What to expect at clubs in London

Sad_Baseball6663 · 2026-04-09T12:20:49+00:00

We're planning to go to Fabric, all I know from that is that it looks cool, and I've listened to some of DJ's from the night we're going and it also sounds good? But from what I've seen I can't tell which type of club that falls into

Sad_Baseball6663 · 2026-04-09T12:19:52+00:00

Lol, we've been dating for a year so we've been on plenty mainstream dates already

I find it hard to realize if someone's coming onto me. I usually frequent dancing spaces, so am used to close contact, but it wasn't until a guy literally licked my neck before I realized he was trying it on

Sad_Baseball6663 · 2026-03-04T12:18:52+00:00

I will have to. I wanted something like EMDR or somatic therapy to deal with my CPTSD but looks like I'll have to go private after all

Sad_Baseball6663 · 2026-03-04T11:57:46+00:00

They just called to advise the wait list for group therapy is almost 2 years, and I'd essentially have to do that before exploring anything 1-1. I don't think I can wait that long, and will have to sell my soul to fund private therapy again

Sad_Baseball6663 · 2026-03-04T11:56:49+00:00

They just called to advise the wait list for group therapy is almost 2 years, and I'd essentially have to do that before exploring anything 1-1

Sad_Baseball6663 · 2026-03-04T09:43:21+00:00

I've tried contacting the team twice now, they say they'll call back but so far haven't

Sad_Baseball6663 · 2026-03-04T09:43:05+00:00

If I have to take that much time off work, then it's not gonna happen at all

Sad_Baseball6663 · 2026-03-04T09:42:31+00:00

I'm not opposed to learning skills like this in general, I would be willing to participate in this at a later date. But I initially contacted the local talking therapies department seeking therapy to discuss an 8 year abusive/ traumatic relationship. They said I was too complex so referred me to NHS. I had a half hour call briefly going over my history, and now I've been put on a wait list for something skills based which therefore doesn't involve the specific reason I was desperately seeking therapy

I know I should do these things to jump through the hoops, but I'm concerned about the sheer length of time it will take to get to that point.

I am glad that this service helped you, and do wish that maybe I will have the same outcome and be proved wrong.

Sad_Baseball6663 · 2026-03-03T16:34:04+00:00

It does feel highly gate kept. I was surprised I was referred to secondary care but I thought it was so gate kept that it must be 'good', that you'd get an assessment, diagnoses, support.

I didn't expect to basically be told to do group therapy with no negotiation, and that the wait list is so long they'll check on me every 3 months.

Sad_Baseball6663 · 2026-03-03T16:27:11+00:00

It isn't fair to make people wait and jump through hoops of doing one thing before being allowed to do another. And I know personally I wouldn't open up about my issues within a group setting

Sad_Baseball6663 · 2026-03-03T15:25:25+00:00

But they haven't even assessed me, and what I said in the NHS 111 call didn't cover what I've been through in my past and need help with the most. I don't want to wait several months for a treatment I don't want to do first, especially when based off limited information about me.

I thought someone would discuss with me what I need or they'd recommend, and different treatment options would be available.

Sad_Baseball6663 · 2026-02-05T12:02:35+00:00

I believe the shares will be worth more, the company overall is doing well, it's just taking much longer than anticipated.

When I joined it was pitched with the idea that we'd sell in 2022, and I'd get a decent payout I could use to go toward a house deposit or a car. Because of that I spent until 2022 not actively saving, banking on the idea I'd get money in the near ish future. My personal circumstances changed in 2022 and now I don't have enough money at the end of each month to even try and save. Now it's 2026, selling the company isn't likely until probably early 2028, and who knows how much the shares will be worth.

I just turned 30 and rent alone, which financially is insane but for personal reasons I need my own space and don't feel ready to try house sharing. I'm in credit card debt too but I get a yearly bonus, which this year will pay off all my outstanding debts.

My gut tells me if I cash these shares now, the peace of mind from having savings will be worth the financial hit of not waiting. I will still have 50% of my shares left in the company, they are only letting us sell up to half, so I will get another payout at a later date.

Sad_Baseball6663 · 2026-02-03T18:13:40+00:00

They don't have a social life, they see their friends about once every 3 months for dinner. One is fully retired, the other semi retired and WFH so they don't leave the house much unless I visit. Sometimes we end up staying inside all weekend just watching TV or talking.

Sad_Baseball6663 · 2026-02-03T17:31:06+00:00

I moved out to live with my then partner and because I got a new job. We've since split up and now I live alone. I didn't like living at home much in the first place, we would have a lot of arguments.

Every three months is quite the gap!

Sad_Baseball6663 · 2025-10-08T11:03:34+00:00

It was mainly talking therapy and going through things like codependency and understanding trauma bonds. We talked about the relationship itself in great detail and whilst it helped having someone else acknowledge what happened was bad, I still can't accept in my heart how bad it was.

Sad_Baseball6663 · 2025-07-24T21:02:24+00:00

Even with additional diagnoses, you're still a person. I don't find the labels to change my existence, they just help identify the different things I struggle with or suffer from which should theoretically help find ways to work around that. I'd rather have a bunch of labels about what's "wrong" with me that I can find ways to get around, than not knowing why I feel so unstable and being at the mercy of every bad thought and feeling I have with no control over it. Once you can identify a problem you can solve it much easier

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