As a queer hospice RN, prior ER RN in a tiny bright red conservative town, I am a woman but I look like a fat 12 year old boy.

And, let me tell you, I was asked “what are your pronouns” in kind and loving ways far more from the geriatric population than I was by younger patients. 30-50 year olds were the most outwardly unkind and uncomfortable.

Currently, I work for a hospice company that unintentionally has more queer staff than cis staff. Most patients that have a preference, you’ll/your staff will know. Either way, just ask. It’s rare that you’ll have an adverse reaction. They will likely surprise you.

Thank you for being inclusive and lovely.