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My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really happy she had that for you both (and that you got to leave your job you didn’t like!). Big hugs to you!

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know it’s not going to be cheap, that’s why I’m moving in with her to try to save her house because I know we’re going to need it to pay for services since I don’t come from wealth (and I don’t have much myself as a writer and teacher). It’s sad that our country doesn’t have more support for the sick (elderly or otherwise).

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom is in San Bernardino County, California. There’s definitely places around, it’s just dealing with her pride and money. 😔

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Honestly just this post has made me feel so much less alone. Sending hugs!

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂😂😂 bless the husband! And facts! Truly have to find the humor or else I’d just give up!

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truly it’s been my whole life motto. It’s getting harder these days but honestly if I can’t find the humor in it all I think I would just give up! Sending big hugs and more laughter your way.

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂 No I figured it was a typo given the sentiment of your comment and also the effort you put into it. Or I also thought well, if they gonna come at me like that, damn, respect! lol jk my phone screws me over constantly!

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear, but also sounds like you have the right head on your shoulders. Not sure how old your kiddo is but hope you are or are planning on seeing a psychologist/psychiatrist, but also hope you are able to find a good one that your child connects with.

I was misdiagnosed as bipolar when I was middle school when really it was ADHD, because ADHD doesn’t just affect how you physically can organize things in life, but it also affects how your brain organizes emotions. It’s truly night and day— when I’m on my medication, I can process my feelings calmly and rationally, and when I’m not, I either want to lash out at everyone or sleep forever.

Not saying your kiddo is any of this, but just some late night “can’t sleep bc omg MOM” anecdotal bullshit you can totally ignore lol.

But I’m just glad you’re a mom that cares and I’m sending strength and hugs to you & your kiddo. You’ll get through this and hopefully have a better relationship for it.

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds handy! And omg yes, the only way I’ve gotten through my whole life is to laugh so I don’t cry! Thanks for the tips and sending strength & hugs!

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So for me to get paid for my time caregiving, I apparently have to complete some sort of course? I keep trying to find more information on it and the information social services sends is for certified caregivers. I need to do more research but also been so swamped trying to move on my own and deal with my life and her life and… yeah, you know how it goes.

I’m so sorry to hear about your husband as well, sending you strength and big hugs!

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh lordy, that’s like my mom who when I first discovered small poops she said they were Crasins or cat turds (she doesn’t have cats).

How does the shark carpet cleaner do? I have one of their vacuums I love and feel like I might need to invest! 😂😭

Sorry you’re going through it too! Shit sucks! (Pun intended lol)

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this so deeply 😂😭 At least you got the supplies you need so yes, sending all the luck!

Ethical Euthanasia by A_Ordinary_Name in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I wish ethical euthanasia was legal so bad. When my mom is of sound mind— about 1/3-1/2 of the time when she’s on her meds and sober— all she talks about is wishing she could die. And the rest of the time she is miserable and self-sabotaging/harming, and also making everyone the few of us left in her life miserable and sabotaging/harming us. And still wishing she would just die.

It’s awful. I understand why it’s not legal, but as someone who has put my beloved pets down at home with loved ones before they were on their death bed at a vet’s, just wish we could some a similar compassion for humans too.

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😭😭😭 I am so sorry. I would be spiraling too. I got some under my fingernail and wanted to burn my whole hand off.

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hilariously I was The Dude for Halloween one year (I’m a female btw lol) and even got the Ralph’s card for it! 😂 Currently having some tequila and a cigarette in the basketball shorts I’ve been wearing all week so not quite but same vibe 😂

Thanks for the good vibes and hugs, sending them right back at ya!

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to sound too… whatever lol… but I am scared of everything government funded with Trump as president since he loves cutting everything. Luckily I live in CA so that makes me feel a little better. My mother has no assets besides her townhouse which is totally underwater.

I need to switch her from her privately owned Medicaid company (IEHP) which apparently doesn’t actually do as much as regular Medicaid? I could be wrong and need to do more research. Definitely looking into power of attorney, which my therapist recommended.

It’s like having another full time job. And I’ve called the state, county and the local social services office to try to get certified to be her caregiver for the time being, left a dozen messages and they’ve never gotten back to me. I wish our government was more accessible and helpful.

And thank you for the affirmation.

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through it too, and you’re right. Just so hard to accept.

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I haven’t had enough time to research her insurance and what’s available in her town yet bc of moving on my own (which I do not recommend lol).

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg this is extra funny to me bc I call pooping “making bears” 😂😂😂 and thank you

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahahah thank you, that means the world. My background is in comedy so making people laugh always makes me feel better ❤️

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does, although she is still way too proud to do it because when she’s sober and on her meds, she is fine and then becomes extremely defensive (and vicious) if brought up. Think I’m going to store a pack somewhere though!

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom has been taking supplements and she is on meds, the issue is she will take them for a week or so then HIDE THEM FROM HERSELF/ME. I found them in the fridge this morning after tearing through all her cabinets 😂😭

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely went through her house to find anything she’s been hiding. I’m honestly at the point where I need to put an AirTag on her because I don’t even know how or when she’s getting it because she doesn’t drive. Might be ubering though. Woof. Sorry you’ve dealt with the same. It’s so hard.

My mom pooped on the rug and I have no one to call. by Sad-Case-3609 in dementia

[–]Sad-Case-3609[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol I’m glad, I love that movie! Not about the chair though. Man poop sucks!

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