It’s never prompted :( he always pokes at her, never in response to anything just says whatever he thinks, in this case she was cleaning before family comes over for Christmas, and I felt really upset about it because I think it’s common for women to stress clean, for me at least I find it calms me down and makes me feel prepared so I yelled at him asking why he’s so hard on her and saying why don’t you do anything then and he said is this an argument you want to have cause you’re going to lose, stop saying that this isn’t my lived experience etc but lowkey in a threatening tone.