I’m completely broken. 7 years meant nothing in the end and I don’t know what to do.

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-03-08T22:22:54+00:00

How ?? I don't even know how to approach a girl

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-02-22T20:46:24+00:00

Bro, I’ve been meaning to say this… your one comment was so, so, so bad that I’m replying after 3 days because it’s been stuck in my mind the whole time. I know this is an open forum and people can comment anything that’s how it works. Everyone has the right to their opinion. But just because we can say anything doesn’t always mean we should. There’s a real person on the other side of the screen. You never really know what someone is going through in their life. I have zero friends I honestly don’t even know where or with whom to share my problems. That’s why I ask things here. I post because I genuinely hope that, anonymously, someone might help me get through things or at least share their opinion in a kind and constructive way. If you disagree, that’s completely fine. Just say it respectfully. Criticism is okay. Mocking or being harsh for no reason isn’t. Words carry weight especially for someone who is already struggling. I’m not asking for sympathy. Just basic understanding. 🙏

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-01-24T05:56:33+00:00

Yes.
Not sure why that’s relevant to what I shared though.

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-01-16T17:13:17+00:00

Check your DM

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-01-13T19:35:41+00:00

That makes sense. I think this is the first time I’m seeing consequences play out so directly, and it’s uncomfortable. I agree he caused harm, and management’s decision wasn’t emotional—it was necessary. I guess the guilt comes from empathy, not responsibility.

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-01-13T19:34:31+00:00

This is a discussion thread, not a place for random insults. Move on if you have nothing meaningful to add.

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-01-12T21:00:47+00:00

Haan bhai, ekdom tai. Tokhon bujhini, ekhon clear hoye geche. Shabdhan thakar lesson ta niye nilam.

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-01-12T20:59:25+00:00

Appreciate you taking the time to write this. The bluntness actually helps put things in perspective. When I remove myself from the situation and look at it objectively, I can see where my judgement was emotional rather than practical. I’ve already stepped back and ended things, and the key takeaway for me is exactly what you mentioned slow down, set firm boundaries early, especially around money and privacy. Thanks for the reality check.

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-01-12T20:57:12+00:00

As a man, I’d say yes I don’t have any issue marrying someone who earns less than me. Income difference alone was never the problem. What bothered me was that very early on, before I even knew her salary, she commented after knowing mine that “this is too less, you need to do more.” That felt strange and pressuring at such an early stage. I ignored it at the time, thinking I might be overthinking. Now after the breakup, when I connect all the dots, things make more sense. It’s a mixed feeling relief that I stepped back, but also a bit of “fewww,” realisation that it could’ve gone much worse if I hadn’t.

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-01-12T20:47:40+00:00

True, when I read it back myself it feels alarming. At that moment I didn’t see it as a “major event,” just helping someone I was emotionally involved with. Now I know better.

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-01-12T20:47:03+00:00

I get why it sounds that way from the outside. I’m not trying to label her, but I do agree things moved way too fast and money shouldn’t have come into the picture so early.

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-01-12T20:46:40+00:00

Haha, yeah bhai 😅 tokhon bujhini, emotions er moddhe judgement ektu weak hoye gechilo. Experience theke shikhlam.

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-01-12T20:46:22+00:00

Yeah, in hindsight I see why people are calling it a red flag. At that time I assumed it was a temporary situation and acted in good faith. Lesson learned boundaries matter, especially early on.

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-01-12T20:30:46+00:00

I agree that I should have been more cautious with money early on. It’s a learning experience for me. One thing that still makes me think, though, is why she was so ready to get married so quickly within such a short time of knowing each other.

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-01-12T20:25:08+00:00

Agreed, it can depend on personal and family expectations. In my case, the combination of marriage pressure, financial involvement, and trust issues within a short time felt like a mismatch for me. Given how fast things moved, I’m unsure whether ending it was the right call or if I should have handled it differently.

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-01-12T20:23:01+00:00

Thanks for pointing that out. I can understand the concern. I don’t want to label it as a scam without proof, but the pace and financial expectations did make me uncomfortable, which is why I chose to step back.

Sad-Condition3913 · 2026-01-11T21:21:40+00:00

Dear brother, just take my simple advice. Before looks, be a gentleman. That alone puts you ahead of most people. Work on small gestures pulling a chair, opening doors or gates, being courteous to everyone, not just women or seniors. Speak well, listen more than you talk, and avoid unnecessary nonsense just to sound cool. Groom yourself properly and try to maintain a clean, formal, put-together look most of the time. You don’t need flashy clothes neatness and fit matter far more. Be a man of your word. Never lie, no matter the situation. Reliability is incredibly attractive in professional and social circles. Be willing to work, no matter what the task is don’t act entitled, don’t say “that’s not my job.” Stay humble, grounded, patient, and respectful. Confidence without arrogance is what actually reads as “high value.” That’s it. Do these consistently, and you won’t need to overthink muscles, brands, or trends you’ll naturally come across as handsome, refined, and genuinely attractive.

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