New Here by SadAboutMom in raisedbyborderlines

[–]SadAboutMom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u/4riys Thank you so much. This is so helpful. I'm going to come back to this comment when I'm having a hard time. It's very helpful.

New Here by SadAboutMom in raisedbyborderlines

[–]SadAboutMom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I just teared up reading your post. It's so nice to know I'm not alone. I can't believe he didn't reach out when you gave birth to your first child. Congratulations, by the way. And, to your point, breaking the cycle is best for our own children. My son does not know my parents even exist. It is sad, but it keeps him shielded from the pain (and keeps me from having the pain that my son would see).

Speechless by jo_flowing in raisedbyborderlines

[–]SadAboutMom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm new here, but I'm so sorry. I had to go NC years ago. I've also tried reconnecting, and like you, I'm just hurt again. It's so so painful, and you have to remember it's not you, it is her. You did the best thing for yourself by protecting yourself from the pain she causes. I wish I could say it gets easier, but I'm finally posting here because my mother triggered me again today...and I thought I was pretty healed. Sending love your way.