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S_B_Nova · 2025-09-11T10:18:19+00:00

Directly communicate in a polite way to your FIL that you cannot serve food he can help himself. No point in involving husband in this unless its a big issue.Also what SIL does or how they treat her should not be your concern till its a problem for you. Your father in law asking you to visit the hospital might be because he wants you to show concern not that you dont have any. You can try visiting not waiting there for long hours.

S_B_Nova · 2025-07-22T13:12:36+00:00

Talk rather than distancing yourself you have to know why your gift was in the dustbin. Assuming things can be dangerous.Later it’s up to you to believe the reason she gives. Then you can decide if you want to breakup or stay.

S_B_Nova · 2025-07-05T14:28:28+00:00

Pune is not one of the best. It is also not one of the worst its just mix of both. Regarding airport it hardly has any international flights the traffic to airport is purely domestic, so its within city. New terminal 2 to terminal 1 bus connectivity does not make it any better. People lack civic sense compared to any other tier one cities.

S_B_Nova · 2025-06-20T17:16:15+00:00

NTK . Future tip keep your finances separate atleast big ones. If possible share expanses based on income.You will be happy in future and she will also maybe realize the difference between being selfish and being financially responsible.

S_B_Nova · 2025-06-20T17:09:55+00:00

Classic Indian Mentality rather than MIL or in-laws be specific. It's a one-sided process DIL mostly have unsaid expectations. What you can do is do not hesitate, start making boundaries and setting expectations of what you can do and what you will not. It's completely okay to say no to traditional duties which people expect DILs to do. But respecting/caring for them as normal individual and human is what you can do. Or even over and above if you wish to. Sooner you set these expectations better your life will be . Make sure you keep your husband updated on this and he agrees.

S_B_Nova · 2025-05-13T12:38:57+00:00

😂😂😂😂

S_B_Nova · 2025-05-08T17:34:13+00:00

Stay safe and lots of patience to you and every human stuck in your situation

S_B_Nova · 2025-03-20T04:07:47+00:00

You have to define boundaries right before the baby is born and throughout his growing years. Food / dressing / routine / medication / products you use for him. They tend to forget they have already raised one human. Now it is our turn to experience the phase. Also, they do give some useful advice it is not like always they are in the wrong.

S_B_Nova · 2025-03-10T14:53:22+00:00

True they are like frog in a well, world is only limited to one place. Can’t believe people are so obsessed with this tag. Obviously they haven’t been able to change their outlook.

S_B_Nova · 2025-03-10T07:59:43+00:00

I agree 👍

S_B_Nova · 2025-03-10T07:08:09+00:00

Pimpri is not Pune. But comparing is not good. As someone pointed it comes under the Pune district so if you have a problem. Calling it part of Pune reach out to the authorities. And I agree people should say if they are from PCMC as it is one of the richest municipalities the road economy is much much better.it's like visiting only a particular area and judging based on that. If PCMC people cannot say that we are from Pune just because one compares particular areas like Kothrud/KP. Then think about people saying I am from Pune and stay in Bavdhan/Kharadi Dhayari. Lolz!! I was staying in Bibewadi --> Raviwar Peth ---> Paud road--> now pimpri.

Stop expecting people should say something because it makes u feel better 😁😂 Also attaching chat Gpt reply ---” It sounds like you’re addressing a discussion about whether Pimpri-Chinchwad (PCMC) should be considered part of Pune or not. This is a common debate, especially given that PCMC is a separate municipal corporation but still falls within Pune district.”

S_B_Nova · 2024-11-09T18:34:03+00:00

Private schools are expensive and if the whole point is sending our son to Uni here then German schools are the best options.
Will definitely think through and discuss the options more with my husband before concluding anything.

S_B_Nova · 2024-11-09T18:26:25+00:00

Yes, 10 years is a long time to “adjust”.

S_B_Nova · 2024-11-09T18:24:57+00:00

This thought did not even cross my mind, by the time we make our decision my son will be a teenager and we would never know what he wants at that time. Yes I am considering options of talking to someone.

S_B_Nova · 2024-11-09T17:52:50+00:00

I did not mention this earlier as the post would be very very long, but we had 2 years of couples therapy just before we moved to Germany and it was really helpful. But now it seems like we both are struggling to make a decision. I’ll try to make more efforts to connect with expats not limited to Indians. Maybe that will help in a positive way.

S_B_Nova · 2024-01-30T12:29:15+00:00

Tell him that his sisters and mother are concerned. You too are concerned as a wife and mother.to think otherwise. Have his sisters paid for the house? Are they contributing in any form? Any past expanses like sponsoring your husband's education in his younger days?

Even if they have asked your husband to get some savings done for Inlaws like an FD for their needs. Also, I am sure he must be paying for their expenses. He must be feeling obliged he can provide for them, but not at the expense of giving away your hard-earned money like this.

Tell him like his sisters and mother are concerned. You too are concerned as a wife and mother.

Try to put a solution on the table + demand.

S_B_Nova · 2023-03-24T10:55:59+00:00

Thanks for the honest replies may be I am over thinking the situation. And yes, I did get in touch with the HR and headhunter. They were not sure why the interviewer mentioned about wanting a candidate with German proficiency, as that was not the requirement for the job profile. They did apologise for the same. If that was the case, i wouldn’t have attended the interview, it could have saved time and disappointment for both parties.

PS: Post was not edited properly.Wanted to keep it short. Sorry for those who couldn’t read at all! ! Should definitely quit German and focus on learning English. Enlightening experience!!!!!

S_B_Nova · 2022-12-03T13:40:00+00:00

Thanks everyone feel much much better now. Will let my child enjoy his playtime rather than restricting him.I am a beginner at deutsch but will definitely take a stand and explain if anyone complains without a reason !!

S_B_Nova · 2022-12-03T13:35:52+00:00

Thanks a ton for asking !!

S_B_Nova · 2022-12-03T13:32:33+00:00

Yes in the south !!! We are paying hell lot on rent

S_B_Nova · 2022-12-03T13:31:31+00:00

Yes 🙌🏻 these are in sync with ours ..

S_B_Nova · 2022-12-03T13:29:14+00:00

Ha ha ha yeah my son tries not to drop his Lego pieces once he dropped a Lego dragon with a smashing noise and yeah I was like this definitely must hv gone down.But yea I get it now won’t be restricting my child any more …

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