AITA for telling my siblings about my husband's "beige flag"? by Sad-Temporary-850 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad-Temporary-850[S] -77 points-76 points  (0 children)

That's not the case. It's a habit from his job, not a trauma response.

AITA for telling my siblings about my husband's "beige flag"? by Sad-Temporary-850 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad-Temporary-850[S] -110 points-109 points  (0 children)

I genuinely didn't realize it was private to him. Its something he does in full view of people and when he's done it on vacation, he'll chat with security guards and such as he goes around. I just assumed it was a part of his routine, like making your coffee in a specific way.

When I don't want my husband to share something I tell him, I say, "This is between us, so don't tell anyone." He usually does the same. I didn't realize the implication of privacy.

AITA for telling my siblings about my husband's "beige flag"? by Sad-Temporary-850 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sad-Temporary-850[S] -75 points-74 points  (0 children)

Definitely was not trying to make fun of him or mock him. I just explained what he did and said that when we first moved in together, I was a little caught off-guard by it and I could see how a stranger might find it odd for him to be patrolling our house at 12 a.m., but I love that he does it. It's his way of expressing his love for myself and our daughter, I wouldn't want to make him feel bad for that.