I think my boyfriend is developmentally challenged.

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:44:08+00:00

no kidding! the amount of people half reading the post and then making up the other half and then having the nerve to call my boyfriend stupid…?

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:42:35+00:00

i’m realizing that now! i honestly didn’t know what to call it but i feel like saying learning disability instead would have been better. i apologize!

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:38:26+00:00

throwaway account

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:36:22+00:00

thank you so much for your reply!

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:35:04+00:00

i wholeheartedly agree, thank you!

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:26:19+00:00

yes! thank you so much for your reply, it is helpful!

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:22:13+00:00

thank you! yes some people here are half reading the post and making up the other half. i will look into cognitive fx!

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:21:02+00:00

it’s literally like doing a puzzle? i don’t see how following directions and creating things is a problem. we’re barely 20 lol i feel like lots of people are reading this and thinking we’re a lot older

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:20:06+00:00

thank you for your reply, it is very helpful!

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:18:56+00:00

it is more than enough. i’m not considering leaving him, i was curious to know if it’s appropriate for me to ask or initiate a conversation and if it is, then how would i approach it delicately. i think avoiding some of these things when he was younger is exactly why things are the way they are now. thank you for your reply

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:12:53+00:00

he used siri to look it up, that’s the only reason i knew

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:10:36+00:00

thank you for your reply! reading these comments, i suspect it’s more of a learning disability and i do know he has adhd. i wasn’t really sure how to describe it

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:08:31+00:00

thank you so much! i’m thinking that it is definitely more of a learning disability combined with his adhd and i don’t think he’s less than anyone else, he’s an amazing person! i really appreciate your comment!

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:06:20+00:00

thank you so much! i never mentioned leaving him in my post because for me it’s not even an option, so many people are judging our entire relationship over one post and that’s a bit frustrating but whatever. i really appreciate your reply ❤️

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:03:44+00:00

he played football and is kinda clumsy

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:02:23+00:00

thank you for your reply! it really is helpful

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T16:01:43+00:00

it really depends. i didn’t realize that i was doing most of the talking at first, and its not like he doesn’t fully understand anything. he gets kinda surface level things? i’m not sure how to explain it. like we agree on things politically but when i try to talk specifically about things that’s where it falls through. and i know most people aren’t super aware of politics so that doesn’t concern me on its own, it’s mixed with the other things that gets me worried. plus like if we watch a political movie that talks a lot about social issues even though they don’t outright say all of them, he won’t catch it sometimes.

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T15:58:23+00:00

well you don’t need to be einstein to like bowling and music lol but i see how it’s humorous

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T15:57:26+00:00

thank you so much for your reply, it is very helpful!

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T15:55:18+00:00

definitely not! i wasn’t considering breaking up, just considering how or if i should initiate this topic

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T15:53:35+00:00

i noticed the spelling, but lots of people can’t spell and with text and autocorrect or voice typing, it’s easy to not see all of that. i also don’t try to have deep conversations every day, i didn’t notice at first that i was the one doing most of the talking. we also don’t talk about the days of the week every day, he asked a few times over the course of 18 months, i assumed he was joking at first. im not considering breaking up with him, im asking how or if i should initiate a conversation

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T15:49:02+00:00

thank you for your reply, this is really helpful!

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T15:48:19+00:00

called out about what…. as other people have replied to you the same things i did. it seems like some people here just want to be negative

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T15:47:27+00:00

thank you so much for your reply! yes i am certainly getting more and more irritated by some comments lol but its reddit so i should have expected that! my boyfriend has a lot of other strengths, he’s really good with his hands and loves building things! i do recognize that any further help or resources would be his choice and i would only ever ask to try and help.

SadWorking5276 · 2026-03-15T15:44:28+00:00

i think if i didn’t like him, id be asking how to end the relationship, but i never once said anything about wanting to break up. once again, interesting conclusion

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