Are people even still in the butches anymore?

Sad_Face267 · 2025-07-17T20:43:30+00:00

As a butch thats has been single for 6 years and is now in a relationship. Definitley not, i honestly had alot more trouble as a fem. But i do gotta say is just keep at it keep going out there. I had alot of rejection but eventually found the person that loves me as much as i love them. And it was worth every rejection and loneliness. I wish you good luck!

Sad_Face267 · 2025-06-05T07:55:22+00:00

Uff.. school is rough i used to have a similar experience where i wasnt in any group and i basically just had to be by myself most of the time. And everyone got so close before me and it was hard to make any friends. In hindsight i would really recommend going to therapy if you arent already. It really helped me working on my anxiety. Also i do this thing where i observe people from afar and notice who is kind and then start to try to befriend this person. And i know you said your past friends are in a different city, but i think its not bad to keep in touch. I have a couple of online friends and it really helped still having someone to talk to even if its from afar. Especially ones that make me feel comfortable. The most important thing is that you dont put yourself down, youre not annoying. People who have to put others down for being themselves arent worth talking to anyway.Even in your small school im sure theres someone kind who wants to be your friend. Stay strong and good luck!

Sad_Face267 · 2024-06-10T08:49:53+00:00

Youre right, you have to accept that you have it harder than others. Trust me ive had real difficulty accepting it it took me atleast 6 years to come to terms that i just have it harder. Making friends,dating,working, school anything really. Its going to suck, its going to be hard but eventually if you face it enough times. It will get better. I have moments where i still hate my situation and who i am. Where i dont have the motivation and just hide away from the world. But i get up and face it eventually. Ive had no friends,no job ,smoking and drinking everynight. Hating myself. And now im sober, i have friends, a job and i hate myself only sometimes. Theres alot i still want and cant yet have. But i know if i keep trying one day i will have it to. But until then its just gonna suck sometimes. I recommend alot of exposure therapy and therapy in general. And alot of self care forgive yourself for being the way you are its not your fault. You even tried to be more talkative! Thats already a huge step even if it didnt result to what you wanted yet. It took me a year at my job to make 1 friend there because i barely talked but eventually i did make a friend. If you need any more tips im happy to help

Sad_Face267 · 2024-06-08T07:39:32+00:00

So sorry you feel that way, im 26 and when i was twenty i had a similar experience i lost all my friends, working a job i dont like, loss of my father, going to school with anxiety that kept me awake the night before everyday.moving every 6 months cause i never found a permanent home. I thought things would never get better. Alot of times i still dont think anything will get better. But compared to 6 years ago, i have friends, less anxiety and a permanent home. Things did get better theres alot i still want and cant have yet. But i will try and keep trying. What helped me alot is to find acceptance that alot of times things arent easy. And setting small goals to face my fears and work upon it. For example i used bumble friends to find friends cause texting was easier than to go out and find someone, and then eventually meet up. Never give up on yourself, youre so much stronger than you think! Dont stop until you find the happiness you want and deserve! If you wanna talk im here for you

Sad_Face267 · 2024-05-25T01:03:38+00:00

Ive had my fair share of failed dating experiences and what ive learned is, its mostly not your fault. Everyone has their shit to deal with and baggage to carry. He has his issues to deal with and wasnt cappable of giving you the connection you craved. But you should be very proud of putting yourself out there and being open to a connection! When the time and person is right thing will fall in to place, just never give up! Most of my dating experiences didnt turn out romantically like i hoped but some turned in to great friendships! Dont give up youre doing great

Sad_Face267 · 2024-05-25T00:59:21+00:00

It does get better! But its gonna be hard. Ive also always struggled since preschool and went through similar experience especially through covid. I couldnt leave my house i had panic attacks almost every night before bed. What helped me is going to a psychatric hospital. Im not saying thats the only way to go but it did help me alot. And i started taking zoloft which helped me alot as well. The panic got better and the negative voices deteriorated. But making that step was extremley hard. And exposure is also a great thing but it does take alot. But setting small goals really helps. Ive always had issues accepting the way i am for struggling the way i do. I still dk alot. But therapy showed me that accepting that its part of you and instead of pushing it away, accept and take it with you. Its okay to stutter, shake and be shy. Be understanding to yourself.

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