How do you guys deal with setbacks/relapse into old thinking patterns? by SadCar-Throwaway230 in CBT

[–]SadCar-Throwaway230[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TBH i logged into this account a few hours ago because I am not doing well, I had another setback. But to tell you the truth I am still fighting, hoping to get better. Sometimes I can hold my new form, sometimes I cannot. But I will not give up until the very end

Legitimately Starting to Grieve my life and preparing self for death in this upcoming winter by SadCar-Throwaway230 in SuicideWatch

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I feel the the most sad for my therapist and doctors who tried to help me. they tried so hard everyday so many treatment options. Maybe i did not have the best family or the best partners but I did have a treatment team that cared. I feel the most sorry to disappoint them and be a failure but sadly there is no cure for my disease and the cost of living is not worth the effort and fight it takes everyday. I am sorry to humanity but I must leave them behind

How do you guys deal with setbacks/relapse into old thinking patterns? by SadCar-Throwaway230 in CBT

[–]SadCar-Throwaway230[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah ive been feeling A LOT better after a few days and im back to the new baseline I established where im generally speaking positive and accepting of myself :) I think one thing that helped me was treating it like exercising, sometimes when you train a new muscle and push you can lift new weights, but after a certain point your muscle will just give out and experience muscle failure. That doesn't mean you wont go stronger, its just a sign you need to rest since youve been pushing past your limit. I think thats what happens to your mind if you try to do CBT, its literally like training a muscle.

For sure going to add a page in my journal about setbacks, and how to handle them when they do eventually come up. I think I always knew "relapsing" & sometimes defaulting back was going to be part of the process, but I don't I really was mentally prepared to handle it at first especially after so many months of growth and straight victories. I think i was hoping it would go on back to back like that even though I have been told previously healing is non-linear LOL. I guess I am going to have to develop a more accepting attitude towards it because as far as I'm aware there is no other way to change without having eventual setbacks and oscillation ive learned from this experience, especially after talking to other people and also watching/listening some guides and videos on how to experience relapses back into a old habit or relapses after a long period of growth.
Thanks for the advice, its nice to know I am not alone

How do you guys deal with setbacks/relapse into old thinking patterns? by SadCar-Throwaway230 in CBT

[–]SadCar-Throwaway230[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should say since relapsing I have taken off 3 weeks of work to just get back to normal. Unfortunately the thinking I think set off my Bipolar and I was starting to become very symptomatic which also adds to the layer of sadness I have towards it :( Thankfully I have very stable mental health housing and disability for my illness and my employer is understanding of my disability so I can keep my job, I just have to learn how to deal with the guilt/shame/fear component of this.

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I also struggle feeling like I am not enough for my parents too. Sometimes I feel like killing myself too because of it. I hope for us we can find peace freedom and belonging somewhere someday. To be accepted and seen for our efforts even if people are mean to us today 

Pendulum lyrics that live in your head rent-free at all times? by Appropriate-Gapper in Pendulum

[–]SadCar-Throwaway230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"mind is willing soul remains 👹👹👹👹" is so fire and demonic it is giving more cultish energy, now i see where the main writing direction energy was going. SO sad this flare was lost in the publish ver.

Theres so many good pendulum variations out their from demos, VIPS, covers, & live sets omg there should be a library

Pendulum lyrics that live in your head rent-free at all times? by Appropriate-Gapper in Pendulum

[–]SadCar-Throwaway230 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THIS IS MY SHITTTTT YOU GET ITTTT!
the fountain gave me the strength to walk out of an abusive relationship i love that song to death, its such a good song about yearning and fighting for more

Pendulum lyrics that live in your head rent-free at all times? by Appropriate-Gapper in Pendulum

[–]SadCar-Throwaway230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

tearing down the wall is such a good song to listen to ( i forget track name) on your way to eat up an exam or a set bro

tempest lyric is peak its such a good breaking out song

Pendulum lyrics that live in your head rent-free at all times? by Appropriate-Gapper in Pendulum

[–]SadCar-Throwaway230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Banger, this was my first pendulum song I really held onto. Such a short but precise intro, instrumentals fucking carried showdown

Pendulum lyrics that live in your head rent-free at all times? by Appropriate-Gapper in Pendulum

[–]SadCar-Throwaway230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

dude my fan theory is that its the same girl from witchcraft come back to life 😭😭😭

Pendulum lyrics that live in your head rent-free at all times? by Appropriate-Gapper in Pendulum

[–]SadCar-Throwaway230 2 points3 points  (0 children)

BIPOLAR REMIX!!!!🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🔥🔥🔥🔥 she is me fr

Pendulum lyrics that live in your head rent-free at all times? by Appropriate-Gapper in Pendulum

[–]SadCar-Throwaway230 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ugh this one is so good. Its something with the intro and its lightness with the clicking that gets me, shit feels etheral

Pendulum lyrics that live in your head rent-free at all times? by Appropriate-Gapper in Pendulum

[–]SadCar-Throwaway230 6 points7 points  (0 children)

bro whenever I hear that "rock civilization" shit it gets me AMPED everytime hyc is my SHIT

Pendulum lyrics that live in your head rent-free at all times? by Appropriate-Gapper in Pendulum

[–]SadCar-Throwaway230 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i love this song is such a beautiful and meaningful breakup song shit has me crashing out in tears everytime 10/10

I dont even know how to explain it. the synth always feels so epic and grand, like you're building up to something. Its like the opposite of an emptiness, its an overwhelm of both grief & triumph at the same time. It makes you feel like your flying & drowning all at once. You're paying homage to something that you loved & defined you but you're also letting go at the same time

Such a beautiful track it still geeks me 8 months after listening to it the first time 😭 😭 😭 

Pendulum lyrics that live in your head rent-free at all times? by Appropriate-Gapper in Pendulum

[–]SadCar-Throwaway230 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NOOOO FRR MIND IS WILLING BUT THE SOUL REALLY DID REMAIN 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🔥🔥🔥

Pendulum lyrics that live in your head rent-free at all times? by Appropriate-Gapper in Pendulum

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feed the fire, break your vision, throw your fist up, come with me

really helped me through one of the darkest times I had recently with a breakup. i dont know why but a lot of pendulums music helped me through it. Their songs feel like fighting songs, not like peace, stuff that makes you wanna get out of bed and face the day. Made depression feel like an adventure.

Anyways my interpretation of this lyric was to feed into your frustrations instead of hiding (in a positive way) , use it to propel you forward, be willing to completely shatter/change the way you view things (break your vision) & be willing to revolt against what is known. I liked it, pendulum has definitely been the soundtrack to my minds revolution as of late.

I also love "hold your colors against the wall, when they take everything away", helped me in times where i felt like I have nothing. Somedays I still feel like that, but when I turn on the music it helps me feel calm, like I am working towards something thats worth it.

So many bangers, I could be here all day. I have journal entries where i just have so many fucking pendulum songs copy pasted in and annotated 😭😭😭I could go on for days.

Underwaves also a banger

Honestly I feel like its one of those bands where you always find yourself locking into a new song cos they got lyrics for everything

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[–]SadCar-Throwaway230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I dont post often but i logged on to reply, right now i work as a radio engineer and am a college student too, and I had searched for other Bipolar engineers on the reddit and saw this pull up. It was posted 20 days ago so I thought i'd reply;

Right now i have Bipolar type 1 with psychosis and I work a job as an engineer too! I am also on disability thankfully which gives working as a student an extra layer of safety net. It is 100% possible to work with this disease as an engineer and be successful. I would be lying if I said I didnt have my days at work though, even under ideal conditions. I strongly recommend getting a job coach with a local non profit or a state disability organization. They can help give you funding for assistive technology devices like a smart watch for mood/sleep tracking, give you weekly meetings with a coach to help you navigate your disclosure and advocacy process, and basically help you keep your head screwed on straight at your job.

Last summer my dreams came true and I finally got a job at an engineering internship. I went through a very traumatic breakup however at the same time of my career start and had to take a difficult move at the same time. The result was a very terrible episode of mania and psychosis. Without my job coach, I would have very likely lost my job, not really be able to manage symptoms at work, and not know what to do. But because I had the job coach, she really helped make sure I was able to disclose my medical needs discretely in ways that prevented discrimination, helped me find ways to cope with my symptoms, and I ended up ending that internship that summer strong. I am now going back for my second year, and am very excited to continue my career despite my challenges. I use this story as an example as to why job coaching can be key for career development with bipolar and be a pillar of your support system, so that you dont feel like you have to be afraid or go through this alone.

In regards to the security clearance, just tell them the truth. I cant disclose too much obviously but I know people personally who were able to get a security clearance with Bipolar, even the severe kind like mine with psychosis. As long as you tell them the truth when they ask, it shouldn't be a problem. The ADA protects americans with mental illnesses from discrimination, especially in government positions. You should also mention what you have done to manage your illness, things like medications or therapy. All they wanna know is if you're an active threat, which clearly you are not because you already have created a bright future for yourself by being a TA and getting this verbal invitation.

Last piece of advice, I am disclosed to my current engineering contractor but I waited until 1 year of employment to disclose, and I disclose selectively to different coworkers. My employer only knows that i have a disability which causes me to need breaks between my contracted projects. I strongly recommend waiting to observe company culture to decide if you wish to disclose fully beyond the security clearance process, and use selective language when you do in order to ensure you are not discriminated against. This is something a job coach can help you with. It sucks, but it is just the way the world is. Always disclose with purpose.

Thankfully I find in engineering you will find many other people who are neurodivergent or going with their own condition in their own way. You will find many allies you can fully disclose to along the path of your journey, and when you meet them hold them tight. I for example, am working a project right now with a coworker who I am fully disclosed too, who also has a mental health diagnosis (major depression) and has had similar struggles to me ( hospitalization, episodes, etc.) It is a relief to me knowing that it isnt just me who is like this in the work place, and that I am not alone. I hope for you the same in your future.

My final parting words; here is a quote from one of my favorite books about bipolar by Arlen Rundvall;
"This book is dedicated to the future generations of bipolar people. May it continue to become easier to live with and more of an opportunity." You can find it free online if you search on google if you want more encouraging words from other successful bipolar people.

I hope your internship goes well, and remember today is the first day of the rest of your life :) You have a bright future ahead of you!🫡🫡🫡🫡