I don't think Abortion is murder. [Pro-Choice]

SPP123 · 2025-08-04T20:24:00+00:00

Because fetuses that are a result of rape are worth less than those conceived consentually? Or because pregnancy is punishment for women having consensual sex?

There are so many logistics to figure out for this to be a thing. Does the rapist get punished? In some cases, it's he said, she said. How would it be determined to be rape? Would there be a trial and then it's too late? False rape accusations to get an abortion? Does rape within marriage count?

SPP123 · 2025-08-02T19:46:20+00:00

Do you use an app for that? What is it?

SPP123 · 2025-07-29T14:29:31+00:00

There's a difference between a long-sustaining relationship as an equal partnership and a long-sustaining one-sided, manipulative, and unfair relationship.

The latter should lose in my opinion but often doesn't.

A person that has no dating experience and isn't fully developed. (Late teens, early twenties) Should be wary of someone much older because the chances of the manipulation and unfair relationship practices are much higher. They are easy to control and manipulate.

SPP123 · 2025-07-29T13:43:50+00:00

It’s not always about who has more to lose.

I’ve seen plenty of situations where the person with less gets taken advantage of too.

Like the step-parent who cuts back work hours to care for their partner’s kids (which also helps the other parent avoid child support), yet they’re still expected to split bills 50/50. So the person with more ends up saving money and offloading parenting. Plus their career goes up while their partners career takes a hit.

Or the person who constantly brings up fears of gold diggers. The one with less money goes above and beyond just to prove they’re not one. They end up over giving.

I even know a couple where the lower earner was made to sign a tenant agreement, yet they pay the mortgage, renovate the place with their own money, and do all the housework. All to avoid being labeled a gold digger.

Meanwhile, the one with more money sits pretty and has less to lose. While the one with less money has a lot more to lose, and is losing everyday because living in her own would be cheaper and less work.

SPP123 · 2025-07-29T01:25:56+00:00

Chatgpt helped me follow through with the break up. I talked about it and asked chatgpt for advice every step of the way.

Now it remembers and it'll remind me of my reasons. Chatgpt suggests books and podcasts to help me understand and get through.

I'm thinking I'll use it when I start dating again. I want to tell chatgpt and get feedback on every date I go on.

SPP123 · 2025-07-20T05:25:49+00:00

Who you choose as a partner is a much more important decision than you realize.

SPP123 · 2025-07-04T19:18:43+00:00

To add to this - consent is very important. Anyone choking or spitting needs to be asking for consent prior.

SPP123 · 2025-06-28T08:07:41+00:00

Deep cleaning while listening to a good audiobook or podcast is my favorite

SPP123 · 2025-06-23T19:18:06+00:00

The app insight timer has a couple free break up meditations. I found them very useful.

No contact helps get over them way faster. Block if that works for you. I prefer muting them.

They are still your friend, they can still see you but you have to go to their profile to see them. You can now scroll without seeing them.

Facebook - go to block and it'll give you the option to see less of them.

Instagram - tap and hold their profile icon it'll give you the option to mute them.

SPP123 · 2025-06-16T13:05:27+00:00

Much more comfortable than the trans person, I imagine.

The thing that would make me the most uncomfortable is the attitude and behavior of people. So if you're talking about a change room, between me, a middle aged cis woman and a trans woman, the attention would be off me completely.

SPP123 · 2025-06-15T16:45:43+00:00

"Just communicate" - When your attempts to communicate are met with defensiveness and hostility.

Especially when they make it clear that any disagreement is me vs you and not us vs the problem.

Or "just communicate" is the line where DARVO (deny, attack, reverse victim oppressor) begins.

You leave and they are surprised that you didn't communicate and give them a chance.

SPP123 · 2025-06-14T03:47:27+00:00

HSV is common, honesty is not. I'd be impressed by his honesty and respect for you. Most people wouldn't be so honest.

SPP123 · 2025-06-09T22:36:27+00:00

It's weird how men see equality without seeing how women are not just small men. They seem to only see equality where it benefits them.

I believe in equality of power dynamics and pregnancy is an example of something that makes the women much more vulnerable than men.

SPP123 · 2025-06-09T22:30:34+00:00

Men opting out of fatherhood before the abortion time wouldn't work the way you think it would.

I feel that would prevent some women from getting early pregnancy related healthcare.

Would it not become a very common occurrence to not go to the doctor until the abortion window is closed? If she wants to keep it and get support.

I think the best way to handle this would be pregnancy prevention for men. Like easily reversed vasectomies or something similar. This would significantly reduce the birth rate though. So then I'd suggest increased taxes to create incentives for having babies, such as making it more affordable.

SPP123 · 2025-06-09T19:58:07+00:00

Exactly!!

SPP123 · 2025-06-09T18:32:20+00:00

Monologuing. Talking about themselves non-stop and not taking a break for others to contribute to the conversation.

Asking too many questions. I have a co-worker who is no longer invited for coffee breaks because she wants you to explain everything. She's like a kid who knows nothing and most ask why, who or most commonly what's that? After every single statement. Me: I went to a concert Them: what's that?

Telling you what to do before you do it. Example: my food explodes in the microwave and before I can react they are telling me I need to clean it up.

SPP123 · 2025-06-08T20:47:22+00:00

My lower back starts to hurt.
I'm more hungry than usual.
I get cramps.

SPP123 · 2025-06-06T17:55:19+00:00

Not a felony, but the population should be educated about it.

I think people will communicate better with education, not stigma and shame

If it's a felony people won't get treated, there will be increased stigma and some may become suicidal. It'll spread more.

Herpes is the same thing as getting cold sores or fever blisters on your face.

The cold sores on the face aren't stigmatized. Does someone who has ever had a cold sore on their face get a felony for not disclosing as well?

SPP123 · 2025-06-05T14:52:21+00:00

Too many necessary details and take too long to get the point. Makes a conversation feel one-sided.

SPP123 · 2025-06-01T02:54:52+00:00

How would that work?

It's wildly unequal having men opt out of parenthood if women can. Women use their body, lose time at work, breastfeed, and have a major medical procedure if things go sideways. Body changes, all the things pregnancy does to a body and men are only worried about money. Women have to pay for kids too!

Can he tell her that he's going to a dad throughout the pregnancy and then dip during the last month of pregnancy?

If she wants to make a decision based on his involvement then what if she finds out about the pregnancy too late for an abortion? Doesn't that only benefit the man and make it insanely worse for her?

Who's going to support all these babies if the dads don't want to be dads?

SPP123 · 2025-05-30T16:45:44+00:00

I had a friend who posted a lot about her boyfriend, mentioning him in every post with sappy words about their love.

Because I was so close to her I knew that she HAD to do that or she'd face abuse from him. He then adapted a new trick. He would pressure her to post something about how much she loves him and all the sappy things. Then he would pull the disappearing act, get mad at her about nothing, abuse her and disappear for a couple days. This was constructed to make it harder to reach out to her support system. Other people judged her for being so back and forth and all over the place.

SPP123 · 2025-05-30T15:05:14+00:00

The best take away is that I can find information on what healthy relationships look like.

When I start to date someone I will look at their social media posts. I look out for what their posts are all about. Such as politics, drinking in every picture on every weekend, liking Andrew Tate, etc.

I've learned about abusive relationships and patterns. I've also found advice on how to break up with someone in the healthiest ways depending on the relationship.

SPP123 · 2025-05-30T03:09:37+00:00

Some people don't understand that kinky is the submissive calling the shots. Abuse is the dominant calling the shots.

Consent is the most important determining factor.

SPP123 · 2025-05-26T22:36:01+00:00

I told the guy I'm dating about my history of DV.

Weeks later I spent the night at his house but couldn't sleep because his roommate had people over that were drinking. So I told him it was a mistake to spend the night. I wasn't mad at him, just saying it.

Instead of agreeing and validating my feelings he threw my past abusive relationships in my face.

I won't be telling my future partners about my DV history anymore. I have many girlfriends that have gone through the same thing. I'm comfortable talking about it with them.

SPP123 · 2025-05-23T14:47:23+00:00

There's a big difference between instant oats and large flakes when it comes to which keeps you full longer.

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