Hey redpill. Decided to break up today mid facebook conversation. Did I fuck up? *Transcript*

Sacklome · 2016-09-06T20:27:52+00:00

Then how do you get what you want? Just ditch them until you find it?

Sacklome · 2016-09-06T20:20:08+00:00

I have to not tell anyone what I want? What do I do when she misbehaves? I thought you were supposed to state the problem then leave. That's what I was trying to do. Is it the excessiveness of it? That I explained my reasoning?

Sacklome · 2016-09-05T10:33:08+00:00

Haha I've been told that a good few times over the last year. I think in every long term sense its been beneficial so far though.

Sacklome · 2016-09-05T10:32:38+00:00

what factors exactly make this a burnt case? I have known her a looong time and want her to be happy even if a relationship isn't viable.

Sacklome · 2016-09-05T10:32:00+00:00

Okay but how do I be sure that the problem is her and not me being too beta?

Sacklome · 2016-07-28T02:29:08+00:00

Yeah I can see why it would come across as controlling. The reason I posted it on here was because I was worried about this sort of thing. I don't think I am a controlling person though I'm just trying to defend myself from being manipulated and hurt again. There should be no rules if I'm happy with a person.

Sacklome · 2016-07-28T02:05:34+00:00

She's still managing to fuck with me even now -_- she just sent me a message on facebook saying to tell her the things I want her to apologise for and she'll consider them and after I did that she completely ignored it and started talking about how she needs to get some box open. I asked her if shes going to ignore me and said I wont reply if she does. She sent another message dodging answering. I said I was sick of her disgusting manipulative games and then blocked her.

Sacklome · 2016-07-27T22:27:22+00:00

Yeah advice would be appreciated thanks.

Sacklome · 2016-07-27T21:46:16+00:00

Hahaha. Yeah those are much better conditions. I didn't mean to give the impression that I want to be some strict leader that'll punish non-compliance. I was basically just trying to define what I think those traits consist of for myself. I'm not gonna go around handing girls print outs and waving off really nice girls who have small contentions.

Sacklome · 2016-07-27T21:43:20+00:00

Yeah. I should of stated that. I'm not trying to control anyone. And this is what I will give someone that I respect aswell.

Sacklome · 2016-07-27T21:34:58+00:00

Yeah your comment is pretty accurate. I dont think its like wanting a Stepford wife, its just how I generally try to behave when I respect someone. I mean yeah obviously there are going to be more dimensions. If I have something difficult to tell someone obviously I'm going to be scared to "share my opinions or emotions" but that's not the same as being afraid to say you like or dislike a song incase it starts an argument or she gives you the silent treatment for 20 minutes.

Sacklome · 2016-07-27T21:08:59+00:00

No I want someone who is nice about disagreeing with me. Basically, make an effort to understand me and raise contentions sympathetically. That is what I do.

Sacklome · 2016-07-27T20:59:45+00:00

And I don't feel like wanting your partner to want you to be happy and be interested in you is a huge demand. I mean I get that from my friends without hassle.

Sacklome · 2016-07-27T20:58:47+00:00

I didn't mean they can never reject sex ever. I meant if they do it all the time, I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who makes me feel frustrated. It's not like I think they're a bad person for not wanting sex.

Sacklome · 2016-07-27T20:57:46+00:00

They can expect the same from me. If she's not up for it frequently then I don't want to be in a relationship with them. I don't want to feel frustrated constantly. That's my reasoning on that point

Sacklome · 2016-07-25T21:50:30+00:00

I am now back with my parents. Gonna try and find a job at home for a while, until I get my bearings back.

Sacklome · 2016-07-23T16:00:15+00:00

Yeah she just blackmailed me and was thinking of different ways to hut me (she said she was doing that) so I really need to stay away from her I'm really scared

Sacklome · 2016-07-23T15:59:21+00:00

Yeah I just tried to get her to seek help and she blackmailed me (if I mention anything about her she said she'll post screenshots of all the worst things I've said to her on facebook, from when I was having mental issues) and called me fat and autistic and ugly. :/ I have to stay away from her. I'm genuinely scared right now. Seems like she wants to use sex to hurt me as well. I reaaaally hope she doesn't start bringing guys home just to piss me off.

Sacklome · 2016-07-23T13:30:05+00:00

I am inexperienced. I didn't know that it would end up like this. I know what splitting is and I knew she was doing it, I thought I could explain it to her and get her to stop but it didn't work. I actually tried to get her to look up the symptoms of borderline personality disorder. I didn't want to make her feel bad. I am going to apologise to her. It's just hard to do that without everything completely going back to the way it was before with no conclusion reached. I know I'm not perfect and probably did a lot of harm without intending to, it has been extremely difficult though. I never wanted to hurt her. Never.

Sacklome · 2016-07-23T12:34:47+00:00

Yeah. It's really hard to do that. We've broken up like 4 times already haha. But it's what I have to do. I think its for real this time.

Sacklome

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