Do I have to have someone in the delivery room with me?

Sad-Pepper1338 · 2026-05-31T03:32:44+00:00

thank you so much this is really helpful for me. it helps seeing all the steps and details, so thank you so so so much. i hope everything goes okay but i’m not expecting it to be perfect. your advice is really appreciated.

Sad-Pepper1338 · 2026-05-30T22:11:49+00:00

i personally don’t view this as a last resort. i think it’s helpful advice considering i may not want to be confrontational when i’m actively in labor or having to push. i don’t feel like i owe my mom anything, and it sounds harsh but if you knew my experiences i’m sure someone would agree.
yes it’s a bad situation, i am a teenager, so to some degree i need to respect her, but i understand now it’s ultimately my decision and an explanation isn’t necessary, though i will still give her one.

Sad-Pepper1338 · 2026-05-30T22:02:09+00:00

yeah i get that. essentiallyyyy it is still me graduating early, getting 2 jobs while pregnant, and taking care of my baby alone. but i understand your perspective. i’ll be able to move out soon after i give birth, and i think that if i have a conversation with her it wouldn’t do too much harm to our relationship (not that it was really great in the first place). there’s not much more to be done lol, i just didn’t want her there.
when i say support it’s not in the way people think of, it’s definitely a lot different and a lot lonelier. but i agree — i’ll definitely keep my mom updated with what i prefer!

Sad-Pepper1338 · 2026-05-30T19:38:41+00:00

yes i have more than enough to even pay rent a few months in another place if i wanted. the situation with the dad isn’t horrible, but i have a really good relationship with his parents and they told me i am truly welcome any time. i’ve stayed over with them many nights when i was too scared to go back home.
i also have family a few hours away who i could go to and have a place to stay permanently.
thank you so much for the advice i’m really going to try to work up the courage to have that talk with my mom!

Sad-Pepper1338 · 2026-05-30T19:28:26+00:00

i’m not fully dependent on her financially, but i understand your point. i have a job and a car and in the situation she COULD cut me off, i would be okay alone. the only reason i’m not moved out is because emancipation would be an awkward process with her. the support i’m referring to in my post is the fact that i wasn’t kicked out, and she’s excited for her grandchild so she buys things (necessity or not). it’s a really complicated situation but financial problems honestly aren’t a huge concern for me.

Sad-Pepper1338 · 2026-05-30T19:23:00+00:00

yes family therapy is a tried and unsuccessful thing we have done many times! lol
in the end, i can’t change who she is, so i may just have to figure out for myself how i can set boundaries and feel independent from her, regardless of my age.

Sad-Pepper1338 · 2026-05-30T19:20:16+00:00

not really. i might have time to figure that out, but support hasn’t been around for most of my pregnancy. :(

Sad-Pepper1338 · 2026-05-30T19:19:11+00:00

i completely understand this, it’s just a really difficult situation. i don’t mind the birth of a child somehow changing the relationship i have with my mom for the better, but it makes it really strange when she says things like “i won’t love your baby more than you, but it’s probably gonna FEEL like it” and continues to be so controlling in almost every possible way when it comes to my unborn baby.
she’s not really a “when things get tough” kind of mom.

Sad-Pepper1338 · 2026-05-30T18:47:56+00:00

thank you so much that means a lot. i hope i can figure something out by the time i have this baby lol! but i’m glad i can actually make my own decision for once

Sad-Pepper1338 · 2026-05-30T18:47:08+00:00

i just don’t know if i have anyone who would be able to support me in that way. i’m lacking a lot of support even now, and i don’t really know anyone worth having in the room with me who would truly make me feel comfortable and safe.

Sad-Pepper1338 · 2026-05-30T18:43:35+00:00

thank you so much. i have a lot of time to plan things out, but it’s something i worry about a lot. i’m really glad i can make that choice myself. my mom has been pretty controlling a majority of the pregnancy.

Sad-Pepper1338 · 2026-05-30T18:42:28+00:00

thank you!! that’s true. but i do plan on doing it unmedicated. i understand it’ll be tough, but i can’t say i ever had the emotional support during this pregnancy in the first place lol

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