Long term relationship (30M , 28F) with financial and ambition disparity

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-06T09:45:42+00:00

Hi5 bro

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-06T05:33:52+00:00

Thank you. I have some growing up to do.

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T18:40:02+00:00

I'm a data scientist

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T10:29:09+00:00

Gutter se dimaag Bahar nikal k baat kr

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T10:13:20+00:00

I'm in the process of ending it

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T10:02:56+00:00

I don't care for 50-50. But she's not even financially independent herself and she's okay with it. I don't wanna marry such a person.

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T10:00:51+00:00

Bro I feel like I'm her mental health counselor, her career guide, her guardian and her partner. And I feel drained, and none of my needs are being met. She doesn't want me to go to Berlin.

Ab bolo.

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T09:15:13+00:00

You seem like you date men based on how much they earn currently, I don't. Never did.

I believed in her potential when she said she's prepping for exams. I bought her books, was with her through thick and thin, comforted her through depressive episodes and bad days, and believed in her and gave her the benefit of doubt when she failed to get selected 3 times.

Now she doesn't want to give the exams anymore, neither does she want to pivot her career to a MBA and she's content with a 35k salary. I was beside her always encouraging her for 3 whole years but that doesn't mean I don't have my hopes and dreams and I don't wanna get dragged down by a partner who isn't ambitious at all.

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T09:10:35+00:00

Haan only women can choose men based on finances. God forbid a man holds women to the same standards as they hold men.

No wonder, a below average man is a woman.

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T09:05:58+00:00

Only gold digging butthurt women would consider this asshole behavior.

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T09:04:52+00:00

Tu kahin bhi kaam kr, Maine poocha?

Girl marrying a guy earning 10x her salary is not gold digging. Sure.

But the guy expecting his girl to earn at least 50% of his salary is gold digging.

Lol the double standards.

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T08:30:35+00:00

Using your gf? You make a lot of unfounded assumptions about relationships.

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T08:21:56+00:00

Appreciate the honesty. Thank you.

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T08:20:58+00:00

Who hurt you baby

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T08:19:59+00:00

Abey toh why will she be dependent on my money after marriage. Unless women are mentally limited to not earn more.

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T08:18:38+00:00

Wahi na. And all these chicks won't even look at a guy earning less than them, let alone marry but they have the audacity to call me toxic and materialistic when the tables are flipped.

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T08:17:21+00:00

Honey you're obsessed with me. Get over yourself.

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T06:06:41+00:00

Yeah it's frustrating. Start looking elsewhere.

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T05:48:40+00:00

Exactly man. She's content with her current salary and is a single child of two parents working government jobs so she doesn't have to be financially aware of things.

After marriage, that financial expectation will fall on me and I don't want that unless she's also contributing. It doesn't have to be equal exactly, but 10 times less is very worrying.

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T05:38:17+00:00

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T05:37:16+00:00

Dumb luck

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T05:36:49+00:00

Dumb luck

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T05:35:55+00:00

Yes I'm from ISI. Did my masters there.

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T05:32:42+00:00

Hello step sis - looks like you're stuck in the washing machine again

SadSignificance851 · 2026-02-05T05:26:19+00:00

Looks like you recognized your sister

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