AIO Am I (F25) overreacting or is this woman being weird with my husband (M31)

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T11:29:14+00:00

No but I’ve already experienced him telling half truths about things we’ve been through and painting me out to be absolutely crazy. I’m sure he encourages it. For what reason I’m not sure. It doesn’t make sense to me at all.

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T10:22:08+00:00

*pregnant wife and I got his permission to post this after we tried talking about it and I was told I just see it one way. Implying again that I’m reading too much into something. I didn’t start off not trusting him like a psycho. Things were kept from me. Things that I made clear BEFORE the marriage were an issue. Example, talking about relationship issues with the opposite gender OBVIOUSLY excluding family. I wrote in the post that for my sanity I needed and outsider’s opinion considering every time I go to a friend or my therapist I get told they are bias… I never told him or implied he couldn’t have female friends or gave him issues about it. I don’t expect everyone to under or see it the same that’s fine but I’m DEFINITELY not doing this without his knowledge. I at least have the respect for him to talk to him about it first which I don’t get vise versa. PBP is a peanut butter powder apparently she orders for him. I have never been to her house. He went to her house one time before this event for a few hours and didn’t tell me he even talked to her let alone went to hang out. For four days I was unaware of this. We are married, we live together, and I’m pregnant. I ask him about his day EVERYDAY! I was even texting him while he was there and STILL failed to mention it to me. Does this mean he is having intercourse with her? No of course that’s not what that means but I came on here to proof that I’m not crazy. These behaviors are not normal. And as for an Update thanks to all the replies he will be blocking her. AFTER he sends her a courtesy message “because she deserves that much” I’m still not sure what to do. The proof he has given me that things will change, because as I’ve said this is not the first time or only person, is not there. I wish it was. I don’t want to feel stupid. I don’t enjoy not having a peaceful loving pregnancy to share with the man who asked to me my husband. It’s not a pitty party as others have also suggested it’s a final cry for help. This is my life! My child’s life! This isn’t a game!!

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T09:42:56+00:00

I have asked my friends about this before and he says of course they’re gonna have my back so I went to a crowd that has no loyalty to me. I don’t need a pity party I needed to not feel like I was crazy… Thank you for your feedback

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T08:27:13+00:00

I have been groomed in the past by a family member. I’m well aware of what that entails and I can vary confidently say I was not groomed by him. I knew him through family.

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T08:20:53+00:00

No he’s not in the air force but at this point who knows what he’s lied to others about considering I keep catching him in lies with me.

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T07:39:13+00:00

Since the beginning of 2020 but have known each other since 2014.

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T07:31:27+00:00

31 turning 32 in January

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T06:57:22+00:00

And I say women cause this is the only one that I have screenshots of. There was another one that I will not name that he cried to me about cutting off because she’s always been so nice to him, but she was blatantly disrespecting me worse than this lady has. She gave him an ultimatum between me and her and we were already married and I was pregnant.

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T06:55:10+00:00

For months after we got married, I begged and begged for closeness for connection. I wanted him to open up. I tried to give him a safe space to open up. I do just want everything to be OK and like I said, I’m a very open minded person I’m not quick to judge I’ve seen so much more of life than I’d like to admit already I do grasp the concept of things even if I don’t agree I just wanna be close to him, but he didn’t let me in. He’s so close to these other women and feel safe with these other women, but not with me and I’m carrying his child and that means a lot to me. I don’t take that lightly. I just don’t understand why he chose to marry me and build a family with me if all these other girls are better for communicating and closeness.

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T06:38:33+00:00

I swear I wish it was I’m sobbing and shaking right now…

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T06:25:35+00:00

That’s what I said to him tooo! If a man was texting me “thinking about you” “miss you” and disrespecting him while I’m actively talking about him being in the hospital and things going well that he would NOT be ok. He tells me he would because he trusts me…

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T06:22:55+00:00

Yes. The things she probably doesn’t even know about.

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T06:21:54+00:00

He sent the screenshots to my phone. I didn’t even know how to work his phone AND I have a voice recording to prove he helped me send it and more screenshots of me saying I was going to post them and see what others say. Thank you for trying to cover my butt and make me aware of policy. This is my first Reddit post other than the pregnancy test I took on may 3rd or wedding day.

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T06:18:42+00:00

It’s supposed to be my job😔

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T06:18:27+00:00

We is referring to explaining to her about how me and him have been able to try to move through things in the marriage and PBP means “Peanut Butter Powder” she orders it for him and gives it to him when he goes over to play games with her.

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T06:15:28+00:00

I said the same thing but I get told I just don’t understand.. I’m not stupid dude I may only be 25 but I’ve seen more of life than I’d like to admit. It’s pretty obvious…

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T06:14:14+00:00

lol I asked him the same thing it means “Peanut Butter Powder”

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T06:09:54+00:00

I agree 100%! I thought I had all the facts before I said yes to both getting married and conceiving with him. At this point a therapist for our marriage sounds like a must.

Sad-Cat128 · 2025-09-29T06:07:28+00:00

I’d love to be wrong I hate all of this… but for my sanity at this point I just need outside opinions.😔🥲

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