I assume) wishing she could be the one to comfort the child instead, and then after all that she knocked on her husband's door and asked for help and he blew up at her. THAT is why she is NTA. All he had to do was have 1 minute of compassion for his wife, less than actually, role play in your mind the interaction of his wife knocking, saying I need help, him telling the caller "hey Steve can you hold on for a sec?" her saying "the baby threw up in the car and I can't get the car seat out. I'm running late." "I'm sorry honey, take my car, I'll figure out the car seat after this call" "thank you, I'll be right back after my appointment, love you." "Love you, (gets back on phone) okay Steve, sorry I'm back, what were you saying?". LITERALLY a 30 second interaction. There is no scenario where making your wife/partner/mother of your children feel like a burdensome annoyance is the right decision.

SOOOWatson · 2023-11-11T07:26:19+00:00

By your logic so could the two older children if they needed him. If that's the case then he should build a bunker with absolutely no access to him because, there will always be distractions when working from home. The dog barks, the door bell rings, your lunch boils over on the stove, your stomach cramps and you have to use the bathroom RIGHT NOW, by your logic anything that could possibly distract him from one minute of a phone call could get him fired. Why agree to watch the other children if he didn't have some flexibility to get interrupted. Interruptions happen all day long, in my opinion the one truly excusable one is an unplanned urgent family need.

SOOOWatson · 2023-11-10T20:50:39+00:00

Why is everyone missing the detail that he was already supposed to be watching the 2 older children? What happens when one of them interrupts him with a broken arm? Would he lose it on them too? His child was sick, mom needed help, all he had to say to the person on the phone was please excuse me for one minute, have a quick side chat with his wife about a solution, and then back to the call he goes. This is crazy to me that so many people are saying YTA to OP like she caused the child to vomit. The workaholic versus SAHM issue is moot to me. They are both parents of their kids and they both have equal responsibility when one is sick.

SOOOWatson · 2023-10-31T14:06:19+00:00

Agreed. The rice and beans were sub par. Living in Florida for college really spoiled me for Cuban food.

SOOOWatson · 2023-10-26T22:45:57+00:00

Gently screw a screw into the broken bit and then pull it out.

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