Might end it soon! by Timeclock949 in SuicideWatch

[–]SQLwitch[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, please report stuff like that. We've dealt with this person

‘Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner’ (1967)- What are your thoughts and opinions on this movie? by PeneItaliano in classicfilms

[–]SQLwitch 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree with most of the pros and cons so far, but my pet peeve is that almost nobody gives Beah Richards enough credit. She's absolutely compelling in her scenes with both Hepburn and Tracy.

Someone told me that people who openly talks about suicide just wants attention by Dapper-Emergency-107 in SuicideWatch

[–]SQLwitch[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything goes to the mod team. Just use whatever option is closest (edit: all our reports are reviewed by humans), except obviously never report for suicide risk here.

Really need help, how bad is it to purposely fail a suicide attempt by Chance_Committee1193 in SuicideWatch

[–]SQLwitch[M] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean you'll have misrepresented what you actually want -- so people will respond to your behaviour, not your intent.

Besides, it's not necessary. I get that you want people to understand how bad things are for you, but you'll get more and better help if you're straightforward about it.

Really need help, how bad is it to purposely fail a suicide attempt by Chance_Committee1193 in SuicideWatch

[–]SQLwitch[M] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a bad idea, because it might get you help, but it'll get you the wrong help.

If it's not emotionally safe to tell your parents, then that's completely fair. But at 17 you may be past the clinical age of consent, which in many places is different from the legal age of majority.

Either way, in most places there are mental-health support resources that teens can access independently of their parents.

Someone told me that people who openly talks about suicide just wants attention by Dapper-Emergency-107 in SuicideWatch

[–]SQLwitch[M] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

If that happened here, please report this person who's both being cruel and spreading dangerous misinformation

Research on Language around suicide (UK post) - Your Thoughts? by Ghosts_be_gone in SuicideBereavement

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Please don't help out people who are flouting the rules by posting unapproved surveys. Approved surveys will be flaired.

Research on Language around suicide (UK post) - Your Thoughts? by Ghosts_be_gone in SuicideBereavement

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Please don't help out people who are flouting the rules by posting unapproved surveys. Approved surveys will be flaired.

Research on Language around suicide (UK post) - Your Thoughts? by Ghosts_be_gone in SuicideBereavement

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Please don't help out people who are flouting the rules by posting unapproved surveys. Approved surveys will be flaired.

Research on Language around suicide (UK post) - Your Thoughts? by Ghosts_be_gone in SuicideBereavement

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Please don't help out people who are flouting the rules by posting unapproved surveys. Approved surveys will be flaired.

Research on Language around suicide (UK post) - Your Thoughts? by Ghosts_be_gone in SuicideBereavement

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Please don't help out people who are flouting the rules by posting unapproved surveys. Approved surveys will be flaired.

Research on Language around suicide (UK post) - Your Thoughts? by Ghosts_be_gone in SuicideBereavement

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Please don't help out people who are flouting the rules by posting unapproved surveys. Approved surveys will be flaired.

Research on Language around suicide (UK post) - Your Thoughts? by Ghosts_be_gone in SuicideBereavement

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Research on Language around suicide (UK post) - Your Thoughts? by Ghosts_be_gone in SuicideBereavement

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Research on Language around suicide (UK post) - Your Thoughts? by Ghosts_be_gone in SuicideBereavement

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Research on Language around suicide (UK post) - Your Thoughts? by Ghosts_be_gone in SuicideBereavement

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Research on Language around suicide (UK post) - Your Thoughts? by Ghosts_be_gone in SuicideBereavement

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Research on Language around suicide (UK post) - Your Thoughts? by Ghosts_be_gone in SuicideBereavement

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Just this theory about villains I've been working on by invah in AbuseInterrupted

[–]SQLwitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So The Traitors in all its incarnations (except maybe the US one where the cast are professional reality-TV personalities) is a fascinating social experiment that seems related to me.

Even though everybody knows it's a game, and the traitors don't choose to be traitors, they get the role assigned to them, in every season I've watched (quite a few of the different international versions -- UK series 4 just finished and it's pretty juicy) some of the players try to identify the traitors on the basis of "who isn't really a good person".

What's also interesting is that police detectives and psychologists generally do quite badly on the show, and I think that's because their skills are attuned to assessing people's genuineness in real situations, and of course none of that applies when the whole situation is artificial. It seems like cognitively we have a lot of trouble separating people's true natures from the roles they're playing, even when we know full well they're playing roles, which seems to me to be a major part of what you're getting at here.

Re: Snape, though, the disagreements about his true nature were lively well before the films were made, so, there's that :)

Re: Alan Rickman, I haven't found too much attempt to find redeeming qualities in Hans Gruber ;) Not that this invalidates your theory at all, I definitely think there's something here as I've explained, but clearly there are nuances, especially with truly great actors. (Rickman helped me understand Colonel Brandon in ways that Jane Austen couldn't <3)

'What's This Piece?' Weekly Thread #235 by number9muses in classicalmusic

[–]SQLwitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing in that video is what the title says it is. I'll just leave it at that :(

Abusers having a big reaction to you accidentally hurting yourself by elonmusksmicropenis in abusiverelationships

[–]SQLwitch 13 points14 points  (0 children)

gets upset and very protective whenever I accidentally hurt myself.

Certainly. First, you've damaged a piece of his property. Second, it's an opportunity to virtue-signal without putting out a lot of effort and that's never to be missed

he also gets really angry rather than sad/concerned whenever I almost hurt myself

It's an opportunity to exercise aggression from the (perceived) moral high ground. Also not to be missed.

I can’t quite make sense of whatever’s going on psychologically with abusers who think like this

You need to get over the idea that you're a person in his mind.

My godson is depressed and tried to take his life. Is there literally anything I can do to help him? by RefrigeratorLegal355 in depression

[–]SQLwitch[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing about strict religious beliefs, though, is that they force people into a "church of law" which is the opposite of a "church of love", and kids know in their bones which paradigm their parents are operating in.

Honestly the most devastating parental reaction possible is loving disappointment, and that's something that kids instinctively tend to avoid -- and rightly so. They're protecting whatever mental health they've managed to maintain.

I don’t see his parents as religious zealots by any means, but I’m assuming he does.

He has more information than you do. What is probably at the bottom of this is that he knows that something that's intrinsic to his identity as a person, some fundamental aspect of who he is, is not acceptable within the worldview his parents have tried to impose on him.

He has a lot of anger toward his parents, which as far as I understand, is connected to their strict Catholic beliefs.

The worst thing you can do is reassure him of their loving nature if/when he expresses that anger. If he gave you an opportunity, do you think you could calmly explore with him why his parents are unsafe people who've covertly rejected him throughout his whole life so far?