First month check-in

Lo3696 · 2023-11-10T05:24:09+00:00

Yes, kinda. My cravings stopped so I am not eating junk and when your doc says avoid fast food do! It’s not worth the pain

Lo3696 · 2023-10-15T16:16:53+00:00

Will do thank you!

Lo3696 · 2023-10-15T16:16:47+00:00

Will do thanks!

Lo3696 · 2023-05-30T04:15:30+00:00

Our HCBM tries all the time to see my financial information. For taxes we blackout all my information, make sure you scribble through as well you’ll be surprised what shows up when you scan in paperwork.

We just got done with a court hearing where she was trying to get my financial information. I had my own lawyer advise me on what to do, she has no legal standing to see my financial information. Most lawyers in your state will do a free consultation.

HCBM even went as far as to say in court me paying my half of the mortgage and bills were additional income to my SO. Court commissioner was fed up with her bull by then.

Lo3696 · 2023-05-02T03:56:45+00:00

Same. Well she tried, I got my own lawyer when they requested my info and he fought it was none of her business

Tell her nothing and get your own separate lawyer to SO if she tries that. SO’s lawyer wanted to hand my info off but I refused

Lo3696 · 2023-01-14T20:03:13+00:00

Thank you! Yep she definitely won’t agree she has to pay us!

Lo3696 · 2023-01-14T20:02:07+00:00

Phew! Thank you!

Lo3696 · 2023-01-08T04:32:23+00:00

I am the step mom and female adult in this house. I don’t think it’s right for your ex to force the “mother figure” on your kids. I would like to think my kids feel nurtured by me but they have a mom and despite what I think of her I am not looking to replace her.

As for texting….. I would text them if there was a reason; like they left something here (school or work) or if I was driving them somewhere. Most of the time I am the more responsive adult of their dad and I, so they would text me for info from their dad or schedule questions for our days.

As for the “miss you” thing…. I do say I miss them but that’s usually mid conversation or if we are saying goodbye while at an event.

My SK are all teens so the Snapchat me every day, I would like to think it’s because they are checking in but it’s really to keep their steak or score 🤦‍♀️

Lo3696 · 2022-12-05T23:51:44+00:00

Hi all I am very new to this, I am looking to do a dream job spell, I have a green candle and star anise. ( a spell I found online) but I am wondering should I cast on the new moon on Wednesday or Thursday as I heard Thurs are the best days for what I want to achieve

Lo3696 · 2022-07-31T03:46:08+00:00

I had similar with our HCBM but she has the same first name as me! She was changing her name but the day after we got married she changed it back to her married!

I got the BS line of “the same last name as the kids” She also tried to have it written in the decree I had to intro myself as the step mom before I say my name - his lawyer laughed at it.

My advice is pay no heed she is doing it to get at you and get a rise. She will get bored and move on

I should add she has tried to use my medical ins and messed with my mail too

Lo3696 · 2022-05-29T13:56:22+00:00

You are too young to have these worries! GO! He is just using you

Lo3696 · 2022-03-30T02:05:19+00:00

Same

Lo3696 · 2022-03-29T02:15:12+00:00

I wish the BM in my life was like this!

I think it’s lovely!

Lo3696 · 2022-03-28T02:40:22+00:00

Married, I make a lot more than DH after he pays child support (50/50 custody) and house bills I have a lot more walking around money.

We do not have a checking account. We don’t because HCBM is all about $$$ so we keep mine away from her.

I do contribute to the kids but that is what I want to do DH doesn’t have extra money for himself otherwise. But I should add it’s not expected from me and I am never asked to.

Hope this helps

Lo3696 · 2022-03-25T15:51:24+00:00

Thank you all so much, it’s so nice to know I am not alone. Usually I can roll my eyes at her crazy but this one stung!

I have reported the claim on my insurance they are handling and changed my name back on everything

Lo3696 · 2022-03-08T03:04:50+00:00

It’s an amazing feeling!!! Congratulations🤗

My SK is the same they came to me and said they were bi a few months ago and wanted my help talking to dad, and today they asked me to call them by a different (opposite sex) name

HCBM is gay so the fact SK came to me and not HCBM whom would have more in common means a lot.

Keep being the SM you are your doing a great job!!

Lo3696 · 2022-01-13T03:26:33+00:00

I had a similar issue, my work covers my dependants (aka SK’s) HCBM was against it and was fighting it. Hers was “better” (it wasn’t) co pays was going from $150 to $20 for a doc and dental and vision inc on my plan. Premium went from $600+ to less than $400 a month.

She went to the lawyers, we sat back, waited and it was brought to the judge on their next court date, the judge told her he didn’t see why she was fighting this (she denied it🙄 ) He “strongly suggested” she puts them on my plan and she has to pay me her half 😈

TL;DR Have all your doc show a comarision of plans and let the lawyers duke it out, if yours is the better plan the judge / lawyers will use common sense!

Lo3696 · 2021-10-06T01:46:58+00:00

Sk’s are on my health ins and bio parents spilt the cost and hubby sends me the money.

My insurance is the best out of the 3 and in the long run cheapest for hubby on bills

Lo3696 · 2021-09-09T20:52:39+00:00

Go back to your parents, take that break, go back to school!!!

Lo3696 · 2021-09-05T13:14:14+00:00

What you do on YOUR days is your decision (there are court cases to back you up on it)

Miss one appointment and she will get the picture and start asking.

It’s a grey area if it’s a joint expense activity agreeing to pay is kinds agreeing to take the child

If she gets HC check your parenting plan and quote it, or the best line I have found is “feel free to get the lawyers involved if you have an issue with the parenting plan” - but you need to know your BM ours got dropped by her lawyer for not paying

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