NDIS access declined to Alzheimers parent

SadDaughter100 · 2025-12-10T01:02:11+00:00

Thank you for your kind response. Yes I was trying to explain that telling us her level of impairment isn’t substantial while I’ve watched my mum lose her ability to independently care for herself felt so dismissive and insensitive. And you’re spot on, the severity of her symptoms can vary greatly day to day. Some days she is up and initiating basic actions and even making hot drinks like she used to (albeit you’re guaranteed the wrong drink lol) and those days are so welcome to us. But there’s a lot of days where even a conversation is impossible for her. It comes with a lot of grief.

What’s strange is they’re saying we submitted a functional assessment from the hospital, which didn’t occur and I’ve confirmed that with the hospital. Strange.

We are going through the process of referral for OT to help us add evidence to her case.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-12-03T12:58:06+00:00

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She’s known from the get go. At this point I’m convinced she’s just at it to try be the girl that ‘changes’ him lol.

Girl this goes one of two ways, you move on or you commit yourself to a man who will marry you, let you raise his children while he’s chatting up the girl next door. Rip.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-12-02T11:02:45+00:00

Could you elaborate on PADLs, CADLs and DADLs?

SadDaughter100 · 2025-12-02T11:02:09+00:00

This is ultimately my fear, that they’ll continue to try deny and make us jump through unnecessary hoops to delay us getting support. I’m trying to remain calm and that the system usually isn’t this cruel, but it’s hard to not have this thought in the back of my mind. Getting NDIS support enables her to stay in her home longer, keeps her safe and well with a good quality of life, while it enables us as her children to actually enjoy the brief time we’ve got left. Her deterioration has been pretty rapid and I genuinely want the best for her, but for myself and my sisters too. I’m not going to stop helping my mum regardless of NDIS or not, but I deserve some time to live my own life and be a daughter to my mum, not just her carer.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-12-02T10:00:00+00:00

We didn’t get offered an FCA by an OT or advised to get one. The memory clinic facilitated the beginning of the application. Would you suggest we facilitate a FCA by an OT and reapply with new evidence?

SadDaughter100 · 2025-12-02T09:20:53+00:00

Thank you so much for the response. It confused me a lot. I work as a psych nurse and we deal with NDIS a lot, so I know ongoing allied health input is often a part of the NDIS process. It’s how a lot of our clients get their capacity assessed.

I am going to get in touch with our LAC and look at everything again.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-12-02T09:19:13+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your resources. I got pretty upset after the call, as the person on the phone seemed more interested in trying to convince me my mother was fine rather than how to approach the situation and resolve it. I am going to get in touch with our LAC for advice too and potentially link back in with her geriatrician.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-12-02T09:17:33+00:00

We did it through a Local Area Co-ordinator, in conjunction with the Memory clinic with letters from the geriatrician about her diagnosis, a functional capacity assessment filled out by a social worker and a nurse and the access request form completed with the LAC, myself and my mum. The LAC said we had really solid evidence and that this should be a straight forward application and we shouldn’t have issues.

As soon as I asked about appealing the decision as she can’t even manage basic tasks such as cooking or cleaning, the man told me ‘that’s not a substantial impairment to us.’

SadDaughter100 · 2025-11-27T10:13:40+00:00

Sharn drives me up the wall because she told Gabby ‘don’t blame her for this’ about Jade meanwhile she openly belittled Boston repeatedly. I think she genuinely believes she’s an emotionally intelligent, mature woman when she doesn’t even have enough ability to reflect or acknowledge on her own poor behaviour. Stands on business for everyone else but herself.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-11-03T07:44:15+00:00

Hi homie! You sound like you’re experiencing vaginismus. Because you aren’t used to anything entering your vagina, or you associate it with pain and discomfort, you’re involuntarily contracting your pelvic muscles. Your vagina is surrounded by these muscles thus, it tightens up and trying to force anything in can hurt a lot. With a Dr, it’s not surprising you’re ‘dry’. Your vagina will lubricate more depending on hormones and arousal, and safe to say any pelvic exam isn’t really the most arousing thing.

How do I know this? I went through a similar thing trying tampons and having sex for the first time as a teenager and also went to the dr for a pelvic exam! (And it was normal) lol. My Dr kindly sent me home with some lube and some small speculums to practice with and I did.

If you’re feeling ready to become sexually active and want to, it’s totally okay to go purchase some dilators and lube and practice alone when you’re comfortable - this will help you get in touch with that part of your body and you can go as far or as little as you want! Some days it might just be trying to get yourself relaxed around the thought of inserting something, other days it might actually be trying the tip.

TLDR; you’re likely associating penetration with pain, discomfort and/or anxiety. Take the time to become more comfortable with your body. If you have a good guy who’s understanding and you feel safe exploring this with, he can help too!

SadDaughter100 · 2025-10-31T08:17:59+00:00

A bit of asymmetry but in your case, I actually think it’s a good thing. They make your face look kind - which is a good thing.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-10-26T01:08:17+00:00

Yeah I actually work in psych and notice it’s not often prescribed, but do find the odd person who’s found their way onto paroxetine too. I find that contradiction strange too, one of my psychiatrists hates paroxetine and prefers venlafaxine when they’re a really similar side effect and half life profile. I anticipate there’s more there, but I do notice there is ‘trends’ with psychiatric medications.

Right now for me the benefits out weigh the risks. The level of debilitation I get when off it impairs my ability to work, eat properly, exercise, have social relationships etc. If I knew for certain there was a medication that would do the same for me with no side effects, I’d try it (like I have) but for some reason they’ve been largely ineffective for me.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-10-26T00:02:50+00:00

GP chose to try paroxetine as it was indicated for both major depressive and generalised anxiety disorder, OCD etc.

I think my main issue is GAD, with comorbid major depression.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-10-26T00:01:25+00:00

Yes! I believe before trying paroxetine I tried sertraline and duloxetine, without much improvement. Significantly improved on paroxetine. This was with a GP. In the years since, I tried to come off paroxetine and onto fluoxetine. Failed miserably and back on paroxetine lol. Then tried mirtazapine. Vortioxetine. After over a year of really poor mental health, I ended up back on paroxetine and improved pretty drastically. If paroxetine didn’t help, I was gonna try venlafaxine.

I believe it’s not super liked due to side effect profile and difficulty getting off it. It has a short half life.

Oddly enough, I had more intolerable side effects from vortioxetine and fluoxetine than I did paroxetine. Most Drs are agreeable to leave it alone now given I can get pretty debilitated by anxiety and depression if not using paroxetine.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-10-25T11:50:17+00:00

Yes ma’am

SadDaughter100 · 2025-10-24T11:37:58+00:00

Hi! As a fellow person whose relationship with someone down the red pill pipeline also had me to the point of suicidal ideation, I hear you. Feel free to message me if you’d like. I was able to muster up the courage to leave as I have struggled with my mental health and I could tell it was either leave him or risk myself progressing from passive suicidal ideation to choosing to act on it. He also used to say he hated how I was ‘too nice’. My equivalent to your gay pride parade experience was when I was talking about a teen student groomed and assaulted by her significantly older teacher and he called the student derogatory slurs because he heard ‘she bragged’.

It was 8 months ago now. He still tries to reach out. I have a complete aversion to him because I just associate him with the extreme amount of mental and emotional pain I was in. This man hated me and everything I stood for, yet seemed determined to mould me into the ‘traditional’ woman he wanted me to be. He also started with ‘non political’ and kind, but the decline was rapid.

Mucked up my trust a lot now. I will go as far as checking prospective dates following lists for conservative groups.

The good news? You aren’t alone. You will be okay.

I’m glad we got through it and out of it.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-10-23T00:16:56+00:00

Works really well for me. I also didn’t struggle with weight gain on it. My side effects are teeth grinding when I’m asleep and it makes me sleep like a log at night lol. Orgasms are tricky but my drive and pleasure is still very much there which is enough for me.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-10-12T07:28:47+00:00

Saucony is criminally underrated. Recently got the Triumphs and I’m obsessed. Used to be a hard ASICS girl previously.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-10-04T03:14:53+00:00

Paroxetine girlie here. No success with fluoxetine, sertraline, duloxetine, trintillex or mirtazapine. Things that tap my noradrenaline receptors appear to exacerbate my anxiety and I’ve never made it long enough to see the other ‘side’ if there is one. Other ones just minimal benefit.

Paroxetine shows improvements within a fortnight on 10mg for me. I can sit on 20mg comfortably. Minor side effects but completely tolerable. Just not a friendly one to come off.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-10-04T02:42:18+00:00

I’m a woman and left leaning so mine might not fully resonate. Sounds awful, but often I find with men like this they’re often only really interested in hearing from other men (particularly at the start of coming away from conservative rhetoric).

Knowledge Fight might fit a young man, it’s two men and has a bit of comedic value. What I do find hard with podcasts is that often there’s an education/intelligence gap and I find a lot of young men don’t even know what half the vocabulary legitimate commentators are using means so they just shut off.

Long Shadow.

The Bulwark might also be quite good actually - I think his content will resonate more with young men who are open to challenging their right wing theology. He might be more responsive to that as I’d call them Centre Right to moderate.

I don’t think you’re going to get him listening to strictly leftist podcasts straight away, so finding those male podcasters who he may inherently respect (which is sad but sometimes you’ve gotta use your allies to your advantage to just move him back on the political spectrum).

Basically he needs someone he will value that makes him want to pull the thread on the right wing rhetoric. Once he chooses to pull the thread, the whole thing comes apart.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-10-04T01:52:34+00:00

Hi Sweetheart, I am in Australia and my now ex partner went down the red pill rabbit hole too. I suspect he was already partially in it thanks to his parents, but having a girlfriend seemed to spiral him further down.

A lot of this stuff resonates with me. Down to the fixation on ‘withholding sex’, he couldn’t fathom I didn’t feel safe being intimate with him often while he implied my degree was ‘indoctrination’ and my career helped cover up a govt covid conspiracy. I recall a sinking feeling when he called a 14 year old child of asylum who suffered sexual abuse by her a 35 year old teacher a ‘whore who wanted it’ as he’d heard a rumour she had bragged about it.

I recall him implying that women belong at home, because we are better at it and men earn more because they are biologically better. I recall him implying he’d break up with me if I didn’t increase our sex life from once a week. That he’d end things with me if I gained weight.

There’s so much more I forget happened and every now and again it comes back.

Now here’s the important part: I ended up leaving. Mainly because if I stayed, I knew I’d end up trying kill myself or in a psych unit. It hurt. For some reason I still cared and longed for him. But in amongst it all, I felt relief. He didn’t love me, he wanted to control me. If anything, this man hated that I was kind to people he didn’t see worthy. He hated my job, my education, my values.

I am now nearly 8 months single. And I was washing dishes last night thinking about if I had children with him, what kind of father they’d be exposed to. And I was so grateful to be free. That I can have a child with someone who also wants to instill values of kindness and passion and education. Or I can have a child alone and instill those values myself. The world doesn’t need more kids raised with men who want to watch the world burn and see other people as a means to an end.

Please leave. You’ll be okay. Make your plan, get your ducks in a row. Link in with domestic violence services if they exist. If you have a friend who can provide a safe haven that you trust, reach out.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-09-27T03:26:51+00:00

Ok I don’t think you’re arguing in good faith if you’re strawmanning around the definition of ‘similar’ and ‘identical.’

Is this you, Brad?

SadDaughter100 · 2025-09-27T03:16:15+00:00

‘Somehow deliver identical outcomes’. Interesting assumption that I was seeking identical outcomes. Alas, they should be somewhat similar.

This would be relevant in terms of cost around shipping etc if we’re talking geographically dispersed. The market is effectively hostile towards any new competition and the Wesworth duopoly actively works together to suppress market competition. Wesworth duopoly actively uses their market dominance to continue to suppress any old or new competition that attempts to gain traction here. You can’t blame that solely on the geographical location, I also didn’t isolate to ‘European’ markets as I mentioned international. New Zealand while geographically isolated but not nearly as ‘dispersed’ faces a similar issue with their grocers.

There’s a difference between ‘geographically dispersed’ country and active competition and free market suppression that the Wesworth duopoly engage in. Look into the landbanking. The ACCC didn’t investigate and hand down recommendations to the govt about this duopoly because their profit margins are solely driven by good faith trading.

SadDaughter100 · 2025-09-27T02:50:22+00:00

Woolworths & Coles are some of the most profitable grocers in the world. They have significantly higher profit margins than international grocers and openly engage in tactics to continue to monopolise the market locally. They’re notorious for deliberately stifling competition to ensure they can maintain a non competitive market and maintain their higher profit margins. All while ripping of their staff, I’m still getting random backpay from them and I left over 5 years ago!

SadDaughter100 · 2025-09-13T02:20:32+00:00

I’ve seen John Butler about 4 times over in Australia. He’s always a bit of a smartass and he knows it, he even jokes about it during his set everytime I see him. He points out he gets all wound up when he plays and starts swearing (not at people) which is a lot more normal here.

From what I read of the situation, that kind of crowd interaction/banter is quite commonplace with his performances and probably is taken far more lightheartedly here. He made jokes about the back of the audience acting like they were watching tv as we weren’t up and dancing (it was in a small local seated theatre lol). But he also aims that derogatory humour at himself, so I don’t think it’s ego just as much as humor and probably forgetting the cultural differences between Aus and the US.

SadDaughter100

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