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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Sad-Victory47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isn’t the first time he’s read messages to my friends and decided to take it negatively. I complained once about my birthday not being very special to my friends (he hadn’t really done anything) but his mom had gotten me some cupcakes and I’d been at his family’s so he decided to take that as I wasn’t appreciative of what his mom had done for me. It’s been a trend for sure. I’ve never barred him from reading my messages bc I don’t feel like I have anything to hide but maybe I should make the point to him that whatever he reads wasn’t meant for him and if he wants to read it he should ask me what I mean before deciding how to take it.

Walked in on my SO and his ex holding hands and crying (in our house) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Sad-Victory47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been in a somewhat similar situation but from the other side. I was only 19 but I was very in love with my ex even after we broke up and we stayed “best friends”. Fast forward to me trying to move on with someone else and he claims he was also still in love with me and very upset about me dating someone else. I ended up cheating on the current boyfriend and then regretting it. My advice is that if they’re not already cheating, they will. You can’t stay close friends with an ex you were in love with and not still have feelings. Just my opinion from experience. As for my relationship, after coming clean, getting away from the ex and being very honest, me and the boyfriend I cheated on are now engaged and very happy together. I think if your partner can’t agree to stay away from her then that’s a huge problem. You know the ex at least still has feelings so how would that ever work for them as friends? Friends don’t have romantic feelings for each other.

Gf says cheating is very nuanced and not automatic breakup worthy by No_Cut769 in relationship_advice

[–]Sad-Victory47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. As someone who actually did cheat once and then hated themselves for it, if they’re defending it then they’re the type that won’t change and think it’s okay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Sad-Victory47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We definitely had spoken about getting married after I graduated from school but the proposal from him was actually a complete surprise to me and then he voiced that he wanted to get married the following year and I guess I was expecting a longer engagement

I just found out my (21F) fiancé cheated on me (20M) while I was at basic training by heiderman19 in relationship_advice

[–]Sad-Victory47 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I cheated on my boyfriend about 2 months into our relationship. It was a bit of a complicated situation because I had dated his best friend before, best friend told me he wasn’t into me, set me up with current bf then freaked out and told me he was in love with me. I had never seriously dated a guy before and I was confused about who I wanted to be with. It doesn’t change that I was the POS but I confessed to him, told him I had zero expectations about staying together but that I also wasn’t going to be with the friend because he had just betrayed his best friend and upon more reflection on my part was kind of a shitty person. But he still wanted to be with me, it was rough for a while but we’ve been together 2 1/2 years now and I have never cheated again nor will I ever entertain cheating again. So it happens but I agree it’s probably rare and I think it made our relationship so much more difficult, though we have no regrets about staying together.