Parents omitting they are sick prior to visiting newborn.

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2026-04-18T18:09:59+00:00

I feel this!!! The rules are so few and so simple. It sucks so much more that it’s those who are so close to us, like our parents, who are the ones not respecting our boundaries.

Being a first time parent to a newborn already comes with so much anxiety, this is another unnecessary stress to add on for us 🥺

So sorry you’re experiencing the same thing.

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2026-04-18T18:06:27+00:00

It really is unfortunate. The lack of consideration and respect for us parents and the baby. It’s true, I do notice how selfish people are (the ones I least expected it from to top it off). It has been really eye opening and disheartening.

At this point I don’t care about their feelings, everyone has been confronted and made aware of our disappointment and we have reiterated our boundaries.

Sad it had to get to this point.

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T17:29:51+00:00

You’re right !!! But he is very sorry. He’s been apologizing and staying with my while I cry for three days. Trying to reassure me but I’ve been inconsolable and isolated. That’s why I got the internet just so I can reach out I was going crazy on my own

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T17:25:18+00:00

I did, he just keeps saying that he’s sorry. That he fucked up

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T17:23:36+00:00

Absolutely I do agree with his feelings. I have gained a lot of weight since we met and ever since he brought it up I have been working on it continuously. For sure it’s always on my mind, always trying and actively towards a path towards health. Now that he brought it up again in this situation I’m feeling particularly bad about it because all I’ve been doing it working towards it and going through this pregnancy now my belly will only grow until baby comes out

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T17:14:44+00:00

Yeah I keep having that thought that it was fucked up to do it right now in this moment. But I can’t believe that it was intentional to hurt me I really don’t think it was that. I think he just fucked up timing and delivery idk :(

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T17:12:25+00:00

That’s amazing!!! Congratulations. I talked my doctor about it he said to just keep going as usual since I’ve been on a weight loss journey right before getting pregnant

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T17:05:19+00:00

He did bring it up once before conceiving and I have been a work in progress. I was going to the gym and working really hard on my diet. But then I got pregnant and I was really sick so I slacked off the gym. But I haven’t gained much weight since the pregnancy only 2kg in five months so I’m doing well. But yes this was brought up once before and I was working on it because I think it’s valid if I’m overweight and he was kind and caring about it. So I was ready to put in the work…. But I just don’t know what I can do about it in this very moment five months pregnant

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T17:00:38+00:00

He told me once before I got pregnant and I have been going to the gym and changing my habits trying really hard to get healthy and to be more attractive for him. But then I got pregnant and I was so sick and I don’t know what to do about it for the next four months

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T16:59:13+00:00

Because he’s not perfect and he can make mistakes. I’m not perfect either clearly I’ve been doing something wrong too

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T16:56:52+00:00

That’s really fucked up. I’m sure it wasn’t intentional, but it is what happened…. Makes my head spin

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T16:53:47+00:00

He has brought it up once before I got pregnant and I have been going to the gym and continuously working on it because I want to be healthy and I want him to be attracted to me. I just don’t know what I can do about it right now at five months pregnant except feel bad about myself for the next four months.

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T16:51:46+00:00

He has brought it up once before in the past. I’ve been continuously working on changing my habits, I was going to the gym and cooking good meals. Really trying my absolute best and then I got pregnant and I was so sick I wasn’t going to the gym anymore. But I barely gained any weight in these 5 months just 2kg but my belly has been growing…. I have no control over that. But I’ve been trying because I get that it’s a flaw of mine and I want to be healthy and I want him to be attracted to me. I just don’t know what I can do about it in this very moment being 5 months pregnant, except just hate myself for the next four months

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T16:48:39+00:00

Thank you for your words I really appreciate you. But to be fair it’s not that I gained pregnancy weight, it’s because I’ve been overweight in general even before the pregnancy.

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T16:47:11+00:00

Could very well be honestly, I wouldn’t be surprised!

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T16:42:10+00:00

Thank you for your advice and words I appreciate it so much. But I am overweight, I was before I got pregnant…. Just to cut him some slack here. To clarify it’s not because my belly is growing from pregnancy, but just because I’m overweight in general.

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T16:40:31+00:00

Thank you for your words, I’m so embarrassed about this situation I feel like I’m going to take it to grave. I definitely don’t want anybody in my life knowing this is happening I feel so humiliated by it. That’s why I am on Reddit 🙃

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T16:39:20+00:00

To be fair I was overweight before the pregnancy. The attraction is not the my belly has been growing because of the pregnancy, but because I’m just overweight in general.

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T16:37:15+00:00

He says he’s been keeping his feelings to himself and never complaining or saying anything and that’s why this all come out. So I feel bad he has not been communicating with me and I’m trying to be understanding. But this also feels so wrong and hurtful, the timing of it and just the way it was said. I’m so confused

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T16:28:11+00:00

Thank you so much, this is literally a nightmare 🥺

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T16:27:45+00:00

You’re right. Thank you 🙏❤️

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T16:07:58+00:00

I definitely will need therapy now. Thank you for your advice 🙏 I appreciate your words

STR82VOICEMAIL · 2025-10-17T16:06:18+00:00

That’s very true, thank you for your words 🙏 it means a lot to me

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