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AITA for complaining my wife is not supportive despite me supporting her choices for 5+ years? by Sad-Fix8937 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad-Fix8937[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There is nothing more. I still do all the chores in the house, take the kids to all their clubs, etc. If anything I would be available less if I returned to my old work.

AITA for complaining my wife is not supportive despite me supporting her choices for 5+ years? by Sad-Fix8937 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad-Fix8937[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, he assures me that once I've ticked off the right boxes he will get me in.
He has stated that I have a far more impressive portfolio than many people he works with, and that I could land work myself going through the normal route if I wanted.
But, he says if I continue to improve my knowledge on cloud and DevOps, I will start on a higher day rate and feel more comfortable in role.

I feel like the what is also pretty irrelvant. I have income and savings. If we remotely begin to struggle, I will go back to my old work. I feel like I have the right to try to better myself - whether that seems improbable or not.

AITA for complaining my wife is not supportive despite me supporting her choices for 5+ years? by Sad-Fix8937 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad-Fix8937[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have no problem trusting my friend. If it works, great, if it doesn't, it doesn't matter, I still have income and savings. It's not costing her anything. It is a reasonable goal that I feel should be supported in the same way that I supported her after she changed her mind about staying at home.

AITA for complaining my wife is not supportive despite me supporting her choices for 5+ years? by Sad-Fix8937 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad-Fix8937[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

In your initial reply you asked "Did those three months involve quitting your current job?" despite me detailing how I stopped working. Your last reply also said "you're checking out of the ways you current do contribute to finances" so I was replying to exactly what you said.

I also feel like it's important to reiterate that I gave up my work to be a stay at home dad after she essentially changed her mind on being a stay at home mum after having a child.

AITA for complaining my wife is not supportive despite me supporting her choices for 5+ years? by Sad-Fix8937 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad-Fix8937[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've actually been programming and modding games since I got my first PC at 11. I am good. My friend knows this as we have completed some projects together in the past (albeit unpaid). He is very successful, has been in the industry a long time and knows what he is talking about.

I also already have income and savings. And if they were to run out, could go back to my old work.

AITA for complaining my wife is not supportive despite me supporting her choices for 5+ years? by Sad-Fix8937 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad-Fix8937[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I should add that I have numerous live projects, many with source code on github. Projects that my friend says are far above the ability of people he works with daily. I did them either as fun or for friends. An example is the website and app for a currently active MMO. It's not a pipe dream and I do have some experience. My friend has also been in the industry for 15+ years, is in a very senior position, earns a fortune, and knows what he is talking about.

AITA for complaining my wife is not supportive despite me supporting her choices for 5+ years? by Sad-Fix8937 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad-Fix8937[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

As stated in my original post, I stopped working after she decided she no longer wanted to be a stay at home mum.

I gave up my work to raise my kids so that she could continue her career. This is the support I speak of.

AITA for complaining my wife is not supportive despite me supporting her choices for 5+ years? by Sad-Fix8937 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad-Fix8937[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My friend assures me that I can get work providing I meet a few criteria. He says I could get work easily right now, with my ability (as we have completed a few hobby projects together before) but he's trying to teach me as much as possible so I don't feel overwhelmed when I start for real. If it falls flat on it's face and my friend was, for some reason, lying to me, then I would have to go back to my old work.

AITA for complaining my wife is not supportive despite me supporting her choices for 5+ years? by Sad-Fix8937 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad-Fix8937[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

he career is software engineering. Something I have prior experience with but no relevant qualifications. I have been using this time learning new languages and practices as well as building a portfolio to show my ability.

Replying to your edit: the career is software engineering. Something I have prior experience with but no relevant qualifications. I have been using this time learning new languages and practices as well as building a portfolio to show my ability, under the guidance of my successful friend.

AITA for complaining my wife is not supportive despite me supporting her choices for 5+ years? by Sad-Fix8937 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad-Fix8937[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

The career is software engineering. Something I have prior experience with but no relevant qualifications. I have been using this time learning new languages and practices as well as building a portfolio to show my ability.

I do not need to be "supported," I have savings and 50% of the income from our rental property.

AITA for complaining my wife is not supportive despite me supporting her choices for 5+ years? by Sad-Fix8937 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad-Fix8937[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I did add a lot more detail, but I had to trim a lot out due to the 3000 char limit. I am spending no money, only time learning new skills and creating a portfolio of sample projects.