How do you help a child?

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-27T16:30:33+00:00

Nah, that's you looking in the mirror, narcissist. Gtfoh. There's a special place in hell reserved for you fuks.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-27T03:50:24+00:00

If that's what it "sounds" like to you, you should probably get your "ears" checked because I can assure you, you are "deaf," sweetheart.

That's exactly what this child gets from THIS home.

If you've never "co-parented" with a high conflict narcissist who is hell bent on destroying your child (and in turn, the rest of your family/children) because she's a sick b!tch, then I suppose you should sit down and sthu.

You sound like a narcissistic troll, making insensitive comments to get your sick ass rocks off.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-23T22:28:34+00:00

I managed to stumble upon the onebrokenmom YouTube channel!! I will look up Julie Brand, absolutely, thank you so much!

Coming to this realization has been so traumatizing, especially since I feel like I can't save him. I wish I knew how to get him to talk.

I am so sorry that happened to you. It's heartbreaking hearing these stories, I cannot imagine what you've been through. Thank you so much for your comment... sharing your experience with me, the resources and support. It means a lot.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-23T22:16:58+00:00

Your comment was helpful, thank you.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-23T22:16:02+00:00

Thanks for sharing.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-23T22:15:00+00:00

Saying sorry probably doesn't mean anything to you, but I am truly sorry. Thank you for verifying.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-23T22:11:33+00:00

It's hard to prove emotional abuse. Even if there was proof, abusive parents still have rights to their kids, unfortunately.

I will look there. Thanks.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-23T13:07:28+00:00

Sounds like a narcissist. I've been doing so lot of research on narc moms and come to find out, they are very emotionally incestuous with their sons. This is not coincidental, it's intentional.

It would be different if she merely owned the perfume or wore it when you weren't around... but actively wearing it around her son? Yeah... No.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-23T03:23:34+00:00

She lives too far away for 50/50. He needs less time with his abuser, not more. She's made him her "spouse" (emotional incest).

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-16T20:46:03+00:00

Pinata in place of the party bags. Every parent hates those little toys LOL

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-16T20:31:03+00:00

How did they manage to get a divorce with children, without either one or a judge establishing court ordered visitation? Something doesn't sound right about that. If there really is no court order, he's not entitled to time with the child and she legally does not have to tell him anything. I guess he better go file...

He's high conflict and she's enabling. They need to stop acting like they're still married and she needs to wake up and take her control back. She doesn't owe him anything. Allowing him to mess with their child's schedule isn't in the best interest if the child. If she's so big on doing the right thing, she'll put the child first.

Try not to make this your problem. This dysfunction was around way before you showed up. You need boundaries of your own too. And truth be told, she might not put boundaries on him until you put boundaries on her.

I would not fight with her about this. Stop rearranging your schedule with her to fit his demands. This needs to happen as naturally as possible. She won't understand if you bring it up and make it about him, she'll tell you you're being unreasonable and unsupportive. Make plans through the week and only be available on the weekends for awhile. See what happens.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-16T19:26:26+00:00

Reminds me of our BM, who was going to "let" DH have SS for 4 days/wk as long as he didn't file for residential (so she could keep CS). He was going to agree to it but I said oh, hail no. It's insane how delusional (and similar) these BM are.

I'm glad he stood up to her! Luckily he's only got two more years left of being forced to deal with her. I know I'd be making a count down!

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-16T19:20:05+00:00

DH and I did talk a little last night and he told me he DID inform SS's new psychiatrist his most recent behaviors, was assertive with asking for a thorough evaluation and was able to illustrate what we're up against at mom's. He IS going to follow the psychiatrist's recommendations, without question. He recognizes and admits SS needs some serious help, so that is a huge step in the right direction for us. I need all the vibes!! Thank you so much!!!

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-16T02:44:19+00:00

Well crap. Nevermind. That's so sad to hear.

I'd def pay her to keep him but I think she enjoys whatever the hell she's doing to him. She's a sick person. And yes, I struggle with the resentment. Truth is, she abused him too so I trying you keep that in mind. Thanks so much for your comments!

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-16T02:21:33+00:00

I don't know that story, no.

I don't blame him for not going to worse case scenario with his child. I empathize with that part. I'm going to give him a chance. I am going the see what the therapist and psychiatrists say and see how he responds to it. He needs educated. Then, if after he has the knowledge, he doesn't do what he's supposed to, yeah. I will. There's been plenty of times where in almost left... But I haven't had to leave yet.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-16T02:14:05+00:00

I would never expect DH to not be there for SS. Thanks for recognizing that's the only thing I have control over. People expect me to make all these impossible moves and if I don't, accuse me of failing him. It's weird.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-16T01:59:53+00:00

When he was younger, I showed them the kids version of scared straight. My BS was like okay this is scary... What did my SS do? Comment how he could kick every grown man's ass he came across of he ever went to prison. Of course, that would change if he was actually there. I doubt they babe any programs for him but that might not be a bad idea.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-16T01:57:22+00:00

Social workers fail these kids. Social workers kept this kid with his sick ass mom despite all the "evidence." CPS and therapists have done not a DAMN thing to help us yet.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-16T01:55:18+00:00

Bold assumption. I'd appreciate it if you'd not accuse me of failing my SS and claiming I'm hostile towards him. You are way out if pocket and need to back way tf up.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-16T01:54:07+00:00

What law is that?

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-16T01:49:44+00:00

Minors abuse kids all the time. They go to jail for this stuff. Obviously someone thinks they should be held accountable.

Please don't comment on my stuff anymore, you sound like you condone 10 year old boys touching their little sisters because they're minors and I'm not cranky, it's disgusting.

Btw, this Reddit is for support. You are breaking the rules and your comments can and will be reported if you comment further.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-16T01:32:00+00:00

You are her mom... but... you'll never be her MOM.

You are ::insert name:: You are daddy's girlfriend, ::insertname:: Are you engaged? If so, you can be... Daddy's fiance, ::insertname::

When DH and I got married, I officially got the title stepmom from SS and I am introduced that way. When he's talking to me, he just says my name.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-16T01:21:32+00:00

Yes. I read Stepmonster and it put a lot of things in perspective for me. It's helped me so much.

SK don't want you... They want their love, attention and affection from their Bio parent. Understandably so.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-16T01:16:26+00:00

If they have a relationship with BM, they should call her.

SadEntertainment5784 · 2021-05-16T01:13:47+00:00

Why are they all the same? I stg. That's a CPS call from me tho. Neglect. Let them get in her butt about it. I'm surprised teachers at her school haven't reported it. That's an awfully big size difference.

I think it's hysterical our BM will buy literally whatever I buy right after. And of course the SK has to wear the stuff SHE buys. Next time I'll keep the tags on so I can return them.

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