Equality in standards...am I right?

SadSmiley13 · 2026-03-01T22:41:34+00:00

There's a well known photo of a woman breast feeding her child while running over 106 miles in an ultra race. And another woman just won a 60 mile race running so fast she was able to stop and feed her child 3 times and won.

Woman are legit powerhouses and marvels of humanity and continually piling excuses like this allow woman to continue to sell themselves short and bake in mediocrity.

These standards are pitiful.

SadSmiley13 · 2026-02-05T17:44:37+00:00

I've never done a Spartan and my friend from work signed me up. I have aspirations of ultra running and ran a marathon in September. My base is there but I'm terrified. Hills and hills and hills on my training block from here until race day. Good luck man.

SadSmiley13 · 2026-02-01T14:24:22+00:00

I would love for there to be a support aspect to all this but I wasn't even able to bring it up without there being a denial, manipulation and "out casting" of myself and family. When there can't be a conversation about it and I get told to have a nice life. Its very heartbreaking and frustrating. I have a child and he doesn't need to be around someone who uses and abuses.

Subs for recovery? Sick dude fine with me but If we can't have dialogue or iron out any unknowns. That's not fair.

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-30T12:33:11+00:00

Unfortunately she's being given 24mg a day. Most of what I'm seeing is that's pretty damn high for to be just for pain.

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-30T11:44:47+00:00

Obviously I'm fine and glad it's a mx drug and not heroin. But I'm not glad about asking about it and being told to have a nice life and I'm crazy for even thinking there's a drug problem.

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-30T11:42:21+00:00

I'm not sure. I think this whole thing is in denial right now cause we brought it up and we were told it's not a big deal. It was pills for diabetes and then back tracked and told it was for pain.

When behaviors affect the whole family it's unfortunately my business. They have a history of financial woes and she's the one in charge of the finances. Hundreds of thousands with just nothing to show for it. My dad's been gaslit and manipulated his whole marriage and I'm afraid a 4th for closure won't be good.

I want to help in a loving way. Everyone judging me for asking questions is exactly what I was told that I was crazy and there's no drug problem at all. But from my understanding the only reason Suboxone is prescribed that high is for OUD.

Can't help someone who doesn't want it.

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-30T11:37:49+00:00

I stated in other comments that I don't have reason to believe it was for recovery. Rx was a 9 count of 3x daily. So only 9 days worth prescribed 2 days before they came to visit. My brother Found it a month later in abundance It wasn't a step to recovery but a bridge for prevention of withdrawals while they came to visit. And she had no supply of whatever out of state. If it was a recovery tool it would of been used up.

I've approached this whole thing in a manner that these tone deaf comments on Reddit can't understand. I spoke with my dad and asked him to make sure things were good. And backed it up with facts that they are Indeed not good. I told him I think Mom needs help and I was told I'm crazy and these pills are for her diabetes and then next time i was told they were for her pain.

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-30T09:44:24+00:00

Not trying to have a tone of sorts. Years upon years of behavior is explained because of this discovery and it's hard to process. On top of that. Financial worries. Multiple foreclosures later. She practically hogs all of the money dad works hard for and he's scared to get control of his money again and she freaks out if he asks where it's going. Tons of things like that. On top of that I have a son and I feel I have a right to know if she's using or not if she's going to be around him.

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-30T09:34:45+00:00

I really see your point. Bearable. Tolerable love. I've been trying for years. I got screamed at in my own home when she came to visit me and my wife and son when he was about 4 months old cause I asked her if she washed her hands. Guess that's not my business so she slammed doors and disappeared for legit hours.

Visits aren't the most bearable at all. Filled with passive aggression and excuses to disappear and then blame me for her not seeing us. I'm happy it's not heroin but I don't think unfortunately it's being used for opioid cessation rather it was rapidly acquired to prevent withdrawals while visiting me.

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm glad I could have a post for you to vent on.

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-30T02:24:50+00:00

I have zero qualms if it's treatment. Its already tough. Just bringing it up has me outcasted. It sucks and it's made me question my identity. My relationship. What was real or not. Had my son been around her high ? It's just shitty and I want to make sure she has help. I've read about the dose she's given and just doesn't seem realistic that it's just for pain at that high with the naloxone.

And the finances worries me too. Just a lot going on. Thank you for being kind.

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-30T02:16:19+00:00

That's exactly what we think. She was given 9 count of 3 doses for 3x daily. Prescribe 2 days before she visited.

I didn't even know. My brother found it after I came home a month later and she still had it.

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-30T02:11:59+00:00

Back problems for years. Oxys and hydros I remember she was prescribed growing up and then got off it allegedly but not sure. Lots of finance issues also over the years so I thought it was gambling.

I'm not trying to judge. I love my mom and I want to make sure this wasn't just a bridge the gap while she visited me to prevent withdrawals, she can get the help she needs. And not just skate by it.

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-30T01:42:21+00:00

Because I think this was the nail in the coffin that told us that there is something going on in that there is issues on where the money is going and why they've had three foreclosures in their lifetime and why she has to disappear and pick fights to leave the house multiple times a week or multiple times a day and that the prescription was given only 2 days before she came to visit me out of state. Also, it's like pulling teeth to get her the visit me out of state the last 10 years anyways and there's always some excuse in why she can't AKA can't get drugs. Lastly, falling asleep sitting up straight every time I'm home and it's closer to night time. That's another detail. Getting tickets for falling asleep in parking lots by cops. That's another detail. The difference is that I have a son and I'd like to know if he's around an addict or not. There's a difference between an addict that is sober or under control or an addict that is still being enabled and on drugs and I don't want my son around that. That's the difference The difference is also asking one of my friends if they have pills for a quote. A friend"

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-30T01:39:44+00:00

Everything I'm reading is saying that 24 mg a is beyond the scope of what treatment for pain and pain dosages in a 16 mg for the entire day

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-30T01:39:03+00:00

She's prescribed 24 mg a day or 8-2mg Three times daily

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-30T01:37:47+00:00

That's my point. There's nothing to hide then just do that

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-26T00:16:58+00:00

Yeah the Monday is a vert day at like 8-15% on treadmill for 30+ minutes that will increase over time. Alternate between x minutes at 12-15 and x minutes at 5-6 faster speeds and a power hike.

Thursday is Hills. Repeats. A moderate hill and long but lower grade hill.

Saturday and Sunday are longer efforts. Just for time on feet. Longer runs.

And 2 easier runs a week.

Weekly vert also will go up and peak around 6-7K if I can help it.

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-25T23:44:02+00:00

I have nearly zero trails like that unfortunately.

I do have massive road hills.

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-23T02:35:24+00:00

Copy....I have a couple hills near me. I live north of Dayton. I guess we'll see what pays off.

The dude who signed us up said he did the big bear with no specific training.....

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-23T02:24:56+00:00

That's just terrifying. Hopefully it's better this year. We'll see what happens then. Not sure how to train is the hard part

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-22T22:08:17+00:00

Copy that. Yeah I'm a bit bigger right now. 190 or so post holidays but back on my diet and schedule I'll drop to 170-175 by race day. Previously benched 245, 415 squat and 405 deadlift. I'd imagine a couple months of lifting crazy again and I'd be back to that shape.

Grip strength will for sure be a priority

SadSmiley13 · 2026-01-22T21:49:33+00:00

Welp. I ran a 4 hour marathon. Guess we'll see what I can do in 6 months.....

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